Any dude craving just male affection

[BritishB0y]

Yeah...I've never really managed to have any male friends and my dad left my life when I was young, my relationship with my brother was rocky so I think Freud would have a field day with me haha... But I just want a guy to hug, watch movies and drink coffee with

 

[steve r]

You

Yeah...I've never really managed to have any male friends and my dad left my life when I was young, my relationship with my brother was rocky so I think Freud would have a field day with me haha... But I just want a guy to hug, watch movies and drink coffee with

You sound exactly like me man. Seriously. I would enjoy this too. Same type of family situation too.

 

[steve r]

I am sort of fortunate in that my best male buddy has become someone I can just cuddle or bond with. We're both (more or less) straight and have cuddled in the spa at night after a few glasses of wine. It started many years ago when he was going through a very rough patch in his life and we were in the spa. He very much needed a hug, but his wife was being very cold (they've fixed things up), and he felt the world was against him. So I told him I wanted to take over for him for a short time, and to let me take his stress. So he sidled over and leaved his back up against my chest, and I cuddled him, telling him that for the next five minutes the world had gone away and to let me "stand guard" for him.

Fundamentally changed our relationship from being buddies to being closer than brothers.

No, you're not the only one who needs and wants that kind of a relationship with another guy. I think we ALL need one like that, just to have the one person we can let take over when it gets to be too much.

Our wives are wonderful and supportive and fulfill most of our emotional needs, but there's something that guys just get which makes the difference.

The award for the perfect answer goes to.... rambling cock. This post is everything. And completely cracks the code. I applaud u, sir. And i envy the relationship u are lucky enough to share with your buddy.

 

[steve r]

Bigbull,
Thank you for this post. To The guys on here who contributed, thank you for sharing, ur experiences, your situations, times of hardship, and even those who have acheived what we all here crave. This sounds stupid and so corny, but seriously, some guys on here are my closest friends. Ive said this in other threads but you guys, with hearts on ur sleeve, u guys aware of ur emotions, really inspire me. Everyone has thier fun on here with crazy topics stories etc, but the bottom line is most of you guys on here are the most sincere, genuine, and compassionate guys ive ever spoken to. At this point in my life, not a really good one, where even with friends and family, i still feel pretty alone, and then i come on here and you guys are always here to talk. Theres always someone. And im thankful for you guys. So, thank you bigbull for uniting us, and to the friends that i wont list but hopefully see this, thank you for being the gentlemen that u are.
Steve

 

[JohnDoeXXXm]

Awesomeness on this board all around

 

[Lucius2s1]

Hugs to all

 

[796998]

Great thread. ... It's validating and satisfying just to read that others feel the way you do.

Progress can be slow, but by being honest with ourselves and brave with our actions/communication, we can redefine what "masculinity" is. Logically, it makes no sense to limit the sharing of our affection to just one gender. Society has conditioned us to think having a penis means we must resist appearing vulnerable and that we can never reveal that our emotional range is as vast as our female counterparts (you mean men AND women are human???). It's okay to share emotions and receive them. You know this. We all know this. If we want the greater society to change for men, each of us needs to have the courage to go at this independently in our own lives. Express your emotions. Encourage your guy friends to do so with you. Bond with your friends however you feel you need to. The more you do, the more others might.

Now excuse me as I figure myself out and try to take my own advice.

Peace

 

[bigbull29]

Bigbull,
Thank you for this post. To The guys on here who contributed, thank you for sharing, ur experiences, your situations, times of hardship, and even those who have acheived what we all here crave. This sounds stupid and so corny, but seriously, some guys on here are my closest friends. Ive said this in other threads but you guys, with hearts on ur sleeve, u guys aware of ur emotions, really inspire me. Everyone has thier fun on here with crazy topics stories etc, but the bottom line is most of you guys on here are the most sincere, genuine, and compassionate guys ive ever spoken to. At this point in my life, not a really good one, where even with friends and family, i still feel pretty alone, and then i come on here and you guys are always here to talk. Theres always someone. And im thankful for you guys. So, thank you bigbull for uniting us, and to the friends that i wont list but hopefully see this, thank you for being the gentlemen that u are.
Steve

I never saw your post until now (you didn't "quote" me, so I never got an alert).

I am so happy to have filled with you such good emotions and to have put a smile on your face.

Life is all about love in the end. And if you can share some, the universal energies can only smile back. You can only make the world a better place.

I agree with everything you've said.

You're a gem, steve_r. The world needs more boys like we see in this thread. How different are world would be!

.

 

[bigbull29]

Great thread. ... It's validating and satisfying just to read that others feel the way you do.

Progress can be slow, but by being honest with ourselves and brave with our actions/communication, we can redefine what "masculinity" is. Logically, it makes no sense to limit the sharing of our affection to just one gender. Society has conditioned us to think having a penis means we must resist appearing vulnerable and that we can never reveal that our emotional range is as vast as our female counterparts (you mean men AND women are human???). It's okay to share emotions and receive them. You know this. We all know this. If we want the greater society to change for men, each of us needs to have the courage to go at this independently in our own lives. Express your emotions. Encourage your guy friends to do so with you. Bond with your friends however you feel you need to. The more you do, the more others might.

Now excuse me as I figure myself out and try to take my own advice.

Peace

That was beautiful. Thank you.

