Any Tips on how to fix bad blowjob skills?

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I have been dating someone for a few months now and things are pretty good. She is very sweet and I love spending time with her. Her oral skills are really bad though. She hates doing it and has terrible gag reflex.

Any tips to help out?
 

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I have been dating someone for a few months now and things are pretty good. She is very sweet and I love spending time with her. Her oral skills are really bad though. She hates doing it and has terrible gag reflex.

Any tips to help out?

You need to discuss it with her. If it makes her gag very quickly, it might be too physically unpleasant for her to do it. Perhaps she can work the head only in her mouth, with her using her hands vigorously on the shaft? But you do need to talk. She needs to be onboard before you get a good bj. And when having that discussion with, I would lead it by asking her how you could improve in going down on her. Take a "let's give each other more pleasure" approach, not a "you're terrible about giving head approach." Oh, one last thing, encourage her to play with your cock, without regard to you orgasm. Sounds like she's tense and needs to relax. Tickling, licking, etc might ease her fear.
 

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Maybe. She is wife material in so many ways, but obviously this is an issue.

This may or may not prevent a long-term relationship, but don't give up quite yet. I think my bj skills were poor and awkward to start with. Now I can suck a dude till his ears pop. If she's interested in improving, give her a chance.
 

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Yes... get someone that can suck cock properly. It aint fuckin rocket science
 

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Time to hang that shit in your rear view. Get Out STAT!

Haha.



I really don't have any tips for you/her other than practice (and you communicating to her) makes perfect. There's of course bj instructional vids on the internet she may want to check out. The gag reflex can be fixed over time, was for me anyway, but if she flat out hates the act that doesn't bode well for you. What will end up happening is you'll reach a comfort zone in your relationship after a time and she just won't do it anymore. So you gotta ask yourself, can you live without blowjobs?
 

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Practice alot! If she is not willing to blow you, that could be a problem. My girlfriend and I both love oral, and we agreed that if the other didn't that it could be a deal-breaker.

We have been together for a while now, and as posted earlier, communication will improve things. My girl has always given me blowjobs, and I was happy just to get one at all the first time she did it. Over time, it is amazing how much she has improved.

I say if your girl is willing, then you can work on it. She doesn't have to deepthroat your cock, like in porn videos, for it to feel amazing.
 

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Giving a good blow job is all about attitude. Like cunnilingus, it is about how much you want to please your partner. I married a woman who doesn't think that way...to my life-long chagrin. If it is important to you, work with her now. It may indicate a lack of...uh...interest in things sexual.

Or may not...
 

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Practice, patience, and maybe some throat numbing spray to suppress the gag reflex. You could turn the tables on her - hold her down and eat her until she screams and begs you to stop, then keep doing it. If she sees the kind of reaction oral sex give, she might realize the power she can have by giving toe curling blow jobs. And of course, maybe she just doesn't like it, won't ever like it.
 

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I have seen a post on here just a little bit ago about how to deep throat and that had some interesting points. Maybe a little instruction but only if she is willing to. She might have had a bad experience at one given time so your best bet is to talk to her and figure out if it is a hang up or a preference.
 

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I have been dating someone for a few months now and things are pretty good. She is very sweet and I love spending time with her. Her oral skills are really bad though. She hates doing it and has terrible gag reflex.

Any tips to help out?
Let's start with what you can control. Make sure you are scrupulously clean. Make sure your ass doesn't stink. Bathe and get all your nooks and crannies clean. If you have your foreskin intact clean that too.

Make sure you let her drive the bus. If she is having problems with gagging, you can't be thrusting.

Positive reinforcement works better than criticism. Don't make her feel like she is taking some kind of test.
 

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are you uncut? That can be an issue for some women. Depending on age and experience you may be able to "fix" this situation. However, if after trying there's no improvement...you need to find someone who can give you what you need, and for men b/j is up there with breathing and water so no one is going to blame you for dumping her.

Lets face it you gotta give it, to get it