Anyone else not get off from BJs?

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Was with a girl two nights ago who got very self conscious at not being able to get me off with one. Problem is I have never got off from a blowjob in my life. Ever. Always feels like someone is trying to slime my dick. I am 7.5x6 and with my girth I get a lot of teeth at times. Meh.
 

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Was with a girl two nights ago who got very self conscious at not being able to get me off with one. Problem is I have never got off from a blowjob in my life. Ever. Always feels like someone is trying to slime my dick. I am 7.5x6 and with my girth I get a lot of teeth at times. Meh.
I feel about the same as you do about blowjobs. They just don't make me want to cum. I have had great bj's from both women and men, but have only gotten off one time from a guy. However, he did a lot of sucking on my balls, too, which helped.
 

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I've had chicks who can't job off a man with her mouth worth a shit, and just don't have a fucking clue what they're doing -- but that having been said, otherwise, I've never had a problem. Blowjobs to me are heaven, particularly when she knows what she's doing. :)
 

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Hey guys. I'm a good sucker and I pride myself getting the guy to give me his award. I have been with guys that cannot come when I suck but they really enjoy what I do. It's all a challenges to me to see if I can get them to cum. But for those that can't, they still give me a good ride so they can get off. I love it all the same. I just love to suck a good dick for hours.
 

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Noone has ever gotten me off either, guy tried for 2 hours, felt great but no luck. I blame 3 things. Loss of sensitivity over the year to being circumcised, masturbating too much with the death grip, and watching way too much porn.

Cut back on the porn and masturbating to hopefully retrain my cock
 

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I take anti-depressants and because of the side effects, I've pretty much let each partner know that I will have to get off by my own hand. That's just my particular situation. It's always better for both of us when I let him know....it's not about him.
 

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I have generally had no problem getting off from blow jobs, but I sometimes find it hard to cum from a handjob (I can always 'get there' quicker on my own). I think it's a matter of communication. Tell your partner what feels good and what doesn't. With hand jobs I find that a pulling, milking action is not right as it doesn't simulate the feel of pushing cock into pussy. Similarly, a lot of suction is not what works (for me) in a blow job. I like to feel a little resistance as my cock goes in. I've never given a blow job so I can't say how easy or difficult it is to produce the right effect, but again I do think it's all about communication.

The other aspect is about how we train ourselves to 'come'. Most of us (men and women) masturbate quite vigorously and at a rhythm that's much faster than you can thrust during sex, and faster than anyone can move their head back and forth when giving a bj. We condition ourselves to come to that pressure and rhythm, so it's not surprising that a bj feels a little alien and some of us have difficulty 'tuning in to the frequency'. But to some extent, that's exactly what you have to do. My wife had never had an orgasm during intercourse, and after watching her masturbate, I wasn't too surprised. She did it with her thighs together and every muscle in her body, it seemed, tense. There was no way she could hold that position while I fucked her, and during sex I could tell she was frustrated by not getting near the sensations that got her off. So I worked hard at helping her to get to the plateau phase whilst relaxed. I distracted her from fixating on the goal of orgasm, and I encouraged her to focus on the sensations she could feel rather than the ones she couldn't feel. Sure enough, in time she learned to relax and melt into the sensations as I humped her slowly with my cock buried to the hilt. Her orgasm hit her like a freight train, and her pussy went wild and triggered mine. That was a very good moment, after which we could pretty reliably have mutual orgasms. I'm sure it must be possible for a couple to similarly train the recipient of the bj to relax and 'get there', but it will take a little time and patience, and a lot of communication.
 

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I thoroughly enjoy a good beej, but have never had one take me over the top. The Mrs. takes me near the edge sometimes, but never quite gets there before having to rest or stop & catch her breath. It came as close to happening as it ever has couple of nights ago, so I'm not ready to give up just yet. It's certainly not just a matter of the deliverer's endurance, as I had one past experience with someone who had insane stamina (I swear, she must've been able to breathe through her ears or something) and never got anywhere close to getting off.
 

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Never had an orgasm from a blowjob :/

I cum readily from masturbation, and go off like a rocket from bottoming :) but blowjobs really do nothing for me.
 

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I studied under a master felatrix and after experiencing head from hundreds and seeing countless porn I have to say the vast majority of people don't know how to properly pleasure a cock orally. Most use just mouth and that is not optimal. Hand/ mouth technique delivers optimal stimulation. I blow a lot of guys and only one in ten doesn't get off with my technique. Some people have psychological issues and can't cum easily with others. Look at porn. 95% of guys are not able to cum without jacking themselves off due to poor technique. I have not cum myself from oral sex for 5 years because of the ineptitude of those servicing me, and as a sex worker I get lots of sex. The best orgasms of my life have been from head with a knowledgeable cock sucker.