Anybody Else A "side"?

How do you feel about anal?

  • I'd do it all the time if I could

    Votes: 16 15.5%
  • I enjoy it quite a bit, but prefer to mix things up

    Votes: 29 28.2%
  • About even compared to other types of sex

    Votes: 3 2.9%
  • I enjoy it once in a while, but prefer other types of sex

    Votes: 33 32.0%
  • I would prefer to never do it

    Votes: 22 21.4%

  • Total voters
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I didn't know there was a term for this until recently, but I've never really been into anal- with a guy, girl, non-binary, genderfluid person, etc. I've always thought of myself as a top because I like to be serviced orally and manually, but apparently, the term for this is called a "Side"- guys who prefer mutual masturbation, oral sex, handjobs, etc. to anal sex.

Curious to know if anybody else is like this.
 

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Hey man, I feel you 100% on this. I'm gay/bi, and I've done anal with guys, but mainly because that was their thing--otherwise, I could take it or (preferably) leave it. My favorite sexual thing ever (besides making out) is cock to cock jo. Nothing is hotter.
Btw, super hot pics and vids!
 

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If you mean the gay side of things... I don't really like the stereotypical male muscled hairy ass... if dude has soft clean jiggly ass I'm down for it though.

Regarding being on the receiving end I've had my share of that... i did it just to break the taboo and mentally enjoy being a mischevous slut... but I already did my duty and don't think I'm about to do it again since it feels awful for me physically...

Anal sex is also less "down to earth". It needs a lot preparation and sometimes accidents happen, of the brown colored type.
 
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I use to suck dick a lot, I love cum. On occasion, I'd find guys that just love oral, but also loved cumming on my ass after sliding it between my ass cheeks for a few minutes. I thought that was hot as fuck. I don't have to get fucked to have a good time.
 

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I didn't know the term either. I've never heard anyone who services me refer to themselves as a side.

While almost all guys want me to top I've been with many who don't like or want anal. Some just want to service me orally with no other contact. Some like/want other cock play like frotting, hotdogging, thigh fucking, body rubbing and massage including tantric lingam massage or something as simple as showering together. I love it all.

The other thing to remember is that not all bottoms want to bottom every time. Though I rarely look at a guy's backside without wanting to get inside it there are plenty ways to get intimate short of anal. :)

Just making out is killa. Though I like getting my rocks off I've always thought foreplay--especially long lingering foreplay--is the best part of sex.

I don't have to get fucked to have a good time.

^This. :cool:
 

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I can relate. Not really into butt stuff. On the rare occasion I’ll fuck a bottom. Much prefer to play with other hung tops. Oral, frotting, some body contact are all hot to me. Tried bottoming a few times and it was a combo of pain and pleasure, but mostly pain. Got that curiosity out of me. I Don’t have so much of an issue with fucking a girl anally, just not into that activity with men. I’m pretty cock-centric.
 

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I didn't know there was a term for this until recently, but I've never really been into anal- with a guy, girl, non-binary, genderfluid person, etc. I've always thought of myself as a top because I like to be serviced orally and manually, but apparently, the term for this is called a "Side"- guys who prefer mutual masturbation, oral sex, handjobs, etc. to anal sex.

Curious to know if anybody else is like this.
I just learned of the term also - never quite knew what to call myself. I always went with submissive because I prefer to orally service a guy. I have never been into anal sex either way, so top/bottom never applied to me. When I heard this term, I looked it up and it hit an "aha" moment. I prefer meeting a guy that loves all the attention and pleasure given to him. When I can just focus on servicing someone, it's all i need for my own selfish pleasure.
 

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I too am a side. . I would much rather suck a guy, body rubbing and frot get me off fast. Its very sexy to me. If I have to do anal, I'll top, but never been a bottom. But as others said, its not my favorite thing to do. Rubbing dick to dick, and making out and I will cum fast.
 

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I can relate. Not really into butt stuff. On the rare occasion I’ll fuck a bottom. Much prefer to play with other hung tops. Oral, frotting, some body contact are all hot to me. Tried bottoming a few times and it was a combo of pain and pleasure, but mostly pain. Got that curiosity out of me. I Don’t have so much of an issue with fucking a girl anally, just not into that activity with men. I’m pretty cock-centric.
Do you find other tops are typically okay with skipping anal? I’m a top myself, and sometimes when I find out a guy I’m attracted to is also a top, I’ll see if he’s open to playing with just oral or other activities. Sometimes yes but I’d say it’s only half the time or less.
 

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Great thread, it's got me thinking about my "journey" over the last fifteen years. At the start I would have definitely voted to never do it. I remember the first time I was asked by a guy if he could fuck me, it was on a nudist beach, and I said no, I was only into oral. Over the years, as my experience grew, so my needs changed, and now I find myself ticking the box second down the list. I don't think I'll ever make the top category as I do like mixing it up.
 
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Do you find other tops are typically okay with skipping anal? I’m a top myself, and sometimes when I find out a guy I’m attracted to is also a top, I’ll see if he’s open to playing with just oral or other activities. Sometimes yes but I’d say it’s only half the time or less.

I tried anal, from both ends. Didn't really enjoy either.
I don't even try to contact guys who are strict tops anymore because the conversation always turns to "That was other guys, I'm going to make you love it".