Anal Sex

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  1. Symphonic

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    I need tips, and also, how much do you prefer to take in the ass? I know it changes from person to person, but I assume that what you take in the vagina, or what you'd prefer, is probably too large for your small winking brown eye.

    Perversion aside, I really do need to know because I want to try it but while not overly thick I don't want to cause any real pain you know? I don't think that hole can take as much; the current dialiation that's comfortable is only 3 inches in circumference you know.
     
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    with enough poppers and lube anything is possible!
     
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    Bite the bullet and go by yourself a butt plug starter kit. The kits usually include three sizes both in length and diameter. Use a good amount of lube. Take your time. When you think you're ready for a real penis engorged with blood, I would recommend you find someone you find attractive and who does not sport an enormous tool. Too much too soon can be a bad thing. Maybe some guy with an honest six-inch dick? While it's true guy's with smaller dicks have a harder time keeping themselves inside asses and vaginas, they also don't rip the Hell out of you.

    As for anal sex being a perversion, I often wonder how much of a perversion it really is considering the number of heterosexual men and women who indulge being on the receiving end. Add to that number how many gay men are bottoms and it seems to me what some consider a perversion is, historically, quite normal.

    WARNING WILL ROBINSON: Yes, you might experience some minor pain your first couple of times out the gate. But if the pain does not subside, your partner is doing something wrong, as in: they don't know how to fuck. It should be pleasurable. And under the very worst circumstances it should just be mildly uncomfortable.
     
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    I'm 10.5" hard and 7.5" thick, with lube my B/F can take it all.
     
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    Good for you. But if you were 23 and never had anal sex before, do you think you could take it up the ass for the first time with a penis the size of your's? :smile:
     
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    So we're to understand you've grown 2 full inches in the last twelve months?
     
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    Agree with midlife bear. Invest in a butt plug or small dildo. Let her/him get used to it for a while. When you want to try the real thing, my suggestion is to 1) use a condom. It protects you and your lover from possible bacterial infections stemming from any fecal matter present in the anal cavities. Makes clean up easy too. 2) Make sure they're sufficiently aroused. It helps with relaxation. 3) Have gallons of lube handy. 4) Go slowly. Very slowly. 5) When in doubt, see #4.
     
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    LOL ;-)
     
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    Lubing is one thing - whether you really want something up your behind is a completely different issue. If your GF is not ready in her mind, you can probably use a gallon of lube and still have no luck.
     
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    Good lube is definitely essential. I've found the type can make a lot of difference - my BF only really likes KY and said other types don't provide enough lubrication to be comfortable. Having said that we've only tried a limited number including liquid silk and some non-water based ones.

    By all means use a condom if you're practicing safer-sex otherwise, obviously, but if you're comfortable not using one for vaginal sex I don't think using one for anal has that much point.

    Best way to start seems to be to lie on your back and have her lower herself onto your dick, that way she can control how slow and how deep to take it.
     
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    Lube, patience, and a lot of love. Okay then!
     
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    I do like anal, not more than in the vag, but with my body it feels good.

    I prefer relaxing/preparing my ass by having lubed fingers rubbed on, over, around my ahole to butt plugs. I like the first feeling of penetration to be with the cock. But (no pun) yeah, lube, a good thick one, is essential. Durex used to have a great, thick aloe lube that is now discontinued. I like liquid silk now because it is on the creamy side, and use enough to where it seems like too much.

    Best tip ever - tell them to push out as you push in. And don't start moving immediately, allow them to get used to feeling you inside before making (small) movements initially. Or have them move and you stay still. Later it loosens up and kegels work well at this time... and I love it spooning the first time so the guy isn't ramming it in my heiny... until I ask for that. :)
     
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    Take it slow. Breathe. Relax. And, Lube it up. It gets better with practice.

    Like Cole Porter says:


    Before we leave these portals
    to meet our paramortals,
    there's just one final massage I would give to you.

    We all have learned reliance
    on the sacred teachings of science,
    so I hope through life you never will become,
    in spite of philistines, defiant,
    to do what all good scientists do.

    Experiment.
    Make it your motto day and night.
    Experiment.
    And it will lead you to the light.


    The apple from the top of the tree
    is never too high to achieve.
    So take an example from me.
    Experiment.
     
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    And baby, if you're the bottom I'm the top (to paraphrase). LOL!:biggrin1:
     
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    I don't know any straight women who have ever done poppers. I think that maight be just a gay or club kid thing.


    So true!

    Well then you better keep him, cause I don't want anything that big in my ass. :eek:


    Heck I'm 41 and have had anal sex before and don't think I could take it!


    That is so true! I really don't get why so many 100% straight men are obsessed with getting in their girlfriends ass. :confused: I have watched a fair bit of hetero porn and you almost never see a woman in porn enjoying anal sex with a big dick. They always look and sound as if they are in pain.:frown1:


     
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    You know what I don't get. My friend has done anal with about 3 girls. The anal hole doesn't have its own lubricant but he says whenever he tries it the girls ass is wet. Why is that?
     
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    vaginal secretions drip down to the ass...
     
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    ChockoKittie is definitely right. I usually finger the ass when I'm inside the vagina and it's always very lubed from vaginal juices...
     
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    lots of lube:smile:
     
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