Anybody else go soft immediately after ejaculating?

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  1. Ramsey

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    Is this a normal reaction? Is it a sign of an unhealthy cock or is it just the way my body reacts?
     
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    Sometimes faster than other times, but ultimately... yes. I'm a one trick pony in that regard, but I try to make up for it by lasting as long as possible :p

    Learn some tantric control and neither you nor your partner will care :p
     
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    Not to worry. That's quite normal, even if it happens with you every time--if, of course, your equipment always functions properly up to that point. It's an individual thing--sometimes shorter, sometimes longer, as Nubstar notes, and different for different men. Can depend on various outside factors, too: whether you're rested or tired, rushed or leisurely, time of day, location, etc. And it makes a world of difference whether your ejaculation is from masturbation or partnered sex. As a gay man, I can't begin to recall how many post-ejaculation subsidings I've seen, and tihe timing is always completely unpredictable. Some immediately, some "intermediately," and some "pesistentmediately". If I'm with an exciting partner and really turned on, I often literally don't subside at all until after another round or until we conclude the session. Many times I've received this reaction: "You're still hard! Don't you ever go down...?!" With masturbation, lacking the excitement of a partner, my interval varies, but most often is quite brief. (I've wondered, by the way, why Viagra warns about a 4-hour-plus boner--but I suppose a chemically induced erection is much different from a lasting natural one, since without chemicals the body can choose its own "deflation" time.) -- So put your mind at ease and just enjoy each trip--you'll inflate again soon enough for the next one.
     
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    It really depends on who I am with , how horny I am, how much he turns me on, and maybe also how tired or fit I am at the time. But what DOES almost always happen, regardless of if I stay hard or go soft, is that I need to pee about 5 minutes after I ejaculate. Does this happen to anyone else?
     
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    This is very common, in fact I would hazard a guess and say that it occurs with most men.

    The reason I believe, is that it "clears" the remaining semen in the urethra before it becomes sticky and harder to remove.

    But don't worry if you don't urinate after ejaculation I highly doubt it is a serious problem, although it may affect your aim somewhat :wink:.

    Q.
     
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    Yep! Happens to me all the time, sometimes I can ignore the urge, but other times it's like my bladders telling me "get to the bathroom, dammit!"
     
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    My head becomes hypersensitive and I go soft
     
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    likewise...
     
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    Never noticed it, no. But I do always empty my bladder before beginning a session, in order not to be distracted during activities.
     
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    Me too, but if my partner wants to go a few more rounds, I can stay hard as long as I have to. The hypersensitivity in my head wears off after 5 minutes or so, and I think it's quite fun to work through.
     
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    same with me. at times i go soft straight after cuming. other times i can stay hard for upto 20 mins. normally i need to pee after cuming and its really hard (no pun intended) when im still erect.
     
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    This relaxation after cumming is called the refractory period! It happens in every case, with no exceptions..it is a constrained biological muscle response ; the muscle controlling orgasm must relax in order for another firing to occur. The duration of relaxation can be minutes or hours or in some instances almost instantaneous for a lucky few who appear to remain erect and can cum soon again.
     
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    Yup another one shot and flop
     
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    53 male here...same as rest,,,except if using Viagra the reload time is much shorter...but have never had an extended erection past ejack...always a good ideal to whiz after sex...man and woman....stops the urinary tract infections...especially after oral...
     
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    same here, but there have been times when I've stayed hard. Makes for a great 2nd round:redface:
     
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    My dick goes down almost immediately and sometimes it take about 20 minutes, when it takes longer, i can actually fuck again and cum again, but takes alot longer to cum
     
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    Isnt this called the refractory period? Normal is to go soft and recoup. Sometimes I do stay hard, but that is more if I am by myself.
     
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