If I stopped craving male affection, I think monkhood is a real possibility.
By the way, I'm growing a beard. LOL. I need to get tougher.
You can kiss me, since I have one lolIf I grow a full beard, I can get some love and affection from urban bears.
Never kissed a dude with a full beard.
totally!I am sort of fortunate in that my best male buddy has become someone I can just cuddle or bond with. We're both (more or less) straight and have cuddled in the spa at night after a few glasses of wine. It started many years ago when he was going through a very rough patch in his life and we were in the spa. He very much needed a hug, but his wife was being very cold (they've fixed things up), and he felt the world was against him. So I told him I wanted to take over for him for a short time, and to let me take his stress. So he sidled over and leaved his back up against my chest, and I cuddled him, telling him that for the next five minutes the world had gone away and to let me "stand guard" for him.
Fundamentally changed our relationship from being buddies to being closer than brothers.
No, you're not the only one who needs and wants that kind of a relationship with another guy. I think we ALL need one like that, just to have the one person we can let take over when it gets to be too much.
Our wives are wonderful and supportive and fulfill most of our emotional needs, but there's something that guys just get which makes the difference.
I am sort of fortunate in that my best male buddy has become someone I can just cuddle or bond with. We're both (more or less) straight and have cuddled in the spa at night after a few glasses of wine. It started many years ago when he was going through a very rough patch in his life and we were in the spa. He very much needed a hug, but his wife was being very cold (they've fixed things up), and he felt the world was against him. So I told him I wanted to take over for him for a short time, and to let me take his stress. So he sidled over and leaved his back up against my chest, and I cuddled him, telling him that for the next five minutes the world had gone away and to let me "stand guard" for him.
Fundamentally changed our relationship from being buddies to being closer than brothers.
No, you're not the only one who needs and wants that kind of a relationship with another guy. I think we ALL need one like that, just to have the one person we can let take over when it gets to be too much.
Our wives are wonderful and supportive and fulfill most of our emotional needs, but there's something that guys just get which makes the difference.
You are not alone. I also crave male affection. But because of social norms, males aren't allowed to show signs of affection to each other. It isn't about sex either, but most guys interpret any type of male bonding, closeness or affection toward each other as advances for sex and especially straight men get very defensive about that.
Well look at this thread. Out of all the people craving male physical intimacy as a purely platonic expression of friendship... how many identify as straight (-vs- str8)?
If another guy was saying that he wants to hold and cuddle and kiss me, why should I not interpret that as a pass? I mean, within US culture, it is pretty gay.
I don't cuddle with my guy friends because of the burdensome weight of some kind of societal pressure bearing down on me that I'll turn gay if I do. I don't cuddle with men because it would feel awkward and uncomfortable. The way I was raised, male-male platonic physical intimacy is reserved for family members. I'll cozy up to uncles on the sofa (my dad has 5 brothers), we hug eachother, I might get backrubs or things like that from time to time, but they're family.
My male friends and I may have intimate discussions about hopes and dreams love and all that jazz, but we don't snuggle and kiss (and I don't feel any cravings for that or that I'm missing out on anything).
I broke down when my mom died two months ago and they didn't want to even touch me! You think hugging a grieving friend is gay and an advance?
When did the word "kiss" enter the conversation?
My error. I stand by my posts, however. If guys are comfortable sharing a friendly kiss that's their way of showing affection, and completely up to the people involved.From the very first post.
I am so craving male affection. I had a great dad growing up. I just want to hug and kiss another dude that I am friends with.
Please answer seriously without insults.
Any other buddies on LPSG like this? It's not really the sex I'm really craving with dudes.
Right now, I would just like to hold a buddy and kiss him.
yes but then they did have a homo erogenous relationshipThis thread reminded me of this scene from Friends: