Another question for guys who identify as straight

[NoH8]

I suppose I'm a littlegay for being on a site focused on big dicks. I enjoy looking at big and thick dicks in all their variety. I enjoy commenting on guys dicks that I find aesthetically pleasing, and also enjoy getting comments in return. It's a little ego boost every time I logon and someone comments on my dick saying that its big and whatnot. So I return the favor by commenting on theirs. I like having a big dick and talking to other men about it. I just put down 100% so I don't get other guys asking me to jack off on cam for them (LOL)

All in all I identify as straight. The thought of kissing a man or going down on him is as appealing to me as eating dirt.

Fair enough Barely8. After checking out your gallery I understand why you'd get requests to share more. (Hey, barely there or not - it's a great looking tool!) I guess the rating 99% Straight 1% Gay would apply, but I expect even this might produce a lot of unwanted attention.

So I understand your choice of 100% from a practical point of view. However, where does that leave LPSG members who are absolutely 100% straight? I have noticed some of them complaining that people still bug them 'cause they don't believe their rating or they don't believe that someone wouldn't wanna Skype with them.

I don't think there's a solution to this except to have a little icon on each profile such as Ø for no cyber chat/Skype/JO accepted. What do you think?

 

[Pierced1953]

I agree with some here that I do find men attractive, saying I wish i had his looks, bod, cock, big balls, etc. I just can't get past all the hair and the thought of my body touching all that hair, espically the masculine face. It's not opinions that would stop me from persuing my gay side.

 

[barely8]

Fair enough Barely8. After checking out your gallery I understand why you'd get requests to share more. (Hey, barely there or not - it's a great looking tool!) I guess the rating 99% Straight 1% Gay would apply, but I expect even this might produce a lot of unwanted attention.

So I understand your choice of 100% from a practical point of view. However, where does that leave LPSG members who are absolutely 100% straight? I have noticed some of them complaining that people still bug them 'cause they don't believe their rating or they don't believe that someone wouldn't wanna Skype with them.

I don't think there's a solution to this except to have a little icon on each profile such as Ø for no cyber chat/Skype/JO accepted. What do you think?

No matter what you do there is still going to be some gay guy out there that loves hitting on straight men. The crybabies will just have to deal with the unwanted attention lol

 

[At.your.cervix]

I considder my self straight, but moreso I considder myself very sexual. I find sexuality, and human bodies, always at least "interesting" and frequently arousing. That said, I've never felt a desire to be sexual with another male, outside of childhood mutual masturbation sessions, which were far more curiosity and self pleasure based than on any sort of real sexual attraction. The closest I ever came to having sexual feelings for another adult male was I once had a college room mate whose soft cock came close to his knees (honest!), which did generate a passing thought, but that's about it.

Good looking guys don't do much for me one way or another, although like most males, I've been comparing dicks since childhood, and find some pleasure in the process. I've noticed that for porn to turn me on, one of the aspects seems to be that the guy has to have a cock at least as big as mine, but I attribute that probably more to (unfortunate) narcissisim, rather than to any sort of longings for male flesh. When I see or read erotica about two men expressing love physically towards each other, it doesn't arouse me, per se, but I can pleasurre in two people in the act of expressing love towards one another. I have the exact same feelings about lesbian erotica.

As per the concept of close bonding and feelings of affection towards other males, I experience this all of the time, and frequently express it outwardly; but I do the same with my many female friends as well. And I'm always comforted when I see any expressions of caring and love between two human beings, regardless of whatever combination of genetalia is involved.

 

[ColoradoGuy]

Thanks for all the responses so far. I do think that when I use the word attraction I mean it in the widest sense. It's not so much about genital sexuality between guys but more about emotional closeness and warmth. Strangely enough I found this very cool article tonight about straight guys kissing each other. It's not exactly about attraction as we're talking about it here but it is really interesting to me and has relevance to this thread.

Straight men kissing more | Education | The Guardian

Very interesting article, Hung Jon. I think it's germane how the article starts by presenting these two guys who show this professor a "game". Isn't this a modern variation on 'Spin the Bottle' or 'Truth or Dare'? I think the reality is that a lot of men may be interested in experiencing a kiss or a non-sexual touch, but find themselves boxed in by societal mores and internalized 'rules'. But, having a game to play allows guys to fracture that rigidity and play outside the establish boundaries.

