I had to think twice before complicating things more with a response but here we go. I grew up pretty much bi. I liked some girlie things but not all, I liked some boy things but not all, I didn't have a good bond with either of my parents, I always saw the gray side of issues. Being different from girls and from boys turned me introverted and lonely, plus I didn't grow up with enough looks to make me feel better. Sexually I never or hardly ever even then fantasize about a woman on her own, it was always a woman being banged by a huge cock, that was how impressive my first porn movie was to me. Dating women, as you'd have imagined by now, would prove to be a painful experience. I wasn't goodlooking, I was awkward, I wasn't Tom Selleck. But...men had their minds on cocks, and I had one. I peed with it at a public toilet and noticed another man's admiration of it. Before I could walk away he called me back, whispered "Wow, that's a really nice cock. Lemme suck it." So there I was, being admired for the first time, feeling good about myself for the first time, and THEN sucked for the first time, and that man knew what he was doing I can tell you that. The rest is history, 3 m2m relationships, better oral skills, and a happy anus later, one would think the story ends. But no. I became single again and caught the eye of a girl. She wouldn't stop, I just let her, I thought, "Well, I won't get hard anyway, that'll stop her." But I did. And MAN! her pussy was better than any ass or mouth my penis has ever been. So we went steady, and I was the happiest horniest man in the world. Once a month, I'd go to the nearest cruising spot to go back to "my boys", get my male energy fix, suck some good cock. Anonymous sex rules. Years later, I meet another girl, was I getting more attractive? I don't know, but we didn't talk much, she had only one thing on her mind, she sucked me like a man, being a pretty good sucker myself, she earned my two thumbs up. We fucked, and fucked again. Now I have a wife, suck loads of cock on the side, and cheat with a woman I hardly know. I'm beginning to fantasize about women again, this time on their own, no cocks around. One thing's for sure, my biggest turn on is the casualness of sex, and more men are more casual about it than women, hence, more male partners for me. Bottom line for me by now is that you can't measure sexuality based on frequency or number of partners first of all. 2nd, sexuality for the majority of us isn't as rigid at birth as we think, it is controlled and molded by social factors, 3rd, M2M sexual dynamic is so much simpler than M2F, 4th, that that is slowly changing. Anonymous casual str8 sex will no longer be an exclusive privilege for the chiselled god's gift to women types, losers like me will be able to get some of that too, and hopefully with slightly more attractive women. haha. Perhaps in the future this will mean that some guys who would've been exclusively straight will be a lot more gay, and some who would've been exclusively gay will be a lot more straight, despite genetic predispositions. But then you'll never know until you try. Find a non-judgemental environment, or situation, and then try it out, go suck cock, get fucked, don't worry about losing your manhood, because gay or straight, ultimately, the greater majority of us (especially the men I think) will enjoy any form of sex! (Although anal can be quite a shocker...there are tricks and techniques out there, lucky for me I've been blessed with a supple sphincter muscle, so don't ask me for advice, anal is not for beginners). So, personally it's been tricky deciding my sexuality because not every factor exerts equal pressure on either gender.
Socially, I like my straight friends because they don't discriminate against me, I'm as straight as they'd want me to be without having to play football. My gay friends turn their backs because they want me to forget about pussy, since most of are repulsed by it, are they jealous? I don't know. But I certainly can't handle all their viscious back biting and gossip. But in homage to them and all the cocks I've enjoyed sucking, I've rated myself 60% gay. I've stopped figuring it out to be perfectly honest, so I suggest you all just go out there and enjoy the best of everything.
Peace!
Randy