Any advice for cumming from bjs without jerking off to finish?

[rbi99]

In our lovemaking we always start by gentling touching each other and slowly moving our fingers to her groin and my penis. After playing with those areas I then concentrate on my wife. We enjoy using a vibrator on her and I especially get off when I have my fingers inserted in her while she plays with herself with the vib. Each time she cums I get hornier and hornier (and with the vibrator she cums over and over, some so intense her inner walls almost hurt my fingers she is squeezing so hard). Once she has literally exhausted herself we turn our attention on myself. She adores my cock to put it quite frankly, and that is a real turn on for me. She also loves to give me head and swallow every drop I produce when I cum. Those aspects of her oral skills enhance everything. She isn't blowing me so I cum, she wants to make me cum and taste it. While my girth has grown to the point where she can't fit much of my penis into her mouth, that doesn't stop her from exploring every inch of it with her tongue. While I occasionally finish myself off by masturbating while she has my glans in her mouth, the vast majority of the time she accomplishes it by herself. Once I cum she just continues to suck me long and hard and that period is actually the most intense for me. I have asked her to let my cum drip from her mouth down my shaft so I could see it, but most of the times she just lovingly swallows it. In summary, we get each other excited by touch initially, then concentrating on her gets me hotter and hotter. We don't rush one to the other, rather we concentrate and work on getting my wife thoroughly satisfied before proceeding to me. It doesn't matter if I cum quickly or slowly, whatever I feel like doing is perfectly fine with my wife. The fact she loves my cock and cum and eagerly wants both, enhances the experience. If she was doing it only because she had to, that would negatively affect the entire experience. She would never settle for simply sucking me and jerking me off, instead she explores my entire penis with her tongue, mouth and eyes.

The few times she simply blew me and we didn't do anything else, I had a difficult time cumming. It is all of the above that guarantees I will.

 

[drpumps]

Buddy if you are having to finish yourself off then you need to find a least one bud with oral skills. Seriously it's not you unless you are pulling out of their throat and not letting them have the prize that they have worked for. In that case shame on you.

 

[dude77007]

If I'm giving one, I pay attention to his response. Start by focusing on each area one at at time ....the head, the cronora, the frenulum, shaft, the foreskin. His response at each point will tell you which areas stimulate him most. We can have a sensitive area that is actually painful, once you hit one back off. Sometimes all areas work for some guys, but most guys discovered their own personal "sweet spot" the day they started masturbating that really makes the magic happen. If you find it on another guy, he won't have to finish himself off. If he has to jerk himself off, I haven't done the "job" correctly. I hate guys that never show any physical or verbal response to tell you if you are doing it right. Had a guy once never show any emotion and never made a sound when he came, not even breathing hard. Just blew. Guess, I was boring him. If I am receiving...if certain areas aren't doing anything for me, I remain silent until he or she hits my sweet spot and I will definitely let them know they have found the key to their success and that their reward is on the way, if they stay on it. Hopefully they find the spot early on. It pisses me off when they don't listen to my verbal responses and keep doing what doesn't work for me. It's like: "don't make me have to jerk myself off...Bitch" !!! It's called a BLOW JOB for a reason. If you don't want me to cum in your mouth that's OK, but you got to at least get me there with your mouth.

 

[1080084]

I love getting head and I have several fwbs who love giving it to me. I want to instruct the person sucking my dick on how to make me cum without my "intervention," but I can't quite figure out what I need. I basically always end up jerking myself off when I feel like it's time to cum, which isn't as fun since the other person isn't directly involved at the very end. I'm hoping to try out a few techniques, if anybody has suggestions, for cumming directly from getting head without jerking myself off. Anybody have any tips? Or do basically all guys finish by jerking off when they get bj's?

Don’t know if this has been said but sucking and stroking should get you there if she is skilled.

Do you watch her? I’m pretty visual and a blowjob that I can see her performing always feels better than if her hair is in the way or something.

Also sucking on the balls while stroking helps me. But I’m with you. I jerk it too much and get used to my own hand. Doing a masturbation detox for a few days may help.

