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Either online or in real life?

I believe some closeted guy that I know of stalks me online. Since he's closeted (and closeted men live a life of delusions) I believe he thinks that I'm unaware that he stalks me. It started when I was in some Reddit thread several months ago about why I think men with hairy bodies look better than men without hairy bodies. The next day I was having a discussion with him, along with some other guy, and he lifted up his shirt to show off his hairy body. I got rid of Reddit after that, especially since I believed Reddit to be an anonymous forum and I posted some very detailed and controversial messages on that website. I realized that he found me because my Reddit name was similar to my Grindr screen name that I used on the app. In addition, I posted my anonymous kik username in a Reddit thread and I've also posted my kik here, so he probably has used my entire online trail to also find me on LPSG of all websites (hi!). I've deleted my kik and Grindr since all of these instances as I believe him to be quietly obsessive.

Has this ever happened to any of you and what would you do?
 

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Yes. Had a stocker in school. Before you really heard the term. Food gifts by the front door left with notes about me eating these things in a dream. Reference to people I knew in letters along with conversations I had when I thought know one was around. It was disturbing. Included angry notes and ultimate suicide attemp on the persons part. I really did not feel sorry for this gal as I was glad i was safe.
 
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Yes. Had a stocker in school. Before you really heard the term. Food gifts by the front door left with notes about me eating these things in a dream. Reference to people I knew in letters along with conversations I had when I thought know one was around. It was disturbing. Included angry notes and ultimate suicide attemp on the persons part. I really did not feel sorry for this gal as I was glad i was safe.

Wow that's insane. How did it all stop?
 

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I can’t recall how I connected some dots at school but I figured it out and we contacted authorities in charge. They really did not take any of it seriously until she tried to kill herself. I kind of had forgotten it until I saw the thread title.
 
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I can’t recall how I connected some dots at school but I figured it out and we contacted authorities in charge. They really did not take any of it seriously until she tried to kill herself. I kind of had forgotten it until I saw the thread title.

Wow so she knew you were gay and she still wanted you? My situation is just some closeted dude who is also probably crazy (I personally believe that staying in the closet can make people go crazy).
 
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Yes. An abusive ex stalked me, for a while. It took threatening a restraining order before he stopped.
 
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Yes. An abusive ex stalked me, for a while. It took threatening a restraining order before he stopped.

Interesting. I'm sorry you went through that. Was this stalking done online or in person?
 
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Interesting. I'm sorry you went through that. Was this stalking done online or in person?

In person. When I ended our relationship, there was a month left on the lease of the apartment under my name (and he lived there). I gave him that month to find his own place, informed him he wasn't moving with me, and that we were done. He followed me from my job to the new apartment, hung around outside my place of employment, and harassed me in person as well as over the phone/text message.
 

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I have a stalker on this site!

He has lambasted me on two other boards (one of which I left), created an account here to lambast me some more.

And I'm 90 percent sure he created a second account on this board to lambast me while pretending to be a different person -- yes, he actually replies to his own posts pretending to be someone else.

In real life thank god not. Back in the good old Craigslist days, a guy replied to my anonymous ad/email "Hello (insert my name here) and proceeded to tell me about how he saw me at a presentation and knew all about me."

Yeah, that was weird.
 
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In person. When I ended our relationship, there was a month left on the lease of the apartment under my name (and he lived there). I gave him that month to find his own place, informed him he wasn't moving with me, and that we were done. He followed me from my job to the new apartment, hung around outside my place of employment, and harassed me in person as well as over the phone/text message.

Glad you got out of that situation.

I have a stalker on this site!

He has lambasted me on two other boards (one of which I left), created an account here to lambast me some more.

And I'm 90 percent sure he created a second account on this board to lambast me while pretending to be a different person -- yes, he actually replies to his own posts pretending to be someone else.

In real life thank god not. Back in the good old Craigslist days, a guy replied to my anonymous ad/email "Hello (insert my name here) and proceeded to tell me about how he saw me at a presentation and knew all about me."

Yeah, that was weird.

That's crazy!
 

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It was awful. I broke up with a guy, thought it was done. I was closeted at the time. He called my work number, telling them my boyfriend was on the phone. He sent strippers-escorts to my house. All 4 of them called before, they were suspicious and were really cool about it.

