Any hope here?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by fak_et, Sep 26, 2007.

  1. fak_et

    fak_et New Member

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    Well guys, Ive changed my whole attitude towards girls and Ive stepped my game up tremendously in the past half a year or so. I learned a lot, specifically how to get what I want, not to get attached to one girl, you gotta go after many if you want results, and just straight up confidence to approach girls anywhere.

    I found a girl that is top notch, on a level I haven't found before. I was doing awesome and I think I screwed up. Now i know better than to stay attached but I also know i don't find this type of girl every day. Id like to give her one more shot, let me know what you think.

    Basically, met her a while ago, hung out a few times over the summer and beginning of this year. Couple dates and i escalated stuff, she invited me over one night. We watched a movie, cuddled a lot, made out and stuff. Went to a party, came back, and she invited me to spend the night. We talked a lot and I guess she was expecting to get fucked. Talked about having a relationship and both of us kinda agreed. She started talking about her old bf and it really killed the mood for me and completely turned me off so I kind of just went with it and went to bed.

    Woke up the next day and she said she wanted to take things slow. She told one of my buddies i was too innocent for her. I ran into her at a party few days later and got a decline to an invite back to my place.

    Right now Im knocked into friend zone, she still talks to me and stuff and I still see her once in a while.

    My plan is to ignore her for a while and maybe ask her on a date and do what I do best.

    Im not obsessed or anything, if it doesn't work, it doesn't work, I can always find other ladies (I will admit ive been slacking the past couple weeks with classes and such).
     
  2. Not_Punny

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    I don't get it. Did you fuck her brains out when you went to bed with her?

    If she invited you, and you didn't step up to the plate, she might be disappointed. Worse, she might be insulted.

    If that's the case, the only "way back" is a bouquet of flowers and an apology for not worshiping her the way she should have been. :wink:
     
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    If your into her that much go to her the next chance you get and put it all on the line, and let her know why she turned you off, and that it wasn`t because you`re not attracted to her because you are, that you just wanted to make sure you were`nt going to take advantage of her emotions, because basically that`s what you did, women love honesty.

    lafever
     
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    If your read the text fully and indudge what was being said, you will have noticed that it was the girl who put the 'down mood' on matters, talking about her ex BF. It should have been HER that did the aplogising and making up, not the guy! Typical woman attitude!
     
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    I might agree with that if the spectre of the old boyfriend hadn't been raised. What kind of girl talks about her previous boyfriend just before she's about to have sex with a new guy? It's like a girl reaching down your pants for the first time and saying, "You know, I really liked meeting your mom. She's great."

    If he brought it up then shame on him. They both should have quashed that right out of the gate.
     
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    How dare he not fuck her when she invited him to! The nerve of some men!
    Doesn't he know men are just fucking machines with no feelings?
     
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    And that quote from a man! Jeeze!
     
  8. Not_Punny

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    Wow. This is a lot of hating, guys. What is it, bash up Milf day today?

    If you were to phone up the woman and ask her what happened, you'd probably find that I struck pretty close to home.

    Reread what happened from a WOMAN'S viewpoint.... (the blue text is a quote from the OP, the red text is how a woman interprets the events)

    Went to a party, came back, and she invited me to spend the night. We talked a lot and I guess she was expecting to get fucked. Talked about having a relationship and both of us kinda agreed. My last relationship was pretty bad, and I don't want it to happen that way again. I'm still hurting about it, and I'm going to talk about it... it would be nice to get some sympathy and I also want to know if me and this man share some of the same viewpoints... (starts talking about ex bf)

    She started talking about her old bf and it really killed the mood for me and completely turned me off so I kind of just went with it and went to bed.
    ??? Sorry. If a guy isn't empathetic or grown up enough to deal with my emotions, he doesn't deserve to be in my bed.

    I know men would prefer it if women didn't emote or talk so much, but there you have it. Women would prefer it if men didn't spend so much time watching sports and helped more with the dishes.

    The eternal difference between the sexes.

    If everyone was gay, we'd all get along so much better.

    Grow up a little guys. I'm reporting "female truth" and you're bashing me for it.
     
  9. optimum

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    I don't think they were bashing you, perse. All have been valid points. She may want to talk about her ex, but she should do it with other people, and not be so anxious to jump into another relationship with a guy if she's that scared and heartbroken.

    It makes no sense to dump it all on him. And if it was 'she' who was looking for sex instead of 'him', then I'd have to assume the woman isn't as emotionally stable about her relationships as you may think she is.

    No harm, no foul. Either way, it sounds like it's not going anywhere, and should just be left alone.
     
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    Well, howdy handsome. Hmmmm. I can see your viewpoint, but I can also see hers.

    :wink:
     
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    I got nothing but love for ya, HotMilf.

    Just trying to keep the peace.
     
  12. socoken

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    Shes speaking the truth. If a girl brings up her ex at a time like that, she just needs to hear a few "I would never do that to you"s and "Ive never done that before"s to make sure youre not a dirtball like the ex was to get hot and ready for you. Dont let the ex talk intimidate you, you are better than he was, and you know it.
     
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    That's actually not a bad policy, Socoken. Def. good for boosting the confidence of the situation. However, it just always tongue-ties a guy when a subject like that is brought up.

    "Is she still into him?"
    "Am I actually playing the rebound role?"
    "Would she go back to him at any time she's with me?"

    I just think it's the wrong topic to bring up so quickly, although I am totally for talking out feelings and trying to show the woman you'll care for her. The problem is, I don't know what answer she'd be expecting. So many guys will just blow smoke up her ass to get what they want, and if one speaks the truth and says "Your ex can blow me," then drop the subject, she probably won't be too happy with that outcome either.

    Touchy subject, touchy subject.
     
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    Hmmm, ampblaster. Finally from all the trolls, we get someone new worth reading. You need to post more.
     
  15. whatireallywant

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    I had always been told that you don't bring up your exes in conversation with someone you're dating. Can't say that I never have done so, but it was well into the relationship, and he brought up HIS exes in conversation as well. I only really brought up one ex, since I only had one long(ish) term relationship before dating my one longest-term bf.
     
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    One who is trying to find a way to talk about sex some more. And if that was the case, him taking it personally means fak_et has not progressed as far as he would like to think.

    In your case, fak_et, you just let jealousy take your fresh pussy from underneath your nose, and leave you with a bowl of sour grapes. Tough way to learn.

    It has been my experience, if you fuck up the first time, forget getting a second chance. I don't know why, but after the first time, things get awkward.

    See my argggghhhhh thread, if you want some sympathy.
     
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    Alright so I gave it a couple weeks and went after some other girls in the meantime so i didnt waste time on a situation that wasn't going anywhere. I stopped talking to the girl to give it reset things but she still called,texted,imed a lot which i responded to most of the time.


    I went on another date with the girl mentioned here and things went well. Pretty much told her that i know she was expecting a bit more the other night and I knew i blew it for getting emotional over it. She told me she would give me another chance so things are good. She went outta town for the weekend so when she comes back Ill make another move. I shouldn't have a problem this time, i know what im doing.
     
  18. Mr. Snakey

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    Well said..................:smile:
     
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    I agree but I would have been knockin the brakes off that. No disrespect to you. Hey got any tips please send me a message
     
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