Hi there,
first of all cheers for bearing with me and reading this through.
I am a gay guy, nearing 30. When I was 14/15 years old I was very good friends with a guy who was a year or two older than myself.
We maintained a close friendship at the time, even though unbeknownst to him I was completely besotted with him. I really cared about him, more than just being his friend.
But nothing came of it as I always assumed he was straight, although the subject of sexuality never came up. I was never secrative about my sexuality around him, he knew I was gay. It was just never an issue or point of discussion.
In recent years I have had sporadic contact with him, last of my knowledge he had a girlfriend.
Very recently we got back in touch via a popular social media website, only for me to find out he is now openly gay.
After a little discussion I asked if he wanted to meet up to catch up and reminisce, as friends.
I did make the mistake of admitting, in jest, that I used to really like him.
Upon reflecting I do actually still carry a flame for him, as he was my first real crush. And I would really like to meet up with him and see where it goes.
He did say he is currently seeing someone, so I merely said we should meet up as friends. As I don't have many..or well any gay friends.
This was a few days ago and he has not responded to this even though he has posted other things on said website since, and it does say he has read the message.
I am unsure what to do from here.
Do I message him again, leave it for a while and try again in a few weeks?
Or just leave it to him to contact me?
Please advise further....if I have missed anything or you want to ask please go ahead
first of all cheers for bearing with me and reading this through.
I am a gay guy, nearing 30. When I was 14/15 years old I was very good friends with a guy who was a year or two older than myself.
We maintained a close friendship at the time, even though unbeknownst to him I was completely besotted with him. I really cared about him, more than just being his friend.
But nothing came of it as I always assumed he was straight, although the subject of sexuality never came up. I was never secrative about my sexuality around him, he knew I was gay. It was just never an issue or point of discussion.
In recent years I have had sporadic contact with him, last of my knowledge he had a girlfriend.
Very recently we got back in touch via a popular social media website, only for me to find out he is now openly gay.
After a little discussion I asked if he wanted to meet up to catch up and reminisce, as friends.
I did make the mistake of admitting, in jest, that I used to really like him.
Upon reflecting I do actually still carry a flame for him, as he was my first real crush. And I would really like to meet up with him and see where it goes.
He did say he is currently seeing someone, so I merely said we should meet up as friends. As I don't have many..or well any gay friends.
This was a few days ago and he has not responded to this even though he has posted other things on said website since, and it does say he has read the message.
I am unsure what to do from here.
Do I message him again, leave it for a while and try again in a few weeks?
Or just leave it to him to contact me?
Please advise further....if I have missed anything or you want to ask please go ahead