I was trying to date a new guy, he got freaked out when I to,d him, but was eventually ok. I had to change my number. He kept saying this man he met was jealous and wanted to hurt me. I ran into the guy he said wanted to hurt me. He was terrified of me. He was told I would beat him up. We laughed ... let’s go outside, I’ll beat you up, then you beat me. We had a cocktail and realized we were both played.

This was 15 years ago. I should have called the cops.
 
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I don’t know if you’d call it a stalker, more like harassment.

It was online and at another sexually based community about 20 years ago. I was pretty close to this guy, chatting and whatnot. We talked on the phone several times, he seemed quite normal. He sent me nudes, but I didn’t like it. I thought we were just friends. Discovered he was married, so I told him I didn’t think we should talk any more.

He didn’t take it well. Started threatening me. Said he had FBI friends, and would ensure I could never travel to the US again. Threatened to have the power cut off to my house, my credit ruined, etc. I told him he didn’t have the ability to do that. I wasn’t really worried. So he starts posting my real name and phone number all over the site. I was a mod there, so it wasn’t difficult to have it taken down and get him banned. But he was calling me at home, leaving horrific messages.

Turns out, one of the other mods lived in the same town he did. Looked up his name and found out he was a pastor in a church. So she called the church to report him. They called me. I told them everything. Sent them the pictures he had sent me, played them the messages he had left. He had been using the church phone to call me and the church computer to log into the site.

Everything stopped. From my understanding he lost his position in the church and his marriage.

It was pretty rough for awhile. Learned a lot about trusting people online.
 
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I don’t know if you’d call it a stalker, more like harassment.

It was online and at another sexually based community about 20 years ago. I was pretty close to this guy, chatting and whatnot. We talked on the phone several times, he seemed quite normal. He sent me nudes, but I didn’t like it. I thought we were just friends. Discovered he was married, so I told him I didn’t think we should talk any more.

He didn’t take it well. Started threatening me. Said he had FBI friends, and would ensure I could never travel to the US again. Threatened to have the power cut off to my house, my credit ruined, etc. I told him he didn’t have the ability to do that. I wasn’t really worried. So he starts posting my real name and phone number all over the site. I was a mod there, so it wasn’t difficult to have it taken down and get him banned. But he was calling me at home, leaving horrific messages.

Turns out, one of the other mods lived in the same town he did. Looked up his name and found out he was a pastor in a church. So she called the church to report him. They called me. I told them everything. Sent them the pictures he had sent me, played them the messages he had left. He had been using the church phone to call me and the church computer to log into the site.

Everything stopped. From my understanding he lost his position in the church and his marriage.

It was pretty rough for awhile. Learned a lot about trusting people online.

Wow, the most religious ones always do the craziest things!
 
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Either online or in real life?

I believe some closeted guy that I know of stalks me online. Since he's closeted (and closeted men live a life of delusions) I believe he thinks that I'm unaware that he stalks me. It started when I was in some Reddit thread several months ago about why I think men with hairy bodies look better than men without hairy bodies. The next day I was having a discussion with him, along with some other guy, and he lifted up his shirt to show off his hairy body. I got rid of Reddit after that, especially since I believed Reddit to be an anonymous forum and I posted some very detailed and controversial messages on that website. I realized that he found me because my Reddit name was similar to my Grindr screen name that I used on the app. In addition, I posted my anonymous kik username in a Reddit thread and I've also posted my kik here, so he probably has used my entire online trail to also find me on LPSG of all websites (hi!). I've deleted my kik and Grindr since all of these instances as I believe him to be quietly obsessive.

Has this ever happened to any of you and what would you do?

Yes and from personal experience it is better to say you are not interested. Nothing is a hint to these people. They take to anything and cling to it and ask around about you or ask you the same question twenty separate times. It is creepy and horrible.
 
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Yep had a stalker a few years ago. She knew I had a girlfriend and was in a steady relationship but she constantly messaged me and phoned me at all hours. She even found out where I lived and used to park up outside on her car all night. It was just plain creepy. No matter how many times or how firmly you tell these people you aren't interested they never seem to get the message
 
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Replied to a Craigslist ad - he was looking for a "lumberjack" , guess I fit his description . I live out of town , thought I was vague with the location . He kept wanting to meet me , told him daytime not possible because I had employees also at my business . I got an email , said he would be at my door in 5 minutes . Sure enough , he drives in . Made some excuses to employees that he was a 'friend" , quick tour and told him to leave . Received two aggressive emails from him , didn't respond to either and he finally stopped . Learned that even a small amount of information is too much in the Google era