At my mid-western university fraternity house, it was a 'game' to see who could put their flaccid penis into an empty beer glass and touch the bottom of the glass. In the military, it was a 'game' to see who could stand the farthest away from the urinal in the officers club after a night of chugging beers and still 'make the shot'. There was never any shortage of participants or observers for these games and I'm sure you'd hear similar tales from other guys who have been in other predominantly male environments.

During the Superbowl, my neighbor's wife asked -- fairly innocently -- why [us guys] think nothing of an athlete slapping somebody's ass on a sports field but would make a big deal about it if we saw two guys do that at the mall? It was amusing to watch the ensuing conversation.

Labels are funny old things. Once you get down to reading them, you find all of the variations and interpretations that a single word can have.

Thanks again for posting the article -- very appropriate to the topic.

 

[Gecko4lif]

Everyone else here has already hit it on the head.

There's a difference between appreciating someone's features as attractive and finding yourself attracted to them. I've personally never found my sexuality questioned in anymore than a joking manner if I've commented on a man's features.

I can say Ryan Reynolds and Scarlett Johahnssen are both extremely attractive people. I can't say I'm attracted to both of them. It's more along the lines of "I wish I had RR's looks and build so I could nab a SJ".

See this guy has his head on straight

 

[B_Hung Jon]

Everyone else here has already hit it on the head.

There's a difference between appreciating someone's features as attractive and finding yourself attracted to them. I've personally never found my sexuality questioned in anymore than a joking manner if I've commented on a man's features.

I can say Ryan Reynolds and Scarlett Johahnssen are both extremely attractive people. I can't say I'm attracted to both of them. It's more along the lines of "I wish I had RR's looks and build so I could nab a SJ".

And what if your sexuality were questioned because of such a comment? I guess i don't understand the appreciation of another person's attractiveness and at the same time disinterest in the person. The purpose of this question is to see if straight guys can find another guy attractive. When I say attractive I don't mean the desire to just have sex, but all the other aspects of what we like and feel connected to in another person. So once again, if you are attracted to another guy, is it something that you want to explore at least in the sense of having a friend? Or are guys just off your emotional radar?

 

[Gecko4lif]

So once again, if you are attracted to another guy, is it something that you want to explore at least in the sense of having a friend?

Why the hell would that even occur to a "straight" man? At best your introducing competition in your life. Would you see dwight howard on the street and suggest he join the other team in your neighborhood pickup game? Fuck no!

Or are guys just off your emotional radar?

Unless we agree on something other guys are not people. They are simply obstacles to be avoided when walking.

 

[B_Bjen2848]

my view is this ... since i am 100% straight, i dont get aroused, excited, horny, or whatever you would like to say that means attracted, to other men ... they just don't do it for me (idk why that is such a hard concept for gay/bi men to undderstand) ... but im not completely ignorant as to what is viewed as attractive ... for example, i can tell that someone who looks like dewayne 'the rock' johnson is viewed as "hot" for many straight/bi women and gay/bi men and i can tell that if someone is like 5'5", 500 pounds and is bald is most likely not attractive for straight/bi women and gay/bi guys ... and i think all straight guys have this "guage" where they can tell another man's sex appeal since it helps them in competition for attracting women ...

so just because we can tell what women think is hot and attractive, does not mean we wanna "secretly" jump their bones ... because if we did .. well, than we wouldn't straight (duh)

 

[Gecko4lif]

my view is this ... since i am 100% straight, i dont get aroused, excited, horny, or whatever you would like to say that means attracted, to other men ... they just don't do it for me (idk why that is such a hard concept for gay/bi men to undderstand) ... but im not completely ignorant as to what is viewed as attractive ... for example, i can tell that someone who looks like dewayne 'the rock' johnson is viewed as "hot" for many straight/bi women and gay/bi men and i can tell that if someone is like 5'5", 500 pounds and is bald is most likely not attractive for straight/bi women and gay/bi guys ... and i think all straight guys have this "guage" where they can tell another man's sex appeal since it helps them in competition for attracting women ...

