I have been riding an Aneros for several years, the regular Helix and the Progasm. I spent a lot of time reading the Forum at their website, which is very important. I soon realized that the Aneros experience is a journey, not an event, and that less becomes more. The journey is taking out personal time to experience, and realize that every time you use the device the experience becomes enhanced, and your understanding of pleasure deepens. Waking up nerves and feeling pleasure, time causes those nerves to become sensitive and every use becomes better. Once the nerves become more sensitive, I have been able to slow down and move to a higher level of pleasure. I start with porn, relaxing and slowing down, feeling the pleasure of slowly contracting and releasing the PC muscle, slowly breathing, breathing and slowly contracting starts to become waves of pleasure. Start there, slow and gentle Kegel contractions as you breathe in and let the contraction go as you breathe out.... now after several years just sitting and contracting nice slow contractions and deep breaths, my prostrate will start to pulse and pleasure is more intense. After a while I lube up and head to bed, slowly sliding in the device, letting the muscles feel and adapt to it's insertion... just breathing deep and letting go.... With time you will slide the device in and the muscles will contract around it and the pleasure will begin, start there and over time you will totally change the way you experience and view orgasm. This experience has made my hole real hungry, wanting to bottom every time. The side benefit is when jacking off after the start of rewiring, my orgasms have become many times more intense and are becoming more of a full body feeling. The device wants more now, wanting me to ride several times a day, when I have the time, giving me multiple orgasms, each with greater intensity. Good luck and enjoy the ride.