Anal- taking my first big cock

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  1. scottx

    scottx New Member

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    Hello,

    I'm an 18 year old male and and older guy that I have been meeting for a while wants to fuck me when we meet tomorrow. But he's about 9 inches and I have only ever been bottom once before. I really want him to do it, but I'm a bit scared :/

    Anyone got any tips or advice?

    Thanks,
    Scott
     
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    You're probably getting in over your head. What do you want, not what does he want? The idea that sex is about anal penetration is ridiculous. Anal penetration is domination, not sex. Somewhere the message got mixed up. There are hundreds of other activities which don't carry any of the risks.
    If you do proceed because you disbelieve that there is any alternative, be sure to do so at your own slow pace, with lots of re-lubrication. In fact, if you control the situation by being on top of him, you'll be able to manage a lot better. No one says you have to keep doing it if you don't like it, or that you need to accept his version of what he thinks he's going to do with you.
     
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    To some people, regardless of the position, they enjoy and identify sex with some form of penetration. Who are you to define what sex should be for others? The original poster didn't ask you to define the roles. But, the poster may enjoy being in a submissive role. And, if penetration is being dominated and both parties enjoy what they are doing... that's their choice.

    While to some anal penetration could be about domination, it is not common. It is a stereo type - that tops are alpha and bottoms are submissive. That's like saying vaginal sex is about male domination of the female.
     
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    Scott Tx,

    I would say a lot of lube and take it slow, take it in a little at a time until you feel that you have gone far enough to satisfy your self.
     
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    First of all, there is nothing wrong with giving it up to big dick, if there is a real relationship attached to it, all the better, but even without that, getting fucked and can hot and fun, so enjoy it.

    My advice is to get clean ahead of time (lots of advice on here about how to do that) and then take it slow and use lots of lube. Make sure you can say stop, and if you need to stop you can always try again another time!
     
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    Lots of lube and even more patience. I have been takng it up the arse for 25 years now and love the big boys. Have fun and dont forget the condoms.
     
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    I agree with most everyone here (except for Nargauzius, obviously). But i'm rather disturbed that it took till post #6 for someone to mention condoms. That should be your first thought, always and every time.

    Yes to lube, and lots of it. Patience and relaxation. YOU are in charge, you get to set the pace. If your partner does not agree to that, then he is not the right man to be guiding you through this experience. If he pushes you further than you're ready for at any point, then you put the breaks on right that second and nothing proceeds up anywhere until he agrees to your conditions.

    Assuming that all of that is in place, then relax and go for it. It can be a transcendent experience if done properly, but it does require a partner who is tune with your needs as much as you are with his.
     
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    i would suggest not to be on top.. just because (for me) when i do this, it tends to make me tense up. if the top is experienced, i would suggest be on your back then he can see if you are ready for more or not.
     
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    Being on top during anal rarely works for me either, especially during initial penetration (although there have been a few wonderful times when it did work). I find doggy to be the most comfortable position for initial penetration.
     
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    First off ....if you enjoy being a bottom, you have nothing to fear. Just enjoy your time with your guy. Take things as they come along. The best part of having sex is not knowing what will happen. If your guy want to fuck, then he should also be listening to you as well. Just enjoy it, worrying will make you all tense. There is no fun in that..right?
    If you decide you want to TRY it, make sure he wears a condom. You be in control. Best way for that to happen is for you get on top.
    have fun.
     
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    I have no experience myself ( hope to someday) but I wonder if it would be better to work up to that size gradually with increasingly larger dildos.
     
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    Lots of lube.. poppers and RELAX.... if he is a good top, he will feel when you are ready to go deeper.... just enjoy it... I do
     
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    only, because you asked: don't do it:frown1:
     
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    I have been a bottom my whole life and for me anal penetration was, and is, NEVER about domination. I think this is a very strange viewpoint on m2m interactions. I enjoy being penetrated, but being dominated is very far outside my experience. In fact, if I meet a top that plays that game, he goes elsewhere. YUCK! I consider him a twisted , sad man.
     