 

[Collegemeat]

Stop focusing on the fact that you probably wont cum before she even starting to suck your dick.. I found it thats its all a mind game.. I remember the times where I though oh men I hope I dont bust quick I busted quick or when I beforehand thought shit what if I cant get it up, I had a hard time getting hard. Just enjoy the moment and the bj and you will bust eventually

 

[rbi99]

Have you had a guy go down on you that felt great? What did he do for you that some of the other guys didn't? If you have never or almost never cum from a bj, it might be you not them that needs to look into this. With my wife, the fact I know she loves going down on me and is good at it, makes the anticipation all that much better. Like some others have said, if you make the target cumming rather then simply enjoying everything that is going on, takes away from the adventure.

 

[notforprofit]

Yeah like most everyone else, my advice is to find someone who can take dick and then make them take it until you cum. You're not going to be able to guide someone or teach them how to suck your cock the way you want them to.

 

[Leakingpre247]

I love cumming in a mouth. BJs are awesome. I agree w everyone...communication. Wife gives the best head. Have had yrs of communication telling her to focus here or there. However I also love to nut on her tits.

I will admit I was the worst pussy eater ever. But, she guided me and gave me specific instructions and I got better. Now...she begs for it.

Tell your mate what feels good. But it also takes me soooo much longer to cum w BJ than sex.

 

[Leakingpre247]

I will also add that because of the delay, I am sympathetic to her poor jaws. I wait as long as I can but when I feel I have had plenty of ME TIME, I pull her up for a nice sexy kiss.

 

[269616]

I think I've only cum once from a blow job without helping out. It was my ex wife when we were together. She had never let me cum in her mouth, but said if I could cum from her sucking me, I could shoot in her mouth. I think the thought of shooting in her mouth had me on edge. She lay on her back and hung her head off the side of the bed so I could throat fuck her (she loved to gag of me). It did take almost 20 minutes of face fucking, but I did cum without my hands. I think that mentally picturing her wanting me to cum in her mouth was the trigger. Other than that, I need to jack off into a mouth to cum. Hell, it takes me forever to cum from just fucking.

I've cum orally more than that, but i completely understand. It's very rare for me, and I've had many very talented, enthusiastic suckers.

And, I too, take forever and a day to cum from regular fucking. No matter how smoking hot and kinky and/or loving and totally into pleasing me the person is. I've had very hot playmates who were so skilled and wanted nothing more than to please me. Just how my body is.

 

[BWPHOENIX]

I love sucking cock, i know im fairly good at it, and find it completely disheartening when a guy feels the need to intervene.
There are a 2 instances i find this happens more commonly.

1) Guys who are used to jerking off as their main outlet.
They seem to struggle with someone else being in control of their cock/and orgasm, and cant get used to how someone else does it for them.

2) Guys who wont communicate.
This is the worst, and can go two ways. either he will "do" whatever he needs to make himself cum, or he literally will lay like a dead fish and not tell you what he likes.


Ive had both, and even once with the same guy, and its not fun for anyone.
You should be comfortable enough to tell your partner what is/isn't working, and if occasionally you still have to intervene, then that's ok.

The best bjs I’ve had are from women that love sucking cock AND are open to communication. I’m a talking during sex; I make sure they’re enjoying it and I let them know what’s working/what isn’t working for me. And you’re right, being comfortable with your partner is a huge aspect of whether or not the Sex is good, great, or fan-Fucking-tastic.

All of this talk about BJs has gotten me Horny. Gotta go handle that now...

 

[sodominsane]

I had trouble cunning from just a bj before too

However in medical school I hooked up with one of the doctors on rotation

Gotta give it to a high achieving career woman....she was very used to success....she had a lot of drive and stamina

Refused to fail and just pushed through...also felt like using hands was cheating

Anyways after that first pop ...well it got easier and easier....she tuned up to what I like... Plus I think nerve pathways kinda get tuned up in yourself

Kinda like any physical thing...do it enough and you body gets used to it