Queens or femme men also are the cause of homophobia among straight people. Most straights I know do not care for queens or femme men either and understand that only a few gay men are actually flaming queens or a bad stereotype that's a total act that they put on since they are attention whores.
I avoid queens and femme men since I don't like to be around them, date them, andthey are a total turn off and do not do anything for me sexually.
Most gay and bisexual men are not flaming queens at all and they are just normal masculine men who happen to be gay or bisexual.
I find femme men or queens to be really bad insulting stereotypes and when I see how the media (TV and movies) portrays gay men as being queens and the brunt of homophobic jokes with the queen or sissy character.
In TV shows it's just as bad with characters like Jack from Will and Grace or the guys from Queer Eye.
I understand how how black people must feel when they see mostly all black people in the media as being thugs, Niggas, or into the whole hip hop/gangsta attitude/fashion. Or how Margaret Cho must have felt when they made her do that corny Asian American sitcom in
the 90s called All American Girl that was full of bad Asian stereotypes and then they had the gall to tell her that her character was not "Asian enough" even though she was just being funny and being herself and not a total Asian stereotype.
I happen to be gay but when people first meet me they do not assume this about me and some do not believe me when I come out to them until I tell them I have a partner.I do not like it when guys say that they are straight acting when they are bisexual or gay, if they were really straight acting they would not be having or wanting sex with men in the first place.
Why is there even a link between being bisexual and gay and feminine?
It makes no sense at all and gay sex is anything but being feminine even if you are into being passive or the receptive person for anal sex or just are into giving oral sex.
I agree that being a queen or femme is just a fake act that guys put on because they think that they have to act this way because they are bisexual or gay, and that queens embody all of the bad stereotypes of gay men.
I remember in the 80s when being femme/androgynous was all the fashion and very popular among gay men, think Boy George and New Wave fashion.
I'm glad I never faked being a queen, and nowadays masculine men are in and thankfully people realize that not everyone that is bi/gay doesn't act like Jack from the TV show Will and Grace and that we're normal people just like straight people.
I do happen to know that even straight people do get turned off by flaming queens and many find them annoying.
I also do not like the queens on TV shows like Queer Eye and my friends out west met Carson the blonde guy from the Queer Eye when he was at some club doing a promotion, and even with him being a flaming queen is apparently all an act and that they expect him to act this way on TV since he is gay.
The worst are the guys that are into the total fake femme act and they look all hot with muscles and then they open their mouth and rolls of chiffon fall out! LMAO who do they think that they're fooling?
I agree that flaming queens can be a lot worse than some women (the type who are vapid, materialistic, and bitchy) are at being full of bitter gall and vile and passive/aggressive mind games, petty DRAMA and all of that. Just look at how bad some women are when it comes to using their bodies, sex appeal, and pussy for power or their own personal gain! Or the whole "I want things MY WAY!" attitude that most women seem to have especially when it comes to a wedding/family.
If you don't believe me on that one just pick up any issue of Cosmo/glamour/any women's magazine, look at ads where women are in, watch sex in the city or any other TV show, try being friends with a guy who is going to marry a materialistic woman, or just talk to most men who are in relationships with vapid, materialistic, bitchy women and you'll find out that it's true!
I feel bad for my straight male friends who are married to women who don't put out at all or who don't even like sex or want it most of the time and they have told me how women do the above, but then again I do think that some men like this and enjoy being submissive in a relationship with a woman.
Before you think that I am a misogynist, I'm not. I did not say that all women are this way, just the ones who are vapid, bitchy, and highly materialistic usually are.
If you need proof about flaming queens being just as bad as bitchy vapid materialistic women are this try hanging out with some queens, go on a gay message board and see how queens online act to each other and start petty drama and BS over the latest female pop singer, read some books by the shitty author Augusten Burroughs who is a queen himself, or just go to a gay bar and watching the screaming queens and how it's all a fake act that they put on.
I have also seen first hand that those drag queen types are pretty viscous and vindictive.