Anyone else above average but constantly told/made to feel they're small?

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I'm not just talking society's obsessive focus on big / shaming of small, but feedback from partners.

I'm under no illusions that I'm big or even close, but if you look at a site like calcsd I should be comfortably bigger than 9 guys outta 10 - even if stats are a bit suss I should certainly be big enough to live a life where I am entitled to at least feel like I'm normal.

However, as a straight dude continual feedback from women - generally unprompted, it's like they can't help but comment or more commonly hint - is that despite statistics I'm well below average length and that my girth is a little above average but not big.

Eg. My current partner has indirectly indicated that she has to go back 15 years - six partners - to identify someone smaller. This is not isolated, it's repeated feedback over decades of being sexually active.

I just dont get how I'm supposed to be in the top 10% and yet my life experience is that apart from maybe one or two dudes each, no woman has ever seen smaller and statistically uncommon, statistically rare and almost statistically impossible guys seem to be all my partners have ever experienced.
 
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I just dont get how I'm supposed to be in the top 10% and yet my life experience...

You just answered your own question. You may very well be in the top 10% but your life experience may not make the spread, meaning you're probably not experiencing enough for a proper distribution of probability.

How many women have you been with and how many of them have told you that you're small? What type of demographics are these women? All this and more plays into how easily it may be for you to skew your perspective.

For example, if you keep chasing size queens then you will always be small... if you keep chasing virgins then you will always be too big...
 
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This is your second post on the same topic. I think you're obsessed with feeling bad about yourself. By all objective standards, you are fine. Look around your area for therapists. They do this kind of thing, it's not scary or painful, and you may start to feel better about yourself. How great is that?