A situation has recently arisen that has me contemplating how does one avoid such situations This has to do with a now ex friend, G. G and I were friends, or so I thought for a couple of years. I broke off the relationship in 2007 due to three issues. 1. The biggest one is that she stiffed me over a concert ticket. Despite having agreed to go with me and knowing that I had already bought the ticket, she later told me that since she was spending so much money on going out she decided not to go with me after all. So I stuck not only with two concert tickets and no companion but also the cost GBP90 in total. 2. Just the year before she and I spent a week in the south of France. This occurred because she originally planned to go with another woman but that person, while having backed out of the trip did pay her portion of the accomodations. So I agreed to go. The day we were due to leave the owner arranged to come at noon to check us out. After I had cleaned my part of the cottage, I sat down around 11:50 to have lunch, that is to eat the leftovers that we had already paid. I offered some to G who then got in my face, so to speak and like a child in grade school said "I'm not going to eat because I'm going to be ready for when the owner comes." The irony here is that owner was 20 minutes late himself and I don't recall her telling him off for his tardiness. 3. The third reason that I put this relationship to rest is that after several months of getting "I really busy, can I call you back in a couple of weeks" I had to come to terms with the fact that this relationship isn't working for me. The reason why I am thinking about it now is that we have friends in common. I saw something that I thought may have been of interest to her so I e-mailed it to a friend in common. I guess we all have an urge to help sometimes. So the friend in common e-mailed me back suggesting that I get in tocuh with , "reach out to her" as things aren't going well for her. That unnerved me a bit for the reasons above (that I ended the friendship) but then I thought maybe the friend in common thought that I wanted to restart the friendship. I'm troubled for two reasons: 1. I have trouble believing that someone can bale on anyone like the above without having serious (underlying) contempt for someone. It's really hard for me to believe that anyone could have a good reason for doing so. 2. That incident in the cottage was rude as well and suggests to me that she saw me as less than a friend and more as some "hired hand" Do any of you have ways of avoiding such scnearios?