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    My first time was with a guy with 9" and he was a pro...he took his time, talked me thru it, used his fingers (well lubed) to open me up "gently" and increased the number of fingers until I truly relaxed to open up.....then slowly inserted his well lubed cock (I used an injector to squirt some lube inside of me prior to his penis insertion), and as he increased the depth of his penetration, and as I winced a few times he would stop, and keep telling me to relax, and then "slowly" proceed again until he had the whole 9" inside me.

    He then just stopped, letting me adjust to the huge cock for a while and began to take slow, full strokes, and then after a few minutes of total, in and out penetration, picked up the pace until he was all out fucking me....and by then it did not hurt. He continued to take longer strokes, varied the pace, and the depth of penetration, and after a while, I asked him to cum in my mouth, which he happily did.

    As far as a guy just shoving it in all the way with a huge cock, if you ever get to the point where you can just "take it" without the slower, gentle process of fucking anally, then your asshole could be a tunnel and maybe you need to charge a toll for passage.....in other words, don't start sticking huge objects up your ass to make it like a garage door........a tight ass is like a tight pussy...you want it to start out that way, but after some stroking, it'll loosen up as you relax and get used to that "big" thing in your ass.

    Lube, patience, and get yourself dog style on the bed, ass up, and be on your elbows as that opens you up and relaxes you at the same time....as explained to me by my urologist (and it worked because I couldn't even take his finger for a rectal exam) and a partner who appreciates your lack of prior experience...and actually will "respect" that perspective....and have fun.....because you will, or you kinda will, or you won't...but it'll be the right way, and somewhat on your terms and understanding.....and you'll either continue on with anal sex, or you won't....but at least you won't or shouldn't have permenant damage to your body.

    Good luck!
     
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    This is also quite a strange viewpoint. :) Just because someone enjoys to dominant I don't see how they're a "twisted, sad man".
     
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    Scottx - my $0.02 - I agree in summary with what the others have said:

    -Hopefully you have discussed your relative inexperience and concerns with your top friend.
    -You sound excited, if anxious, to try this - so that's good...but definitely don't do it if you really don't want to.
    -Hopefully your friend is willing to take his time and be careful with you. I have always said to bottoms, "This is about making you feel good, so tell me if you want me to stop or if it hurts." To me sex is about both people - if my partner is not having a good time, neither am I.
    -Lots of lube, whichever type you and your friend both like best.
    -Condom strongly recommended!!
    -Be very communicative with your friend. Even though I personally am not a huge fan of being a bottom, I have bottomed a few times, and for big cocks a few times. It was great fun and incredibly hot, but only because the tops listened to me and went slow.
    -For position, well, you'll have to try some probably and see what works best. For me, on my back with legs up has always been much easier than any other for bottoming.
    -Someone recommended poppers...not so sure about that one, for me they never did anything except make me sweaty and anxious.
    -Don't pay much attention to the undercurrent here of "is anal sex the only way to go? does it mean you are being dominated?" The only question is, Do you want to do this? If yes, then do, if no, then don't.

    Summary: Lube, time, relax, listen, lube, condom, communicate, lube.

    Enjoy it and let us know how it goes!
     
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    You criticise someone else's sweeping statements then you say that people who enjoy being a dominant top are sad and twisted?
     
  19. D_Seymour_Dix

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    Like some of the others, my advice (for that it's worth) would be to decide what YOU want. If you want to bottom for him, balls deep then lots of lube and take it slow - enjoy the moment. But again, as others have pointed out. Don't rush into what he wants be sure of what you want the next steps to be.
     
  20. fnaslut

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    being rimmed first and gently fingered also helps. use lots of lube. condom a must. relax and enjoy...and make sure he listens to you when you tell him to slow down or stop.