any gay or bisexual men here not into anal sex?

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I saw a post on the thread I wrote about sex acts you don't like where one guy that's gay wrote about how he's not into anal sex at all. I'm wondering if there are lots of us around? I don't like giving or getting anal sex and to me it's just boring and way too many bisexual and gay men seem to be into it because they think that they have to do it and then a lot of them seem to buy into the stereotypical heterosexual roles like if a man is a Top for anal sex it makes him masculine, bottoms/passive men are feminine, and men who say that they are versatile are really just bottoms but afraid to admit it! So if you are gay or bisexual and not into anal sex at all why aren't you?
 

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I love it if its good. If it's bad, it's awful. Here's bad, if not completely awful:

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Anal sex is Varsity Level Sex. It requires a degree of skill and careful execution on the part of both top and bottom. You don't just shove it in and hammer away and have a good time. My key rule for good butt fucking: line up the parts before you push. My advice, if you want to get to like it, is to get fucked by someone who's been fucked himself.
 
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I have always greatly preferred oral sex. I lost interest in anal sex when it wasn't safe to bb anymore. It has been 15 years since I came from fucking someone and over 25 since I came from getting fucked. I often don't feel like a gay man because so many gay men are focused only on fucking and 80 % of gay porn is analcentric.
 
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Not into buttfucking any more. I used to top guys years ago, but with having to use condoms, even that's not much fun anymore. Guys can blow me, or we can jerk off together...
 

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can't agree more.

i like seeing buff straight guys getting fucked in the ass for the 1st time (gotta love the moaning and the screaming)

but then when it comes to me the feeling of something splitting my butt is just to much to handle

tried fingering (quite nice) but the feeling afterward(not nice)

cheers
 

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I have and will top if the guy wants me too, but it's not that important to me, but I do enjoy it. With a man, I love touching and mutual masturbation and oral sex are huge turn ons.

Bottoming is something like valasario said..extremely hot to watch, but way too painful :eek:. Unlike valasario, fingering does feel very nice without the displeasure afterwards, if done correctly.
 

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I haven't tried anal and to be honest the thought does not turn me on as much as oral. And with my j/o buddy I just love holding him most of all and the body contact and am cool with that, then again I might enjoy topping him just not ready for that. Besides just j/o is safe and stress free.
 
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I saw a post on the thread I wrote about sex acts you don't like where one guy that's gay wrote about how he's not into anal sex at all. I'm wondering if there are lots of us around?

Of course there are. I know many gay couples (and singles) who have no expressed interest in penetration from either direction.

I don't like giving or getting anal sex and to me it's just boring and way too many bisexual and gay men seem to be into it because they think that they have to do it

Hmmm...I don't know why anyone would do something like that just because they assume it is a requirement. I engage in anal (topping and bottoming) because I like both. If I did not enjoy the acts, I would not participate in them, irrespective of what anyone else thought.

and then a lot of them seem to buy into the stereotypical heterosexual roles like if a man is a Top for anal sex it makes him masculine, bottoms/passive men are feminine,
Agreed. This thinking is an internalization of heterosexual power dynamics. The person being fucked is always in control. You can not fuck someone unless they allow you to do so. There is nothing inherently less masculine about bottoming and there is nothing more masculine about topping. In fact, I have met some really feminine, nelly guys who are total tops and the most masculine, butch men who prefer to bottom exclusively.

and men who say that they are versatile are really just bottoms but afraid to admit it!

Yes, this is a rampant problem. Vers means vers in my book. My Hubby and I are vers. We give and take from each other. All the time.

So if you are gay or bisexual and not into anal sex at all why aren't you?

This is an interesting question. I am looking forward to more member responses.
 

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I think there is a widespread image in the general population that gay=anal sex. It's one of the biggest impediments to getting gay rights passed. Perhaps this comes from the idea that the essence of heterosexual sex is penis into vagina, so by logical extension a gay penis must go into an analogous gay hole.

Certainly this is what was on Senator Strom Thurmond's mind during the Senate hearings on the UCMJ prohibition on homosexuals, way back when Don't Ask, Don't Tell was being formulated. He all but called us fudgepackers. I fantasized about being the one at the mike and saying, "But Senator, one can be homosexual without ever taking it up the ass!" and watching his dentures drop out of his head in bewilderment. I would also have mentioned to the old coot that one can be homosexual without ever having touched another human being, a concept that doubtless would have made his head explode. Finally, I'd hit him with the fact that probably 3 out of 4 actual instances of anal sex in America occur among heterosexual couples. By the way, the UCMJ specifically calls ALL oral and anal sex incompatible with military service, so technically... any one in the service who has ever gotten a blowjob or eaten pussy should be out on the streets. Yup, a gay man who has never touched another male is out, but a straight man who engages in heterosexual sodomy on a regular basis is most welcome.

I tried anal with my first 2 boyfriends and thoroughly disliked it. Vowed to never do it again. Besides, I preferred topping and my current partner did, too. We've been together almost 5 years and haven't fucked, though he is a hopeless ass man and we do a lot of buttplay to keep him happy.

I think that gay porn makes everyone think that anal sex is a given, but at least half the couples I know don't engage in it. There is no limit to the other interesting and fun things to do.
 

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I'd rather suck dick than eat pussy, rather fuck pussy than ass, and rather play with a guy's dick than a woman's pussy.

I've fucked guys and watched their eyes roll back in their heads as they came w/o touching themselves, never even come close to that on the handful of times I've been on the receiving end although the bottoming headspace was interesting.
 
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can't agree more.

i like seeing buff straight guys getting fucked in the ass for the 1st time (gotta love the moaning and the screaming)

but then when it comes to me the feeling of something splitting my butt is just to much to handle

tried fingering (quite nice) but the feeling afterward(not nice)

cheers

Not everyone is into it that's for sure. I know lots of men who equate a few fingers with saying how to them it feels like being fisted which is not something I'd want to have done to me. How are those guys straight if they are having sex with men or do you mean those videos where women fuck men with strapon dildos?
 
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This is a great discussion. I have done everything sexually at least once, and often more than once. From the get-go, however, nothing ever turned me on as much as oral sex. With me, it's all about the bulge, cock, balls and seed and all the sexy and fun scenarios that feature those things. My blog says a lot about my passion and older posts talk about my genesis as a seriously oral guy. Anal sex had pretty much proven to be risky at best, if not downright dangerous, for a whole list of reasons. I get the attraction and the draw to such an act, but for me personally, nothing beats being down between an endowed oral tops legs watching his cock thicken in his briefs waiting for service. Just too hot for words!
 

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Hey all I am into big cocks cut or un-cut love big cocks and yea I can take 12 inches,, and as miminal 7 inches love them if they are extra thick too,,love to bottom for big cocks,, would not want it any other way,, and if the guy loves to bottom I would love to accomidate him as a top,, but some guys say they are versatal and that is true, and it's not correct to assume all guys who clame to be versatal are bottoms at most because that is not the case some are what they say they are... I am one who is versatal and that also includes oral and I always swallow cum.. just being honist
 

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I tried anal with my first 2 boyfriends and thoroughly disliked it. Vowed to never do it again. Besides, I preferred topping and my current partner did, too. We've been together almost 5 years and haven't fucked, though he is a hopeless ass man and we do a lot of buttplay to keep him happy.

I think that gay porn makes everyone think that anal sex is a given, but at least half the couples I know don't engage in it. There is no limit to the other interesting and fun things to do.

So if you haven't had anal intercourse and your partner likes it what other types of sex have you had? Do you mean buttplay as other types of anal sex like rimming, fingers, toys, or fisting?