Anyone else out there a doormat for others?
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I am a recovering doormat. The trick is to figure out what it is you expect in return, and be sure to receive that. Doesn't matter if it's 'equal', just that you know, and request whatever it may be.
The worst was when I didn't have any clear idea about what I actually might want. Now that I do it is much easier to get. Don't expect the others in your life to be psychics and figure out for you what you want.
The worst was when I didn't have any clear idea about what I actually might want. Now that I do it is much easier to get. Don't expect the others in your life to be psychics and figure out for you what you want.
I have been a doormat for 20 years. I became aware of this about 12 years ago and broke up with my then S.O.
Since then, I have tried to have some friends, but they all ended up using me beyond belief. The last friend walked away with a lot of money in 2008. That was the last straw and I decided then that I wasn't going to ever have another friend. It is lonely, but so far, I am a lot safer.
Since then, I have tried to have some friends, but they all ended up using me beyond belief. The last friend walked away with a lot of money in 2008. That was the last straw and I decided then that I wasn't going to ever have another friend. It is lonely, but so far, I am a lot safer.
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similar experience, when i was way younger (grade school) i learned early on what to look for in a real friend ... i also would bend over backwards to try and nice my way into dating girls when i was like a fresh/soph in high school, than i realized that in general, people won't give a fuck about you until you make them give a fuck about you and that there are VERY few people out there who would actually do the same, those are the people i try to keep in my life ...
i used to be the door mat, now im the walker ;-)
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You will learn how to attract a different sort by getting used to your own company and enjoying that first. No rush. :love:
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I've a friend just now who I know lies to me constantly and let's me down last minute all the time on arrangements we make. They are not big or important lies or anything of of significance, more stuff about herself that I know is untrue. She's had an unbelievably tough time the last year and I probably let her away with more than I ever normally would do so with a friend but my patience is wearing very thin. I'm starting to feel like a doormat as I've allowed this to happen but the writing is on the wall.
He ga Edna, you hit it right on the spot with me..I totally agree with you.Who I call my best friend had walked all over me for years.I friendship evolved over a 15 year period..He is straight,I am gay.Right now I live on the west coast of Florida,he on the east coast..he now has old money,me on a budget.Anyway I always do do do for him.The difference now is he rewards me on a monatary way when I do do do for him..He is so worried about what his 4 kids think about our relationship and acts like a real homophobe. I gave him a BJ once when we just met,we were both drunk,that's his excuse.I care for him and told him I loved him and that I was not in love with him.I guess I sorta gone off subject. I've wondered if anybody else has a similar friendship as mine?
Nope. Tossed the doormat in the dumpster a few years ago. Others need to do for themselves. Unless it's the kiddies and I'm there in a heartbeat.
I refuse to do anything for anyone. They got two legs that are not broken. Unfortunately I still have a soft side for children and animals, you know the ones who really can't do for themselves. Althought everyone can suck it, usually.
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Take the cyanide capsules right now then. The need for love and sex will not be leaving when you are that old.
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my fucking cuntbag of a mother is she lets my sister walk all over her like a doormat. pisses me off she gave 60,000 dollars to her just to buy soem stupid shit for her dog and to pay her rent on her condo in downtown spokane. and she refuses to work and I bust my balls at realnetworks working 60+ hour workweeks!!!! and mom keeps bitching me out for not having a "normal job" and she'd rather have me work at fricking apple bees or starbucks being a cuntbag manager that makes my employees suck my dick. she literally said that one day.
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I've had that problem many yrs ago. I just got fed up with other people and myself for allowing it to happen. sometimes it was being used because I had a car, other times I was used for sex. one gal I have known for 40 yrs, I don't see her that often anymore but I actually kind of string her along and then never do any of the stuff that we talk about. so I'm just not having nothing to do with her, I'm being revengeful. I've had other people complaing to me about her. I tell them she's a taker, she's not a giver. she will never do anything for you out of the kindness of her heart unless there is something in it for her. and couple have come back to me later and told me I was right.
