Anticipating When You're About To Ejaculate?

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In talking to other guys and reading online, I've discovered that its normal for men to recognize when they are about to cum and then begin to "pace" themselves to slow down before reaching the "point of no return". As someone who has struggled with premature ejaculation this bothers me because I've never been able to learn this skill and therefore haven't been able to learn to pace myself.

Are you able to tell when you're about to ejaculate? If so, how?

Sorry if this seems like a dumb question, but for me it isn't.
 

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I can tell I'm about to ejaculate because I can feel the cannon being loaded. I can feel fluids start to build inside me at the base of my cock. If those fluids reach a certain level, then ejaculation is unstoppable. That fluid accumulation process takes a few seconds, giving me a few seconds to try to reduce stimulation and pace myself.
 
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Besides the shortness and rapid breathing, the toes curling and the heartbeat rising, I cab feel the semen climbing up the shaft. I sometimes like pace myself and pause to get that feeling a few times before letting it explode !
 
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In my 20's and 30's, I could usually recognize when the "point of no return" was just starting if I was looking for it. If I caught it soon enough, I could suppress it. At least for a short while. I had to train myself to be alert for the earliest, subtle stirrings down in my groin and pelvis. (I suspect that what I was feeling was my plumbing reconfiguring itself, from urination mode to ejaculation mode.)
 

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^This. Work the problem backwards. Pay attention to how you feel just before you come. Remember it. Look for that feeling again next time you masturbate. If you don't catch yourself in time then pay attention to how you feel in the moments before that. Recognize the changes in your groin and pelvis. I feel a tightening in my perineum--the place between my anus and scrotum. As it gets tighter and tighter I know ejaculation is close.

If you're crazy premature you must slow down the whole process. Stimulate yourself much more slowly. Pace yourself. And if that doesn't work go ahead and have your first orgasm, wait to get hard again and begin stimulating yourself again. You will last longer the second time which will give you time to recognize the changes you feel in your cock, pelvis and perineum.
 

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I can tell when I am about to ejaculate. I tend to slow down when I reach that point. It is nothing I deliberately do, it just happens. Then I ejaculate, usually pumping harder as I start to ejaculate.

This is why it drives me crazy when someone masturbates me, because they do not slow down as I reach that point of now return and it is an amazing feeling as they continue to masturbate me as I am ejaculating.
 

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. . . Recognize the changes in your groin and pelvis. I feel a tightening in my perineum--the place between my anus and scrotum. As it gets tighter and tighter I know ejaculation is close . . . .
Practice Kegel exercises. When you detect that things are starting to happen, clamping the PC muscles HARD helps suppress the orgasm. If you catch it just a little too late and clamp down hard, you may ejaculate upstream into your bladder. This hurts and (I have been told) can damage the plumbing if it happens too often over an extended time.
 
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In talking to other guys and reading online, I've discovered that its normal for men to recognize when they are about to cum and then begin to "pace" themselves to slow down before reaching the "point of no return". As someone who has struggled with premature ejaculation this bothers me because I've never been able to learn this skill and therefore haven't been able to learn to pace myself.

Are you able to tell when you're about to ejaculate? If so, how?

Sorry if this seems like a dumb question, but for me it isn't.
Initially I did think it was a dumb question but I didnt look at it from your perspective and I guess they wouldn't call it suffering from premature ejaculation if it wasn't a thing.

Sorry to say that I can't think of a way to help you it's just a natural feeling that you feel coming, no pun intended, and not something that can be taught. It like when you know you're about to sneeze you just feel it.

When you say you cant determine when your about to finish you mean to say you feel absolutely know change In your body to suggest that you're ready?
 

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When you say you cant determine when your about to finish you mean to say you feel absolutely know change In your body to suggest that you're ready?

It's more like I feel ready to cum the moment I get aroused, so there is never any change in feeling for me. Listening to the descriptions posters have given, I can say that I have those feelings too its just the intensity is at 100 percent from beginning to end. If that makes sense.
 
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I pause and tighten my pelvic muscles like if I'm trying to hold back from pissing. I contract that muscle many times and I take deep breaths when I feel the urge to ejaculate coming on. if I do that, I can then hold back and pound for awhile and everytime I get that urge I keep working that muscle and then when I'm ready to explode I just let it go.
 

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It's more like I feel ready to cum the moment I get aroused, so there is never any change in feeling for me. Listening to the descriptions posters have given, I can say that I have those feelings too its just the intensity is at 100 percent from beginning to end. If that makes sense.
Ya that makes sense. That must be rough. To be at that point from the very beginning, definitely paints a better picture of your situation but unfortunately I don't know of any way to counter act that. Hopfullyy it changes in the future for you
 

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It can be frustrating when I know i have to pace myself but my lover is needing a pounding. Sometimes I try to remedy by pulling out hoping it subsides enough to get back in the game again.
Almost impossible to stop when causing someone else such pleasure.
 

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It's more like I feel ready to cum the moment I get aroused, so there is never any change in feeling for me. Listening to the descriptions posters have given, I can say that I have those feelings too its just the intensity is at 100 percent from beginning to end. If that makes sense.
I have been in your shoes, I would ejaculate as I was entering my wife. Could not control it at all. Thankfully my issue was temporary. Related to Prostatitis.
 

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I have been in your shoes, I would ejaculate as I was entering my wife. Could not control it at all. Thankfully my issue was temporary. Related to Prostatitis.

Did you ever experience times where in the process of getting an erection, you find yourself at the point of no return at that very instance?
 

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everything tenses up as you approach ejaculation, so the trick is to totally relax. frequent sex made me better at it. having a big cock, I enjoy giving as well as I am getting. sometimes more. when younger my wife was gorgeous and very needy. and I made sure those needs were fulfilled. self control is a good thing. when she tells you she's had enough, "please cum", you got control. when her legs are quivering, and she is unable to speak, you got control.

I also found that sometimes I get so hard that the end of my cock goes numb for awhile.
 

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Did you ever experience times where in the process of getting an erection, you find yourself at the point of no return at that very instance?
Yes a number of times since I struggle with ED I would done before hard enough to penetrate. Thanks to Viagra no longer an issue