You’re actually a very lucky guy! Most guys would love to have a hung partner like yours (I know I do!). Just, enough good lube, take it easy, relax, and don’t rush it. I for one would love to see your partner’s huge dick please?
Not sure if this has be mentioned but the top should be lying on his back so you control how fast things progress.
I always lose an erection being fucked, in fact I shrivel up some.
Bottoming is also mental. If you go into with any apprehension, it will reflect effect the experience. My fiance is larger than normal (7x6 is normal, but he can swell to about 6.5 around), and he never really had good experiences with bottoms until me. I only bottom when I am mentally prepared. You have to want it and want it bad. I have noticed that if I am only kinda up for bottoming, it takes a bit of time to get fully relaxed and enjoy it. But if I want it badly, he literally just slides right in.
If its been a while, we have to take it slow. Rimming, and fingering to start. (Make sure he trims his nails)
Now, the biggest thing is this, if you are not an experience bottom, then the top MUST know. You must walk them through YOUR body. If he has any curve to his member you may need to find the right position. My man has an upward curve when fully hard so I can only take him on my back, or ride him. I took us a bit of time to figure out the best positions for the both of us.
He will bottom for me once in a while. I am average, but he always tends to dread initial penetration. That has an effect because his mind is in two places and it takes him longer to adjust. The couple times that he was in the mood, there was little to no adjustment time.
Toys help. If its been a while, I will break out a couple plugs just to make sure I am loose.
If you have worries about being clean, I recommend starting to take daily fiber supplements. Just enough daily to maintain being regular.
The biggest thing though is communication. Your man must understand that it is your body and he needs to make sure he is taking care of you first and foremost. If he wants to be rough, you must work up to that. If you start of rough at the start, its never going to be enjoyable to you.
If you invest in toys, get one similar to his size, and one around average (6x5). Never start off trying to take something you cant handle. Do not force it. Your ass is a muscle, muscles need to be stretched. But they need to be stretched slowly, to prevent damage. If it starts to hurt, stop, let your body adjust. If it hurts to much, full stop, and let your body relax, then start again. I promise you that starting slow is the best.
My key points here are: Communication, Practice, and Mental Desire.
P.S. My dick doesn't stay hard when bottoming. But that doesn't mean I do not enjoy it.
Remember that not all experiences are universal, what works for me, may not work 100% for you. Its up to you and your partner to work together to find what is best for both of you.
Sounds like you need to give him some training. Slow down, relax, and even though you're the bottom, you should be in charge of what's happening and when. He needs to understand that. You can't just ram it in and start banging. For most men, that feels horrible. Get him to finger you... slowly, with lots of lube. When you're ready, put him on his back, tell him not to move, then slowly sit down on him. Your body will tell you how fast and how deep to take it. When you're as deep as you want to be, then give yourself time to relax and get used to the feeling. Move a little to keep him stimulated, and when you're ready, you either start to ride him.... slowly, until you can take it faster, or you let him roll you onto your back. Just remember that you set the pace. Communicate! It's it's too fast, or too deep, tell him. Remember that sometimes it's just not going to happen. You might be tense, or something prevents you from relaxing enough, and it's not going to be comfortable, or even feel good. If that's the case, be honest about it, and do something else to satisfy each other.
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The most important thing in life is communication.... That also applies to sex. You need to tell him what feels good and what does not, other wise how is he going to know. Fucking should be pleasurable, no matter what being used on you. Yes, it might feel awkward and uncomfortable in the beginning. You both have to enjoy the moment without any pressure of the actual act itself.
