Hi,
Ive had something on my mind all day and Im not quite sure how to word it. I'll do my best and hope the right meaning comes across.
Im a 25 year old gay guy. Ive just got a new boyfriend who is totally amazing. I suffer from an anxiety disorder, which basically means I worry endlessly and intensely from time to time about unnecessary things. And would you believe it, on this occasion it was about......cock size!
So I figured I should come here. Basically im hung. My bf is average or a little bit above. He is totally hot though. Amazing body, face and personality. We hit it off amazingly well. The sex has been awesome too. Infact, its the first time ive gone out with someone and thought of them loads when I masturbate! I know that sounds crude, but I figure that in this early lustful stage of our relationship it can only be a good sign.
If there was one small thing I could change about him, it would be for him to be slightly bigger - or maybe for me to be smaller - either way! I guess people just like similarity. Anyway, thats basically not possible, I truly believe that I would never fin some one as good as him and that im on to a really good thing here. The problem is that my anxiety kicks in if I think anything bad. So for example, if i think, just for a second, that it'd be cool if he was more hung I absolutely flood my self with guilt and shame. I know thats completely irrational! But I still find myself looking for reassurance.
It might be difficult to understand why such a minor detail could cause me so much distress, but thats the nature of the beast. Its not its cock size that even bothers me, its completely fine! In fact its beautiful and so is the rest of him! What gets me is that I thought that - and I beat myself up about it. So ive decided that i need to write this to be honest and to sort this out in my head once and for all. What id like to hear is from people who have had similar experiences in terms of thinking little things theyd change about a partner. How do you reason with your self to shrug it off and realise it doesnt matter? Thats the info I am missing.
I even feel guilty if i concentrate on my body. Like the site of him sucking me off I feel bad because its like im focussing on my own cock. But i mean is it a crime to like to see your bf sucking on a big one?? And then i over analyise and realise im attracted to other parts of him rather than his cock. And this makes me worry, is that not how its supposed to be??
My anxiety tends to catastrophise and creep up on me in devious and unsuspecting ways. It may sound odd but something personal and something embarrassing like this is the perfect way for it to attack. Thankgod for the internet is all I can say. Last week I was so so happy then wham, from no where, anxiety comes knocking. Please help me get back on track and be kind! Im a good person I swear.
Thankyou in advance :smile:
Ive had something on my mind all day and Im not quite sure how to word it. I'll do my best and hope the right meaning comes across.
Im a 25 year old gay guy. Ive just got a new boyfriend who is totally amazing. I suffer from an anxiety disorder, which basically means I worry endlessly and intensely from time to time about unnecessary things. And would you believe it, on this occasion it was about......cock size!
So I figured I should come here. Basically im hung. My bf is average or a little bit above. He is totally hot though. Amazing body, face and personality. We hit it off amazingly well. The sex has been awesome too. Infact, its the first time ive gone out with someone and thought of them loads when I masturbate! I know that sounds crude, but I figure that in this early lustful stage of our relationship it can only be a good sign.
If there was one small thing I could change about him, it would be for him to be slightly bigger - or maybe for me to be smaller - either way! I guess people just like similarity. Anyway, thats basically not possible, I truly believe that I would never fin some one as good as him and that im on to a really good thing here. The problem is that my anxiety kicks in if I think anything bad. So for example, if i think, just for a second, that it'd be cool if he was more hung I absolutely flood my self with guilt and shame. I know thats completely irrational! But I still find myself looking for reassurance.
It might be difficult to understand why such a minor detail could cause me so much distress, but thats the nature of the beast. Its not its cock size that even bothers me, its completely fine! In fact its beautiful and so is the rest of him! What gets me is that I thought that - and I beat myself up about it. So ive decided that i need to write this to be honest and to sort this out in my head once and for all. What id like to hear is from people who have had similar experiences in terms of thinking little things theyd change about a partner. How do you reason with your self to shrug it off and realise it doesnt matter? Thats the info I am missing.
I even feel guilty if i concentrate on my body. Like the site of him sucking me off I feel bad because its like im focussing on my own cock. But i mean is it a crime to like to see your bf sucking on a big one?? And then i over analyise and realise im attracted to other parts of him rather than his cock. And this makes me worry, is that not how its supposed to be??
My anxiety tends to catastrophise and creep up on me in devious and unsuspecting ways. It may sound odd but something personal and something embarrassing like this is the perfect way for it to attack. Thankgod for the internet is all I can say. Last week I was so so happy then wham, from no where, anxiety comes knocking. Please help me get back on track and be kind! Im a good person I swear.
Thankyou in advance :smile:
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