I feel that you have every right to be scared of sex and for it to give you anxiety, honestly. Here you are having sex with your partner, somebody you think you can trust and has your best interest at heart. He was selfishly thinking of himself when he was having sex with these guys without wearing protection, especially knowing that you two occasionally have sex unprotected. In all honestly, he almost changed your life forever, and hopefully you realize that. No disrespect to you, I know you have your reasoning, but I would have left his ass after getting the first STD!
It sounds to me that you werent too open about having an open relationship, but maybe you felt that you had to do it in order to keep him. I dont know the story behind that, though. I have huge trust issues, so its hard for me to really comment and give my opinion on open relationships without being bias. I guess your story is the perfect example of why the thought of it terrifies me, other than somebody else I love being with another man. What scares me the most about this is, he now knows he hes HIV+ and hes continuing to have unprotected sex with other men, and that angers me!
To be completely honest with you, if youre having anxiety with having sex with this man, which you have right to, youre never going to be too keen on the idea. Nobody wants to be scared of getting something as serious as HIV while having sex and knowing the person theyre having sex with has it. I would be having panic attacks too. Honestly, I would have stopped having sex with when I first found out, but then again, I would have left him a long time ago.
You dont deserve what kind of emotional trauma hes putting you through. I know you feel that your whole life is about to change forever, but you have a big decision to make, because he has HIV and your rational fear of getting it is never going to go away. Its never easy taking away years of comfort and having that feeling of starting all over again, but the position youre in now is toxic and I dont see it getting better. Why put yourself through this long-term fear and hurt, when you could eventually do better off later I guess is the question I want to ask you.
It sounds to me that you werent too open about having an open relationship, but maybe you felt that you had to do it in order to keep him. I dont know the story behind that, though. I have huge trust issues, so its hard for me to really comment and give my opinion on open relationships without being bias. I guess your story is the perfect example of why the thought of it terrifies me, other than somebody else I love being with another man. What scares me the most about this is, he now knows he hes HIV+ and hes continuing to have unprotected sex with other men, and that angers me!
To be completely honest with you, if youre having anxiety with having sex with this man, which you have right to, youre never going to be too keen on the idea. Nobody wants to be scared of getting something as serious as HIV while having sex and knowing the person theyre having sex with has it. I would be having panic attacks too. Honestly, I would have stopped having sex with when I first found out, but then again, I would have left him a long time ago.
You dont deserve what kind of emotional trauma hes putting you through. I know you feel that your whole life is about to change forever, but you have a big decision to make, because he has HIV and your rational fear of getting it is never going to go away. Its never easy taking away years of comfort and having that feeling of starting all over again, but the position youre in now is toxic and I dont see it getting better. Why put yourself through this long-term fear and hurt, when you could eventually do better off later I guess is the question I want to ask you.