Don’t neglect the psychological component of anal sex, which I would argue is more important than the physical. I recommend articulating what you want out loud while looking in a mirror. It sounds cheesy, but I find if I say, “I want a cock up my ass” out loud, it’s easier to take it.
This is something i didnt try before actually, its mind dominating the body.
I feel you about the distracted feeling. I forget that this is apparently supposed to be pleasurable but the process of inserting and relaxing kinda ruins the moment.
Here's a post i made somewhere else about it.https://www.lpsg.com/threads/does-anyone-identify-as-hsp.6364991/
Mmmm interesting. When i am with someone and they touch me i always jump or feel tickles when they touch any part of me and they get really unconfortable of me over reacting. Its really difficult to let things "flow" with all those sensations around.
It takes a mountain of wanting to, to bottom. First, your anus has to be trained and that takes time. Get a toy and slowly break in your hole. Learn that being clean is one of the top priorities. When it hurts expect it and wait until you're ready to try again. Also, find a top that is not selfish and will shove it in you no matter how it feels for you. Realize your anal sphincter will stretch mightily and it will not hurt you. Men take fists in the ass and believe me your hole will stretch and train, it just takes time. Always lube yourself well internally and externally and get your top to grease his pole to a fair you well. The first time I tried I thought the guy was trying to rip me a new hole. Last night I took 6.5 inches of girth and couldn't get enough.
Patience is most important in training to be a bottom. Poppers does wonders too, it relaxes the sphincter muscle of your asshole.
The top part is the most difficult tough...find a partner is already challenguing but one interested on find the other guys pleasure its very difficult. Most men i talk to they just want to insert on me in one go fuck me like a machine gun. Is not like i dont want too but i fear damage my ass in the procces. I also felt the "triying to rip me a new hole" before...
THIS!!
Whike I’ve not been with a man, yet…. I personally think the entire atmosphere of the man behind me. Holding me. Pulling me. Talking to me. Feeling all of the parts touching would make it easier for me and make me relax more.
That actually sounds pretty good. I sometimes think it would be easy with a man instead of a toy for the same reason of feeling more thna just the anal part but like i said, its pretty challenging find a partner that spark such desire.
Ok in the last weeks i been using the plugs succesfully tough the big one is still too much for me to take but i may give a next step and find myself a good dildo. I also been thinking of lube with anestesic, somoe use that before? It could work?
