Any advice?

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  1. lover121

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    OK so i wasn't sure where to post this but whatever. My problem is about my sexuality. I think i am bisexual but i am rather unsure:confused:. I like the image of a nice set of boobs or a woman getting fucked but I like the image of a faccid, hanging dick on a guy or a muscle guy with a big dick ect. (which i have pursude with much more interest than with women and straight stuff, both in real life and porn).

    I know that i'm adamant to marry a woman and have children (as i love the idea) but the idea of men is so much more of a turn on, even though i envision no permanent future with a man. I have fooled around with a guy before (hand/blowjobs and he was black which is another turn on for me :rolleyes:) but never a woman.

    I'm feeling slightly pressured to get a girlfriend as my friends are starting to question me but while i can talk to girls and get along with them (much better than i do with guys) i cannot find reasons to like them enough to ask them out. There are some exceptions but they are normally the ones who i have no chance with (i.e already got a boyfriend or they are not taking one ect).

    Overall i think that being with a woman who im perfectly comfortable with will be good in my late future, but i dont know because guys are the ones that give me the most hardons. Anyone got any advice? Thanks and srry for the long post :confused:
     
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    here's sexuality dude,

    when you no only are interested in someone sexually but on a mental and emotional level.

    A gay guy is gay, NOT because he likes to suck dick, or likes things up his ass, but he's gay because he wants to have a RELATIONSHIP with another man

    same with straight

    now for bisexuals, you have to remember that MOST of the population is bisexual to some extent, you take a psychology class and you get that one.
    Now a TRUE bisexual, is someone who is sexually and emotionally attracted to both sexes. And even so they tend to be leaning towards one group over the other.

    Point being, gay men may sometimes like the idea of having sex with a girl... very graphically, and straight men may sometimes really want to have sex with another man

    But it sounds to me like, you want a relationship with a woman, but are not opposed to the idea of having sex with a man. There's nothing wrong with that, if you are being completely honest with yourself.

    Because MOST bisexuals will SAY and convince themselves they want to be with a woman, just because it's the "right" thing to do..

    You gotta do a lot of searching to figure it, but nobody can honestly tell you your own sexuality. they can suggest things but nobody can TELL you
     
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    well said!!!
     
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    hey fallenangel thanks for the advice i guess i gotta do some soul searching :p
     
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    yup yup

    the key point is to really think, you're not trying to figure it out for anybody else
    it's all for you, you owe it to yourself to figure out where you stand whether or not you act on it

    I know I'm gay... period... haha, now does that mean that I didn't know all those years of junior high when I dated girls? no.... i knew... just didn't act on it


    well i did... i had two boyfriends... outside of school...
    BUT THAT DOESNT HELP MY POINT!

    i'd start with emotional status
     
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    well whatever i am your pics in your gsllery are getting me hot under the collar ;P
     
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    your issues are much deeper than the plumbing of humans.
    Why do you feel you NEED to marry? and have children?
    You really get the short end of the deal when you sign the marriage contract.
     
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