Anyone else’s wife have this issue?

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My wife and I have been together almost 20 years. The entire relationship she has had some issue with sex. When we do have sex it’s great, although it’s only once or twice a week. She says her vagina is sore and it hurts too much the day or two after. I love her and respect her wishes and try and leave her alone. It’s really frustrating because I want it every day. We tried the whole BJ thing and that’s not happening either. So far I haven’t cheated on her and really don’t want to but the urge is strong. Anyone else have this issue?
 

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What else have you tried? I've never found KY to be good for sex. I hate silicone lubes because they are hard to wash off and you feel slimy for hours or more after. There are lots of products out there - trying them all could make for a lot of fun.
 
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We use the water based liquid. She’s sensitive to other lubes. We’ve tried several. She has issues with getting UTI’s as well so we kind of have to stick with what works. There’s never any spontaneous sex. It’s a whole process with her. Kind of takes the fun out of it a little.
 
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We use the water based liquid. She’s sensitive to other lubes. We’ve tried several. She has issues with getting UTI’s as well so we kind of have to stick with what works. There’s never any spontaneous sex. It’s a whole process with her. Kind of takes the fun out of it a little.

since you live in california, you can buy Foria, a sex lube with THC.

My wife and I are in our 60's, she'd had serious dryness issues.

A little foria rubbed on the clit and she goes bat shit crazy.

my balls and cock are sore a lot, but it's worth is.
 

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since you live in california, you can buy Foria, a sex lube with THC.

My wife and I are in our 60's, she'd had serious dryness issues.

A little foria rubbed on the clit and she goes bat shit crazy.

my balls and cock are sore a lot, but it's worth is.
I didn’t know that existed! She enjoys edibles so I’m sure she would be into trying it. Can you get it at any of the weed shops? Any chance you could tell me what the one you use is called?
 
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I didn’t know that existed! She enjoys edibles so I’m sure she would be into trying it. Can you get it at any of the weed shops? Any chance you could tell me what the one you use is called?

i live in Denver, so that wouldn't help much. just google it, there are quite a few dispensaries in california that carry it. plus i think you can get it by mail within california.

she doesn't get high - well, her clit sure does. jesus... lol
 

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Water based lubricants tend to dry and have to be replenished often, I know that is a bother but like you say you have to go with what tends to work. You may be just in one of those tough spots that men have to deal with in their lives. My wife had a process and then the process changed at 45 yo when change of life started and that still goes on, all these years later. None of her Physicians seem to be able to do much about it as there are so many medications she has adverse reactions afterwards. I really feel sorry for her. We have been married now 46 years and we lived together for about 4 - 5 years prior to marriage. Good luck with your situation. I do hope you find something that works for the both of you. I know you both are in a tough situation.
 
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I have been with my wife for 25 years now. We deal with the same thing, her being sore all the time. Only difference is she is not dry. I eat her out every time till she is soaked and wants cock. We also add lube just to help more. She still gets sore no matter what. She talked to her dr and everything is fine with her. I think for some of us we just have to deal with it. The lube we use is called water slide. It is the best we ever used. Feels like her natural juices and is not sticky.
 

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use COCONUT OIL [organic] ...its the best lube ever
...no chemicals
...it tastes good
...it kills germs and infections
...it prevents urinary tract infection in the female
...use it externally and internally with no worries

...mix it with baking soda in equal parts and use it as toothpaste
...throw away your fluoride toothpaste which is POISON and destroys your teeth and brain cells [yes your Dentist is a LIAR and full of SH!T ]

HAVE A GOOD DAY ...because now your smarter than you were a minute ago
 
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Has your wife talked to her doctor, OP? There are a variety of women's health things that could be contributing. Even if there isn't anything specifically contributing, some people's genitals just don't fit together that well. That may well be the case, and that's unfortunate, if so, but there isn't a lot you can do.

As for generally having an issue with not having sex often with the partner you agreed to monogamy with? All I can suggest is talking with your partner and trying to do better for each other. If that isn't working, but everything else in your relationship is solid, depending on the people, you could discuss opening the relationship so needs are being met. I wouldn't recommend that if there are any other things that aren't working so well in the relationship, though. Or if to you it's either your wife has more sex with you (even though she's saying she's in pain) or seriously thinking of cheating... maybe y'all shouldn't be together. I'm not saying that to shame you or to be mean. Sometimes people just aren't compatible. And it would suck, especially since you two have been together for so long, but I guess you have to decide what will work or won't, for you and your wife, eh?

Anyway, just some thoughts/rambles from a stranger on the internet. Take it with a grain of salt, or feel free to ignore :)
 
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With some of my gals that I have had, despite lots of lube vaginal sex was always painful for them. When I was with my 5’ 10” tall beauty, sex had to only twice a week due to soreness. Another gal, a redhead vaginal sex was difficult. We joked like it was like putting a cork back into a bottle.
I think it has to do with my size (very girthy) and their body type.
 

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So damn funny. Just asked my wife to have sex and she replied, "I told you a long time ago that if we go back to back days I am too sore". Settled for a round of oral on each other.
...that LITTLE THING would not make a chiwawa sore ! LMAO !
...some of you people really live in fantasyland
 
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My wife and I have been together almost 20 years. The entire relationship she has had some issue with sex. When we do have sex it’s great, although it’s only once or twice a week. She says her vagina is sore and it hurts too much the day or two after. I love her and respect her wishes and try and leave her alone. It’s really frustrating because I want it every day. We tried the whole BJ thing and that’s not happening either. So far I haven’t cheated on her and really don’t want to but the urge is strong. Anyone else have this issue?
Try silicone lube. Worked wonders for me when my wife was tighter.
Although honestly she was a lot happier with sex after the first kid. We seem to fit better now
 
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