Any dude craving just male affection

[Blether17]

It was back during a period known as the "mephedrone explosion". At that point I was "bi" to a handful of people. The "mephedrone explosion" saw mephedrone catapult to the fourth most popular drug after alcohol, tobacco and weed. There were actually about three other ones, that were technically legal because they hadn't been banned yet. Mephedrone was more the going out one, then there was basically a tweaked version of MDMA. We were taking the latter one evening, there were about 25 people in the room, just made a quick announcement "I'm gay", and that was that.

When was this englad ?

 

[englad]

When was this englad ?

About 8 years ago.

 

[Doranq]

If I never saw another male again IRL or Online, I'd be totally fine with it.

I could not say the same women.

 

[Dave NoCal]

So a week ago. I was sitting in a little local bar waiting to meet some friends.Every bar stool was taken by a collection of men and women who gave every appearance of being as straight as arrows. A guy walks in and comes up behind one of the guys sitting at the bar and begins massaging his shoulders and neck while talking with him. They both appeared to be "regular guys" who worked in skilled trades. They obviously knew each other and the guy at the bar was with a woman. The two guys trade places for some reason, maybe the massagee needed to pee. Anyway, he comes bask and stands behind the guy who was massaging him and begins massing his neck and shoulder, including embracing him in a sort of hug in which he compresses his shoulders toward each other. Everybody just kept talking... I haven't really seen that before but it was nice.

 

[Silbot.]

Women are allowed to be like this while not being considered a lesbian or bisexual.. Men are not. So unfair. We men are just gay when we get too affectionate without a buddy.

Been in plenty of situations where there was no cock play, just quality time, long talks, shared beers outdoors, the warmth of shared embraces and a shared bed. It has often been better than a lot of the random sex I’ve had because a bond is forged.

 

[notN2pussy]

So a week ago. I was sitting in a little local bar waiting to meet some friends.Every bar stool was taken by a collection of men and women who gave every appearance of being as straight as arrows. A guy walks in and comes up behind one of the guys sitting at the bar and begins massaging his shoulders and neck while talking with him. They both appeared to be "regular guys" who worked in skilled trades. They obviously knew each other and the guy at the bar was with a woman. The two guys trade places for some reason, maybe the massagee needed to pee. Anyway, he comes bask and stands behind the guy who was massaging him and begins massing his neck and shoulder, including embracing him in a sort of hug in which he compresses his shoulders toward each other. Everybody just kept talking... I haven't really seen that before but it was nice.

I have a couple friends, used to be roommates that we are that comfortable, in public even. One was hugging me standing in Sams, arm around my shoulder, lean over. I said Rusty, its not a big town. His reply was I don't care I can beat most of these folks ass. Sweet guys, married kids, ect. Never any nudity or sex when they lived here, just very close. Have slept, as in sleep with both at times.

 

[John Again]

So many men, in this site, that i love, for many reasons! I have said that to several! If or when i leave this site, you all will go with me. I would love to give to all them a strong hug and many kisses to the ones who are ready for reveive them!

 

[BillM]

 

[Jay2117]

Bigbull, from my observations, non-sexual male affection seems vary by culture, even within a culture. In my opinion, if males bonded more closely with their own male offspring (in a non-sexual context, of course), they would grow up to be less insecure in life as well as better fathers. You are fortunate to have had an affectionate father and I hope you find that which you are seeking. Indy

Well spoken, and very perceptive.

 

[Jay2117]

Excuse me? I don't want to cuddle and kiss my friend. I just wanted a fucking HUG! I broke down when my mom died two months ago and they didn't want to even touch me! You think hugging a grieving friend is gay and an advance? Fucking US culture is gone to shit. Then people wonder why males have the highest depression rates and shit. We have this fucked up culture and social norms that represses any type of feelings for men.

No I don't think all men should want to cuddle on the couch together at all times, but if we're casually sitting together on the couch and our feet accidentally touch, we should jump up yelling "Ew faggot!" And scooting over an entire seat away!

Great point about lack of physical contact and depression. They should study the correlation between the two. I wonder how many suicides might have been prevented with just a little physical comforting from a friend.

 

[bwhip1011]

Great thread! I'm sure that it's been comforting to quite a few.

 

[1037772]

So many men, in this site, that i love, for many reasons! I have said that to several! If or when i leave this site, you all will go with me. I would love to give to all them a strong hug and many kisses to the ones who are ready for reveive them!

I'm ready!

 

[John Again]

I'm ready!

So you can have as many as you want, thank you, my friend! @BroBonder

 

[LowerCapeCod]

Had a friend yeas ago, we could talk about anything. Very open and relaxing to talk. We always looked forward to our talks and time together. We talked about our girlfriends, what felt good, not good & everything about our bodies. Great comfortable conversations. He moved away years ago & i have never found another bro-friend that i have been so open with.

 

[Slc discrete]

I posted about my Dude/Bro earlier. We had a mini falling out, and are resolving it today. He told me we need to hug it out and talk in a safe space, so Im going to his place at 2PM today. I was quite upset when I thought he would just bail on me, but he told me that I'm his bro, and I can trust him, and he loves me. I'm so looking forward to seeing him this afternoon. I can't loose this dude from my life.

 

[223790]

I posted about my Dude/Bro earlier. We had a mini falling out, and are resolving it today. He told me we need to hug it out and talk in a safe space, so Im going to his place at 2PM today. I was quite upset when I thought he would just bail on me, but he told me that I'm his bro, and I can trust him, and he loves me. I'm so looking forward to seeing him this afternoon. I can't loose this dude from my life.

Best of luck. I hope you are able to resolve it. I tried to do this 4 years ago with my old bromance after we fell out, but it was one sided on my end only, so I had to walk away. I cut off my last avenue of contact with him over a year ago.

 

[giantguy23]

well my friends call me as "giant teddy love bear" cause i hug almost everyone im sorry but i like showing that i like someone that way even if proportion wise is little akward

 

[Slc discrete]

Best of luck. I hope you are able to resolve it. I tried to do this 4 years ago with my old bromance after we fell out, but it was one sided on my end only, so I had to walk away. I cut off my last avenue of contact with him over a year ago.

He took my apology and we're moving forward. He told me he can't imagine life without me and I made him a couple promises where I wasn't so strong .We cried, hugged, and drank whiskey about it.

 

[223790]

He took my apology and we're moving forward. He told me he can't imagine life without me and I made him a couple promises where I wasn't so strong .We cried, hugged, and drank whiskey about it.

Was it all you fault though, or did you just take a bullet to save the friendship? Normally there is fault on both sides. I think an apology was what my old bromance wanted from me, but I'm not sorry for what I did. I simply responded in kind to what he started. If I had apologized and taken all of the blame for what caused the breakdown of our friendship, I would have carried that resentment with me and our friendship would never have been the same again. If it was truly your fault and you took responsibility for it, I commend you for doing it.

 

[Slc discrete]

Was it all you fault though, or did you just take a bullet to save the friendship? Normally there is fault on both sides. I think an apology was what my old bromance wanted from me, but I'm not sorry for what I did. I simply responded in kind to what he started. If I had apologized and taken all of the blame for what caused the breakdown of our friendship, I would have carried that resentment with me and our friendship would never have been the same again. If it was truly your fault and you took responsibility for it, I commend you for doing it.

It was something I did, and took the responsibility for . Didn't make excuses for it and thankful he accepted the apology