so just because we can tell what women think is hot and attractive, does not mean we wanna "secretly" jump their bones ... because if we did .. well, than we wouldn't straight (duh)

And the bulwark of heterosexuality is held by yet another proud defender

 

[B_Bjen2848]

And the bulwark of heterosexuality is held by yet another proud defender

lol, its as if once you tell someone you're straight on this website everyone wants to call "bullshit" and try and give us scenerios to where we wouldn't be straight

gay/bi dude trying to 'convert me: "what if you were reeaaalllyy drunk, and you were horny because just ate 5 viagra's and you were about to fuck my sister who's a brazilian super model in the ass, and at the last moment me and my sister trade places when your eyes were closed from the blind fold and you fucked me .. would you do that?"

me: uke:"what? ... umm ... isn't that like rape-ish?"

gay/bi dude: "YOU'RE JUST A HOMOPHOBE!!!"

me: :confused22::confused22::confused22::confused22:

i have no problem w/ gay people ... i just don't understand why they feel the need to "test" our straightness, because if the roles were switched, we would get flamed for being homophobic and not understanding

oh well, it is what it is

 

[Gecko4lif]

lol, its as if once you tell someone you're straight on this website everyone wants to call "bullshit" and try and give us scenerios to where we wouldn't be straight

gay/bi dude trying to 'convert me: "what if you were reeaaalllyy drunk, and you were horny because just ate 5 viagra's and you were about to fuck my sister who's a brazilian super model in the ass, and at the last moment me and my sister trade places when your eyes were closed from the blind fold and you fucked me .. would you do that?"

me: uke:"what? ... umm ... isn't that like rape-ish?"

gay/bi dude: "YOU'RE JUST A HOMOPHOBE!!!"

me: :confused22::confused22::confused22::confused22:

i have no problem w/ gay people ... i just don't understand why they feel the need to "test" our straightness, because if the roles were switched, we would get flamed for being homophobic and not understanding

oh well, it is what it is

Thread starter: Straight men can have other guys suck thier dick it is no problem

Me:... But isnt that gay? and by definition he would be at best bi-sexual wouldnt he

Gay guy: FUCKING HOMOPHOBE!

Me: :frown1:

Random "Straight" guy: Yeah I love getting my dick sucked by guys. I prefer it over women in fact. Actually I think I could quit women all together

Me: And that isnt completely gay?

"Straight" guy: What a homophobe

 

[Aplus]

The major roadblock is social stigma and the fact society sucks at pushing things to extremes. For example, I can say, "Yea, that guy looks great, he's attractive" and socially people think "Oh, he wants to have him bent over a bench and be balls-deep" because for some reason, straight guys are held to a higher social standard. It's partially our own fault because the fostering of homophobic ideals that forced once acceptable male behaviors to a pattern of "gay". So, even if you think another guy is attractive, it is to be suppressed to prevent public backlash.

Yeah I think it's mostly a society thing also. We live in a world that is still mostly homophobic, so any compliment or comment towards another male has to be tempered and/or somehow re-enforced by male bravado. I sometimes sit back and think how silly it is when I witness it, but doubt it'll change anytime soon. Women do it too, but not to the extremes us guys do.

 

[nicenycdick]

I thought the OP was asking about forming strong emotional bonds with other men? Most of the posts here have been about physical attraction, and I don't think that's what was asked. I have never had (or, as some here would like to think, haven't yet had) a physical attraction to another man. I've liked the suits they've worn...but I've never wanted them to take those suits off. But I have, of course, had very deep and loving emotional relationships with men. I have some male friends that go back more than 40 years and I don't think anybody could ever get closer to me than them. My brothers and I see each other every week and those relationships are the foundation of my strength in life. I kiss my male friends/relatives all the time...on the cheek. I'm an Italian-American and have been doing that for as long as I can remember. But I have never wanted to tongue-kiss with any of them. So I think the question must be re-phrased. What sort of emotional relationship are we talking about?

