Any tips on how to last longer?

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  1. D_Benjammin Franklin

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    Hi everyone. Ok, so I'm asking for any tips you might have on how to last longer.

    It seems that as the years go by, it's like I'm becoming even more sensitive, or maybe it's more mental... I'm not sure. I'm not saying that I only last a minute... but I often cum sooner that I would like... when I'd like to last longer for my partner.

    I've tried those "climax control" condoms... but they are almost too strong, then make it hard to cum later when I actually am ready... not to mention that my partner and I don't use condoms.

    Any devices (cock rings?), techniques (positions, or tricks) that could help me last a wee bit longer to ensure my partner gets what she needs too?

    This isn't always a problem for me... it comes and goes "so to speak ;)"

    Thanks
     
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    how long definitely can depend on when during the day you are having sex. I find in the morning i'm quick, at night i'm much better. But usually when you don't last as long as you'd like, its more mental. By this i mean you are completely thinking about your dick and when you're going to cum. Try a lot of relaxation techniques and think of a full body pleasure idea while having sex and see if it helps
     
  3. D_Benjammin Franklin

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    Truck, you may be right. Perhaps I am focusing to much on my dick and the pleasure of the sex... I need to separate myself somehow.

    I haven't figured out if it's a mental thing forsure... but I would definitely like to have more control.
     
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    It's ALL mental! YOU control your body. Think about other things and pretend it's just the usual and not extraordinary. In my younger years (adolescence through early 20's) I used to pinch myself on the leg to not enjoy or heighten my sexual awareness.
    That helped me reach that plateau where I could maintain and enjoy without ejaculating. Remember that breathing is crucial! Long, deep breaths (w/o sounding like you're panting Lol!) help you reach that plateau and maintain it. It's like a runners high.
    If it's been a while don't be disappointed if you release sooner than expected. A drink or two will help take the anxious edge off also in this case with a new date. It takes a few more consistent times to "get back in the groove."
     
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    I'm just the opposite. I can last longer in the morning or midday than at night.

    To answer the OP's question, I find that staying relaxed, staying healthy, getting rid of stress, and getting plenty of sleep each night helps.
     
  6. D_Benjammin Franklin

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    Thanks for this ;) Maybe easier said than done... but worth a shot!

     
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    When I was younger I suffered from same thing...would start to shoot cum as soon as I buried it in her pussy. I got over it by jacking off an hour before we had sex. over time I got over it.

    Mike
     
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    I can keep my man from cumming by changine position when he's getting close. I hear that thinking about math problems or sports stats can help too. Don't know if that last bit is true or not.
     
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    simple: thoughts and breathing, if that doesn't do then as previously mentioned, bust a nut by hand a an hour before. :)
     
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    Here's two things I do that make it so that I can go hours if wanted...

    1. Focus all your attention on her. I'm taking about everything she does. How she looks back at you, when and why she moans, if she clinches, etc. Focus enough on how hot the girl is when you're making her hot and you'll find that you're actually pacing yourself better while still enjoying yourself.

    2. If the sex is just too good and you don't want to cum, pull out, milk your penis from behind the balls all the way to the tip, pinching off at the head. This will give you a well needed break while loosening up any build up that would result in you exploding.
     
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    I'm 60 and so take a 1/2 Viagra if I want a long fuck session. It slows the sensitivity and helps to prolong the event. also if you do cum too quickly, its easy to get hard again quite quickly and continue.
     
  13. D_Benjammin Franklin

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    thanks for all the tips everyone!
     
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    i find that when i do my new girlfriend doggie style, i cant hold out as long as i can in other positions. i think its cause she fucks back really hard. it sucks cause i really want to fuck her for a long doggie session but everytime its a finisher for me
     
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    zoloft from your urologist
     
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    It's all a question of confidence/arrogance. If you don't believe you are the master stud destined to shag her brains out - you won't be, & you'll probably pick up less women too - women know when a man is confident in his abilities!

    Every guy goes through the odd spell of doubt in his life, & you're lucky that it makes you come before you want to, rather than the Melty Man paying you a visit!

    When you see top athletes & musicians consistently outperform their peers, it's all due to self belief. That comes through practice,training & discipline - it's no different with sex.

    When you masturbate take a long time over it(edging techniques), & NEVER get lost in the moment having sex, unless you are satisfied that it's the right time - you must control your body - don't let it control you. Swap positions & deny yourself an orgasm.

    I have sex for hours doing all sorts to keep us both interested, & don't come half the time (too bloody tired!) - because orgasm should not be your goal, just prolonged intensely gratifying sexual feelings. The more you get used to not coming, the longer you will last, you'll be confident, & have control.

    And yes, alcohol does help!

    Good luck!
     
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    I find that deep even breaths help me control my orgasm. My girl's noticed a difference
     
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    Send me a PM if you still want to know how.
     
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