This thread is kind of depressing to read. I lost my virginity when I was 16, but as each year passed I got less and less action. I've only been with 12 girls in my life, and I'm 37 now. Not to go too long into a tale of woe, but shit went really bad in my life at 16 and didn't really improve for a long time. I hated myself and it showed. Unfortunately, I wasn't one of those super good looking wounded angel types, so no girls were lining up to fix me.
I think a lot of what I read from the guys here reflects low self esteem, I know that's what stopped me. It's this simple. If you find a reason to like yourself, that lets other people know that there is something worth liking. If a girl (sorry I don't have much advice to offer to gay guys because I'm not really sure how that works in a social sense) smiles at you, plays with her hair, and checks to see if you're watching her walk away, she wants you to try it on. Even if she's really not interested in you (and just likes attention) she won't be offended. If you get rejected, it doesn't matter. It just means that one girl isn't interested. There are about 3 billion more to try and talk too. If you are afraid of rejection, don't be. Its nothing. If you hit on twenty girls and only one says yes, that is the one you will remember.
To be honest, sex isn't the most important thing in the world. I like being with someone I care about, so I'm not advocating some kind of desperate attempt to sleep with as many women as possible. But a lot of what stops you from just trying to get with girls in general, is the same thing that stops you from developing intimacy with girls that you really like.
@teasing temptress. I'm not going to go on about how beautiful I think you are (because you've heard it from me before) but what I will tell you is that your English is great. Come to the United States. You will need an assistant to help you deal with all the guys lining up to meet you. You will be a goddess here. I hope you meet someone special, because sex with some guy who thinks he's settling for you will suck. You are incredible, and you deserve a guy who will worship your body!
I think a lot of what I read from the guys here reflects low self esteem, I know that's what stopped me. It's this simple. If you find a reason to like yourself, that lets other people know that there is something worth liking. If a girl (sorry I don't have much advice to offer to gay guys because I'm not really sure how that works in a social sense) smiles at you, plays with her hair, and checks to see if you're watching her walk away, she wants you to try it on. Even if she's really not interested in you (and just likes attention) she won't be offended. If you get rejected, it doesn't matter. It just means that one girl isn't interested. There are about 3 billion more to try and talk too. If you are afraid of rejection, don't be. Its nothing. If you hit on twenty girls and only one says yes, that is the one you will remember.
To be honest, sex isn't the most important thing in the world. I like being with someone I care about, so I'm not advocating some kind of desperate attempt to sleep with as many women as possible. But a lot of what stops you from just trying to get with girls in general, is the same thing that stops you from developing intimacy with girls that you really like.
@teasing temptress. I'm not going to go on about how beautiful I think you are (because you've heard it from me before) but what I will tell you is that your English is great. Come to the United States. You will need an assistant to help you deal with all the guys lining up to meet you. You will be a goddess here. I hope you meet someone special, because sex with some guy who thinks he's settling for you will suck. You are incredible, and you deserve a guy who will worship your body!
and i would love to if only i have the means to travel there... thanks though.. being chubby in my place where the men think women should be stick figures is degrading..which is why I dont think I'm beautiful.. I dont think I'm ugly. but in no means beautiful
