notN2pussy
Worshipped Member
I tend to feel I am doing a better job! When I have bottomed, really had to be into/ turned on to stay hard always
Interesting comments.... I think as bottoms ... We do not focus on our dick, we could careless if we are hard or not, because of the pleasure we are receiving from being fucked. It is no way a reflection on the top. It should be obvious by our physical response to getting fucked... moan and groans, and expressions on our faces. For most of us who are total bottoms like myself... anal play does it for me ...100%
I also like it when by bottom has a stiff one. It is an indicator of fun and arousal - which is a big reason why I have sex in the first place.
Yeah, my partner enjoying him (or herself, as I'm bi) is mandatory for me to enjoy myself. An erection from a guy I'm topping is a pretty solid indicator that he's enjoying himself. If a guy never or rarely gets hard while bottoming, I'd want to know that ahead of time. I can work with that so long as he gives me cues as to whether he's enjoying himself. If I don't know ahead of time it will cause great frustration as I will assume he is not enjoying himself. In such a case I won't enjoy myself, either. I want to fuck another passionate person, not a lump of flesh.
We bottoms need to spread the word "erections on us are not mandatory, we like our asses played with,which is why we are BOTTOMS ..Ditto
Okay .... what some of you tops seem to be missing is that a total bottom is really enjoying having is ass fucked. Most of do get all pleasure from there. With your assumption that if we do not get erection while we are having sex is a sign that we are not enjoying ourselves is totally wrong. It has been my experience when making a "hookup" once I tell a guy ..Oh, by the way I don't get hard on when I'm getting fuck" ..... the conversation is over. Guy in general do not want to hear those word..
If a guy does not get an erection while being fucked and doesn't communicate that he is enjoying himself, it is perfectly reasonable to assume he is not enjoying himself. To assume otherwise is borderline sociopathic.
As I said, I can probably work with a guy who doesn't get an erection from bottoming, but he needs to compensate for that fact by clearly communicating verbally and/or physically (erection or not). I will never assume that my partner is enjoying himself (or herself) without some kind of communication or physical reaction. I am there so that BOTH of us enjoy the experience and I'm not going to enjoy it unless I KNOW that my partner is as well.
Exactly ...it about how great it feels getting fucked.Am sometimes soft without realising, legs up and him balls deep in me, I am often concentrating on how good my arse feels ;-)