 

[cockydude2018]

Bigbull,
Thank you for this post. To The guys on here who contributed, thank you for sharing, ur experiences, your situations, times of hardship, and even those who have acheived what we all here crave. This sounds stupid and so corny, but seriously, some guys on here are my closest friends. Ive said this in other threads but you guys, with hearts on ur sleeve, u guys aware of ur emotions, really inspire me. Everyone has thier fun on here with crazy topics stories etc, but the bottom line is most of you guys on here are the most sincere, genuine, and compassionate guys ive ever spoken to. At this point in my life, not a really good one, where even with friends and family, i still feel pretty alone, and then i come on here and you guys are always here to talk. Theres always someone. And im thankful for you guys. So, thank you bigbull for uniting us, and to the friends that i wont list but hopefully see this, thank you for being the gentlemen that u are.
Steve

I have made two very good friends here. Chat everyday. Maybe nights, too. I cried a couple nights ago speaking to of one of them. I told him how I feel like I have to choke down the word "love" when speaking to either one of them. And I said, "Now you know my feelings. Unspoken". A very good cry. First in years.

 

[NZWellyGayMale]

Love is nothing to be afraid of or shy about saying out loud...I am always saying it out loud

 

[NZWellyGayMale]

Yeah...I've never really managed to have any male friends and my dad left my life when I was young, my relationship with my brother was rocky so I think Freud would have a field day with me haha... But I just want a guy to hug, watch movies and drink coffee with

I am here for you dude...

 

[steve r]

I never saw your post until now (you didn't "quote" me, so I never got an alert).

I am so happy to have filled with you such good emotions and to have put a smile on your face.

Life is all about love in the end. And if you can share some, the universal energies can only smile back. You can only make the world a better place.

I agree with everything you've said.

You're a gem, steve_r. The world needs more boys like we see in this thread. How different are world would be!

.

You are right, i didnt quote you, i apologize. Ultimately, i am glad u saw my post because i meant every word and a couple other guys have seen it since too, so im glad my words struck a cord with some. Thanks again for the post. And the compliments in your reply.

 

[NZWellyGayMale]

You are right, i didnt quote you, i apologize. Ultimately, i am glad u saw my post because i meant every word and a couple other guys have seen it since too, so im glad my words struck a cord with some. Thanks again for the post. And the compliments in your reply.

Hi guys,huge cuddles for you both...

 

[steve r]

I have made two very good friends here. Chat everyday. Maybe nights, too. I cried a couple nights ago speaking to of one of them. I told him how I feel like I have to choke down the word "love" when speaking to either one of them. And I said, "Now you know my feelings. Unspoken". A very good cry. First in years.

I love finding a connection like that, especially online, where literally anyone could see ur profile, but sometimes the right one sees u and effects your life

 

[Slc discrete]

My new best bud first met a couple months ago. As soon as I met him I knew I liked him in a way Ive never been attracted to another man. We had been volunteering together for the afternoon, eventually ending uo working side by side. We swapped contact info, seen each kther later that night, and it just felt right. Although hes in a committed relationship, which I fully respect. On this past saturday we spent 14 hours together one on one, and he told me hes been waiting to meet someone he felt the way he did, around me. He asked if he could be my best friend, and I told him I was hoping he'd ask. I actually cried twice with him as we spoke about everything. His girlfriend, work, passion, what drives us, art, film. Im so lucky to have found him. He posted our pic together on social media with the caption "When you finally find your male soul mate". Been on cloud nine since!

 

[steve r]

My new best bud first met a couple months ago. As soon as I met him I knew I liked him in a way Ive never been attracted to another man. We had been volunteering together for the afternoon, eventually ending uo working side by side. We swapped contact info, seen each kther later that night, and it just felt right. Although hes in a committed relationship, which I fully respect. On this past saturday we spent 14 hours together one on one, and he told me hes been waiting to meet someone he felt the way he did, around me. He asked if he could be my best friend, and I told him I was hoping he'd ask. I actually cried twice with him as we spoke about everything. His girlfriend, work, passion, what drives us, art, film. Im so lucky to have found him. He posted our pic together on social media with the caption "When you finally find your male soul mate". Been on cloud nine since!

This is amazing man! Im happy u found each other. Cherish the times together

 

[Slc discrete]

This is amazing man! Im happy u found each other. Cherish the times together

I really have been. Every night he texts me asking if i made it home safe. Amd wake up to "Good Morning" texts. I really appreciate the affection hes shown to me.

 

[Lucius2s1]

My new best bud first met a couple months ago. As soon as I met him I knew I liked him in a way Ive never been attracted to another man. We had been volunteering together for the afternoon, eventually ending uo working side by side. We swapped contact info, seen each kther later that night, and it just felt right. Although hes in a committed relationship, which I fully respect. On this past saturday we spent 14 hours together one on one, and he told me hes been waiting to meet someone he felt the way he did, around me. He asked if he could be my best friend, and I told him I was hoping he'd ask. I actually cried twice with him as we spoke about everything. His girlfriend, work, passion, what drives us, art, film. Im so lucky to have found him. He posted our pic together on social media with the caption "When you finally find your male soul mate". Been on cloud nine since!

So awesome!!

 

[cockydude2018]

Gotta tell you, men, so glad I found this thread. Every new post and comment gives me hope for humankind. Totally awesome.