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My club gym can be kind of "playful" (i'll leave it at that) and what i've learned is that it takes a while to get to know the guys who come around my regular workout times... and then you build skills to read the regulars (and a stranger in the midst) and know what behavior is desired of them.
There is no rush- neither of you is going anywere, so take it SLOW.
At any gym, some guys are old, wrinked, or overweight and unfortunately they really enjoy being fully naked in the heat (sauna/steam) and don't see it as rude to remain uncovered around others (Jerry Seinfeld's definition of "bad naked".) If those naked guys come in to my area and I don't wish to stay, I just wait a minute, and get up and leave- but I try not to make that person feel discounted because I don't feel comfortable by their nudity- even if it's a bit creepy.
Some dudes are pure muscle heads or dense as a post, and they truely don't understand that by sitting a certain way they may appear to be advertising a big tool- covered or not- and so depending on the others around me (and my own mood) I will either stay and appreciate a fellow man's body, or I will wait to watch and see if others are getting turned on by his display. That also reveals other guys' intentions.
Some guys crave the attention- and they sit bareassed naked in the steam room directly across from you, and stare right at you- watching to see if you check them out. If you do, then they will go for a "balls scratch/ readjust" and then they expect you to do the same. At some point, it's all too Larry Craig-ish for me.
In these situations, I used to get really pissed because I don't sit in the steam room as a hostage to someone else's exhibitionism. If some guy is enjoying having another guy look at him, and his monster is bobbing a bit in his lap as a result- then that's HIS issue, and not mine. Either I choose to get up and leave, or I will stay and not make too much eye contact with him- his behavior choice is his own. The point is that I don't get frustrated if I am being "cruised" in that manner- even if the guy is just heinous. He gets a chance to practice his cruising skills, I close my eyes and enjoy the steam.
There are a few other special times where a few guys who know each other will all be in the same place (sauna/ steam room/ showers) at the same time- and we'll just open our towels a bit to each other and allow each of the guys in the room to fully stare at each other and smile, and share some good natured mutual admiration. Some guys will 'fluff up a bit'--- and some guys might not stay within a smart boundary (seeing it as the beginnings of a group circle jerk in a public space- not very smart.) Touching will happen.
Even earlier tonite when I was at the club, a couple buddies who I know (and who trust me) were in the steam room, sitting quite close (close enough for wandering hands to touch each other's bodies at a private moment) but we were not alone- and others came in and sat down, removing their opportunity to do anything in the moment.
They both were looking at each other and smiling, and looking at me sitting across from them and smiling (just sharing the unspoken words of sitting together in a small room covered by just a small white towel.) As both would sweat, they'd lift the edge of their towel up to whipe the sweat, giving a peek to others of a thick pole beneath. If alone, they probably would have done some mutual touching. With time comes trust.
Nothing coming of the moment, we moved to the team shower area (16 man) but again there wasn't any private time for any physical contact between them. But we're all together in a 10x10 room, with 4 shower heads on 4 walls- and nearly all the guys coming in will regularly soap up their junk facing the wall, and then turn to the front to "show the goods" and to peek at what everyone else is packing.
It's normal to see guys "fluffing" as they wash- and you can watch the eyes to see if guys are there to take in the scenery- or if they are focused on rinsing the sweat off before going home. I know a few guys who like the attention, and they will soap up their cock and balls facing inward to the center of the room, using a bit of a 'jerkoff' movement: (again it's fairly common that all the guys will do it facing the wall- hygenic, but it's obvious that the guys want a little bit of a fluff as well not to be underestimated by their fellow shower mates.)
In that situtaion, I've even been in a few stolen moments where in the team showers a few buddies, known to each other, will take advantage of a long hot shower and allow themselves to get to 3/4 hard. Normally they aren't interested in busting a nut (too public a scene where anyone can walk around the corner) however they are just enjoying the bonding moment of a few buddies in the shower together, after a good workout, enjoying a nice chubby and the admiration from other guys that can come with it when given the chance. When all the guys are into it, it can be wholesome at the same time as very erotically charged.
I am just getting to know an actual couple (two guys) that I didn't know were "together..." Both guys are good looking, and handsome. Last time I saw the one guy, he kept talking to me, but he'd look at me, then at my crotch, then back at me, and smile. He showed no shame whatsoever. I guess I could have chosen to find it creepy or rude, but I think he was trying to let me know that he likes looking, and that it's ok for me to look at him and his partner in the same way the next time. Know what? It was flattering- and I was only maybe 25% fluffed up... however if it was a creep I would have probably felt like I was being violated.
So as the previous poster said, your big buddy has chosen to engage you and reach out to him in friendship. He's hung. You like him, and you like what you see. He knows what he has, and apparently doesn't mind you looking. Don't overstep the friendship that he offers- enjoy the scenery, and wait for him to initiate behavior (or conversation) that tells you that he's comfortable with more exploration or touch outside of that venue and his comfort level.
Remember: working out and hanging in the locker room might just be his opportunity for male bonding, and to show off his body in an appropriate manner and venue (naked, to other men in an appropriate place) and so he may not be aware of YOUR honest reactions to his nudity.
If he's not reaching for a towel, or turning away from you, and if his body language remains very open when he's naked around you (standing close, playful jabs, or if he touches/grabs his balls a bunch when in front of you) then he may be looking to read you. Mirroring his actions will let him know how you feel, as will allowing him to see your eyes travel from his shlong to his face, and back. Smile. Let him lead- he probably feels like he has the upper hand (so to speak) anyways- cuz he's bigger:smile:.
