Naughty, now I'm blushing! My daughter and I do have a terrific relationship, despite our open communication all our lives (had first sex talk at age 5) she was still horrified to tell me she was bisexual. I had made a comment somewhere in the past where I had said I thought bisexuals were just "goody pigs". I'm sure I meant to be funny at the time, but she had remembered it for years and that one hapless comment had caused her a lot of stress. I felt awful that she'd had to go through such difficulty alone when I would have gladly embraced whatever lifestyle she chose at any time. Anyway, I try very hard to choose my words carefully and to use them for building up of others, not tearing down.
Ecchi, even being interested in your partner's pleasure is a sign of a mature lover. I have been dating (?) here recently and am constantly amazed at how many men in this day and age look at sex from their perspective only, i.e. the old "when I'M done , WE'RE done" attitude. It is a true delight to find a partner who wants to commnuticate and satisfy me as well as himself, so bravo for being "above average" in that area as well.