[quote author=DoubleMeatWhopper link=board=youth;num=1055913166;start=20#27 date=06/20/03 at 09:36:42]But, Javier, he's not seeking support; he's looking for a way to suggest handjobs and blowjobs to friends without being perceived as gay...[/quote]
I'm with Javier on this one (he is seeking support), and in fact, I feel increasingly sympathetic to Small because, at 13, I was once in that situation. I'm sure many more of us, members here even, could probably relate even though no one's really speaking up here.
It sounds like Small is more than comfortable with the idea of being "experimental" with his peers, and perhaps he's frustrated because not only is it a difficult topic to bring up much less discuss with said peers, but because it seems as if we're mocking him when he's looking for a little bit of reassurance or confirmation.
Yes, Whopper, Dantesco, and whoever else chimed in... calling him gay like this...
[quote author=DoubleMeatWhopper link=board=youth;num=1055913166;start=0#8 date=06/18/03 at 08:12:35]If you're not gay, then why do want... (ed. my emphasis)[/quote]
isn't going to help his situation, irregardless of your own feelings during your specific periods of pubescent exploration.
Reinstating that such desires (i.e. handjobs and blowjobs from his friends) typifies gay behavior only sets the kid up for further anguish down the road; and though he's going through maturity now, I think people at 13 are way too young to start trying to figure out if they're gay, bi, transgendered, or whatever. Grow a little first! I know some people have grown to accept their sexuality at an early age -- good for you, but perhaps not good for everyone else, you know?
No wonder the kid was so vague about his question. I'm willing to bet that it took more than enough courage on his behalf to bring it up here, even though we're all but strangers.
Truth is, Small, there's not a whole lot you can do about this developing curiosity, interest, or what have you. It's good that you can accept this curiosity and you want to act on it in a seemingly healthy manner. Unless you know of a good friend who is also curious and that you can trust, you're pretty much out of luck though, sorry to say. I was lucky. I had a teenage buddy that approached me with the idea. Yeah, I thought it was strange -- and though I didn't outright call him gay, I knew messing around would stay a secret between us! -- but I went along with it. So, listen to Longhorn on this one. Maybe a friend might bring it up or make a move, and maybe not. Maybe you can ask a good friend of yours to keep a secret, talk about it, maybe do some stuff -- and again, maybe not.
In the meantime, don't let somebody (much less a stranger on this board) tell you something that you're not... in this case, that you're gay (or will eventually turn out that way) because of these desires. Again, it's a pretty common thing for teenage men to want to explore, and even the current statistics ignore just how many won't admit to it because of feeling ashamed.