Play it cool, be grateful that he's letting you into his private world, and allow him to reveal his desires by his continued actions- he will. Remember you're in a public place. And keep us informed on how it goes!
There is no rush- neither of you is going anywere, so take it SLOW.
At any gym, some guys are old, wrinked, or overweight and unfortunately they really enjoy being fully naked in the heat (sauna/steam) and don't see it as rude to remain uncovered around others (Jerry Seinfeld's definition of "bad naked".) If those naked guys come in to my area and I don't wish to stay, I just wait a minute, and get up and leave- but I try not to make that person feel discounted because I don't feel comfortable by their nudity- even if it's a bit creepy.
Some dudes are pure muscle heads or dense as a post, and they truely don't understand that by sitting a certain way they may appear to be advertising a big tool- covered or not- and so depending on the others around me (and my own mood) I will either stay and appreciate a fellow man's body, or I will wait to watch and see if others are getting turned on by his display. That also reveals other guys' intentions.
Some guys crave the attention- and they sit bareassed naked in the steam room directly across from you, and stare right at you- watching to see if you check them out. If you do, then they will go for a "balls scratch/ readjust" and then they expect you to do the same. At some point, it's all too Larry Craig-ish for me.
In these situations, I used to get really pissed because I don't sit in the steam room as a hostage to someone else's exhibitionism. If some guy is enjoying having another guy look at him, and his monster is bobbing a bit in his lap as a result- then that's HIS issue, and not mine. Either I choose to get up and leave, or I will stay and not make too much eye contact with him- his behavior choice is his own. The point is that I don't get frustrated if I am being "cruised" in that manner- even if the guy is just heinous. He gets a chance to practice his cruising skills, I close my eyes and enjoy the steam.
There are a few other special times where a few guys who know each other will all be in the same place (sauna/ steam room/ showers) at the same time- and we'll just open our towels a bit to each other and allow each of the guys in the room to fully stare at each other and smile, and share some good natured mutual admiration. Some guys will 'fluff up a bit'--- and some guys might not stay within a smart boundary (seeing it as the beginnings of a group circle jerk in a public space- not very smart.) Touching will happen.
Even earlier tonite when I was at the club, a couple buddies who I know (and who trust me) were in the steam room, sitting quite close (close enough for wandering hands to touch each other's bodies at a private moment) but we were not alone- and others came in and sat down, removing their opportunity to do anything in the moment.
They both were looking at each other and smiling, and looking at me sitting across from them and smiling (just sharing the unspoken words of sitting together in a small room covered by just a small white towel.) As both would sweat, they'd lift the edge of their towel up to whipe the sweat, giving a peek to others of a thick pole beneath. If alone, they probably would have done some mutual touching. With time comes trust.
Nothing coming of the moment, we moved to the team shower area (16 man) but again there wasn't any private time for any physical contact between them. But we're all together in a 10x10 room, with 4 shower heads on 4 walls- and nearly all the guys coming in will regularly soap up their junk facing the wall, and then turn to the front to "show the goods" and to peek at what everyone else is packing.
It's normal to see guys "fluffing" as they wash- and you can watch the eyes to see if guys are there to take in the scenery- or if they are focused on rinsing the sweat off before going home. I know a few guys who like the attention, and they will soap up their cock and balls facing inward to the center of the room, using a bit of a 'jerkoff' movement: (again it's fairly common that all the guys will do it facing the wall- hygenic, but it's obvious that the guys want a little bit of a fluff as well not to be underestimated by their fellow shower mates.)
In that situtaion, I've even been in a few stolen moments where in the team showers a few buddies, known to each other, will take advantage of a long hot shower and allow themselves to get to 3/4 hard. Normally they aren't interested in busting a nut (too public a scene where anyone can walk around the corner) however they are just enjoying the bonding moment of a few buddies in the shower together, after a good workout, enjoying a nice chubby and the admiration from other guys that can come with it when given the chance. When all the guys are into it, it can be wholesome at the same time as very erotically charged.
I am just getting to know an actual couple (two guys) that I didn't know were "together..." Both guys are good looking, and handsome. Last time I saw the one guy, he kept talking to me, but he'd look at me, then at my crotch, then back at me, and smile. He showed no shame whatsoever. I guess I could have chosen to find it creepy or rude, but I think he was trying to let me know that he likes looking, and that it's ok for me to look at him and his partner in the same way the next time. Know what? It was flattering- and I was only maybe 25% fluffed up... however if it was a creep I would have probably felt like I was being violated.
So as the previous poster said, your big buddy has chosen to engage you and reach out to him in friendship. He's hung. You like him, and you like what you see. He knows what he has, and apparently doesn't mind you looking. Don't overstep the friendship that he offers- enjoy the scenery, and wait for him to initiate behavior (or conversation) that tells you that he's comfortable with more exploration or touch outside of that venue and his comfort level.
Remember: working out and hanging in the locker room might just be his opportunity for male bonding, and to show off his body in an appropriate manner and venue (naked, to other men in an appropriate place) and so he may not be aware of YOUR honest reactions to his nudity.
If he's not reaching for a towel, or turning away from you, and if his body language remains very open when he's naked around you (standing close, playful jabs, or if he touches/grabs his balls a bunch when in front of you) then he may be looking to read you. Mirroring his actions will let him know how you feel, as will allowing him to see your eyes travel from his shlong to his face, and back. Smile. Let him lead- he probably feels like he has the upper hand (so to speak) anyways- cuz he's bigger:smile:.
Play it cool, be grateful that he's letting you into his private world, and allow him to reveal his desires by his continued actions- he will. Remember you're in a public place. And keep us informed on how it goes!
