Any men ever cheat on their gf/wife with another man ?

From the perspective of a "gay label" guy who has had an ongoing sexual relationship with three married men, I would like to make a comment.

I have never wanted to have sex with anyone - male or female - who was cheating, ie. their partner was unaware of the situation. It is very important to me that anyone wanting an open relationship with their spouse or committed partner should have thoroughly discussed this extra-relationship with the partner and got their free knowledge and agreement.

If you are using the word "cheating" more loosely to mean extra-marital sexual relationships that a wife or girlfriend knows about and agrees then I have no concern.

One was a fellow doctor in the hospital in which i worked. His wife fancied me, too, and she knew that her husband and i were having sex a couple of times a week. She was envious that she couldn't have a similar sexual relationship with me but she agreed that her husband and I could be sexual. It ended when he moved away to be a GP and distance relationship was unfeasible.

Another was the husband of a female doctor colleague, They were close friends of mine. We acknowledged and discussed that prior to their marriage, I fancied him, he fancied her and she fancied me. Before they became a couple, she and I had sex together but we stopped as there wasn't really a future to that aspect of our friendship. Later, when they had been married for three years, he decided that he didn't see sexual orientation in a categorical sense and wanted to explore his curiosity of having sex with men. The 3 of us discussed it and he and I had an intermittent sexual relationship for 4 years. It ended when he had sex with several women without discussing it with his wife and they decided to divorce. His 2nd wife did not want him to have sex with me. Additionally, they also divorced because he had sex with other women without her knowledge and agreement.

The third was a bisexual (mainly gay) doctor, who had married a bisexual woman so they could conform to their respective family's heterosexual expectations. There was no problem about him being my partner because she had a female partner.

A once-off "almost" extra-marital episode occurred. I became friendly with a quantum physicist and we developed a bromantic relationship. He would say, "If I were gay, i would love to have you as my boyfriend.". When he got married, he and his wife stayed with me on their wedding night on the way to their honeymoon holiday. When I gave them coffee in bed the next morning, she encouraged me to get in bed with them because I was getting cold sitting in my underwear talking to them. She urged her husband to explore his sexual boundaries. We 3 kissed and cuddled. All 3 of us got turned on. She and i masturbated each other for a short time and she put his hand on my cock and I held his cock. After a few strokes, he felt anxious and I left them to it to have sex together while I had a shower, dressed and made breakfast.

I expect honesty and trust and consideration of each other's feelings in any close relationship. Some people choose monogamy. Others may choose to have an open relationship. Any change in the relationship regarding extra-marital relationships should, in my opinion, be discussed openly, and sensitively. Similarly, if a couple agree to extra lovers then each new relationship should be discussed and only begin if the spouse or partner knows and agrees to it taking place.

If anyone chooses to cheat then they would be advised to be able to handle any possible consequences which may occur.
 
I have posted enough times over the years, on my opinion of cheaters. Be they M/M M/F F/F, unless the relationship is just to toxic; or has become so non sexual as there are no other avenues; or lines of communications left between the partners,

Open relationships, where one partner knows and acknowledges the other partners outside sexual activities, is technically not cheating; and many relationships function very well in this manner.
 
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what is wrong with people if you want to sleep around dont get in a relationship dont care if youre straight, bi, pan, gay, les, cheating is cheating.
 
Like @ronin001, I've posted enough times for people to know my views on 'cheating'.

Nicely stated...
If "X" is an agreed part of the relationship, then you shouldn't cheat. It has nothing to do with the genders involved. If it is not an agreed expectation, then it isn't 'cheating'. Things get complicated in that area of assumed versus verbalized expectations.

If the relationship isn't providing what you need/crave, then you need to discuss it and see what solutions are available.


Bluntly put..
If you crave getting fucked by a cock, then either she's going to have to use a dildo/strap-on or agree that another guy's dick joining your sex play (either together or separately). If that isn't cool with your wife/gf, then one of you will have to re-prioritize your life choices. Either she's going to have to let you get fucked, or, you're going to have to accept not having dick, or, one of you is leaving the relationship.
 
I'm gay so have never had a romantic/sexual relationship with a female/woman. From 1997 up until 2011 when I moved away from where I was living, I regularly fucked with 2 different guys, they didn't know about each other, both had gf, one had various gf's over that time, the other had a long term gf. It was always hot. The guy with the long term gf moved in with his gf in a flat & on several occasions he would text or ring me when his gf was out & we would fuck in their flat.
 
From my experience on Grindr, it's pretty common for str8 married men to hmu especially those on business trips.
Ok I'm going to sound old & out of touch but what does 'hmu' mean?
 
What exactly are you calling cheating? I'm in a sexless , (and I mean sexless, no playing, no oral, no touching), for 16 years. Would having outside sex be cheating?
And No I havent
 
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So essentially the OP wants to hear stories from scumbags about how they decided to become scumbags.

I'll never understand how bi-curious or bisexual dudes think that as long as they cheat on their female partner with another man, that it doesn't really count as cheating. Whether one is getting some strange from a female mistress or on the down-low with a man, you are betraying the trust of your partner that you made some kind of commitment to. Unless it is with the full knowledge and approval, such as in an open-marriage or swinging situation, you are going behind their back and deserve scorn. And no, not getting sex or even a certain sexual act with your current partner mitigates that or serves as an excuse.

Since someone decided in their not so well thought out wisdom to nerco-bump this old-ass thread and the OP hasn't returned to it since starting it, one has to wonder if he ever followed through on his urge to join the ranks of the cheating scumbags or not.
 
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I’ve never cheated on a woman with another woman. I have cheated on every woman I’ve been with (except my wife) with another man. I have never cheated on any man I have been in a relationship with
 
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