 

[Countryguy63]

I don't think he's asking about relationships. At least that's not what the original post sounded like??

My understanding was, can you as a straight man, see another man and think that he is good looking, attractive, etc.? Would you be able to say "He's good looking, attractive, etc.??

(right hungjon?)

 

[simbablk]

I can look at a guy and understand why people say he's attractive. Saying someone is attractive doesn't mean you want them sexually, just that you see the attractive features in them.

But for some reason, men calling other men attractive is somehow gay. Never understood that.

Simba

 

[HappyBoi]

It feels like Hung Jon is putting more meaning, or a different meaning into "recognizing someone as attractive" than others 'normally' do. To me, as with a lot of others responding in the thread, to recognize someone as attractive is seeing that someone is good-looking, to FEEL attracted to someone is to have some sort of sensual or sexual drawing to that persons looks (in this case I say looks, the outside, but you can of course be attracted to someone by something else as well, for example the inside of a person).

To feel that deeper connection that Hung Jon is talking about isn't to be attracted to someone or see that someone is attractive (in my mind/language use). To feel that is to sense a connection to another human being. I wouldn't describe that as "attractiveness". I can be attracted to guys without feeling a deep connection with them. I can feel a connection with guys and girls without being attracted to them.

Did I make any sense at all? I'm not sure.. :tongue:


Like someone wrote that the thought of touching another man or something made them feel sick. I can see the beauty in women, but.. if I think about touching their parts.. I can feel all "euuuwww" too. ;P

I've heard many times on this site from "straight" men who say they don't find guys attractive at all. I know straight women, lesbian and bi women and bi and gay guys who all say they find some guys attractive. If all these people find guys somewhat attractive, what is the block for straight guys around this issue? It's hard to understand from my POV. When I hear all these defensive answers, it confuses and angers me. I've even had some straight guys tell me here on this site that I should respect their sexuality, although to me I don't think I should because straight guys have never been a oppressed group. In fact they're been on the top of the social heap forever. I still want to understand this attitude though so I bring it up in this way to hear people's thoughts. Thanks.

You're attractive. I want to have sex with you. :smile:

Male hairyness and male saliva are the biggest turnoffs for me. I could point out guys who I thought were attractive, but I'd never want to do anything with them because those two factors gross me out if it came to something physical. Also, the whole general "masculinity" of men is a turn off in terms of my attraction to someone. But maybe this question isn't directed towards me, can't tell so I'm kind of with Endued on that one.

You're attractive. OMG, I so want to be fucked by you! *Drool*. :redface:

I think you just answered his question. "The thought of touching another man or kissing makes me sick". And I would say your attitude makes me sick! :smile:

You're attractive. I don't want to fuck you. .>>Gay<<.

 

[D_Harry_Crax]

Male hairyness and male saliva are the biggest turnoffs for me. I could point out guys who I thought were attractive, but I'd never want to do anything with them because those two factors gross me out if it came to something physical. Also, the whole general "masculinity" of men is a turn off in terms of my attraction to someone. But maybe this question isn't directed towards me, can't tell so I'm kind of with Endued on that one.

Is male saliva different than female saliva? (Haven't heard that one before!)

 

[B_Hung Jon]

Why the hell would that even occur to a "straight" man? At best your introducing competition in your life. Would you see dwight howard on the street and suggest he join the other team in your neighborhood pickup game? Fuck no!


Unless we agree on something other guys are not people. They are simply obstacles to be avoided when walking.

Gecko4if, your comments are most likely the least compassionate and most cruel I have ever heard on this site. From your POV other guys aren't even human. I think your attitude is disgusting.

 

[Gecko4lif]

Gecko4if, your comments are most likely the least compassionate and most cruel I have ever heard on this site. From your POV other guys aren't even human. I think your attitude is disgusting.

Its not like I run em over in the street

It is just the extent of most conversations go either

Guy: Yo
Me: yo
*We both walk away*

or

Guy: Damn she got a phat ass
Me: I know right
*we both walk away*

or

Guy: Lakers are in the playoff
Me: Fuck the lakers
Guy: Lol
Me: Lol
*both walk away*

There is no need to change something that works perfectly.