I had just started a thread about this, so I am just pasting my situation to see what you guys think... Here goes ...
I like to think of myself as a pretty well rounded guy. I have found myself in the most interesting chat with a guy on A4A hookup site. Having a difficult time deciding is this guy is on the up and up. We have been chatting now for 3 day. He is a policeman , a sweet guy. Our chats are not one sided. He asks me real questions about my life. Not just little.. "this and that stuff" but detailed stuff. He shares with me what it's like being in Law Enforcement. Going to court, stuff like that.... Just setting the stage...OK
Like I stated he is a policeman and uses it in his username. He messaged me first, in the usual way, Then as he was telling me more about him. It immediately turn into something different. More of a way for him to release himself of guilt in his current life situation. We all have heard of this type of sad situation.. Married out of disrepair due to environment and family issues. He has a teen child. You know the whole Straight Family Look. Even though he knew he was Gay at a young age....Me being me, I was letting him know a lot of guys are in his shoes. Trying to give him encouraging advice. He let me know that I made him feel comfortable. That is why he was sharing this part of his life. Because of how I made him feel about himself....soon our chat turned into the normal chats on a hook up site. We started chatting about Fantasies. Some of his were normal. He would throw in things from his youth as references to his fantasy. A few were taboo to the point that person might end up in jail. He told me he does not feel bad about his fantasies, because he would never actually engage in them. My response was "we all have different fantasies. You can't help what you think about no matter how extreme" I never would ask him anything in detail about his fantasies. The whole time I'm thinking, Damn, this is a cop and he is fantasizing about this stuff. Is he trying to get me to engage with him and chat about this in detail to see how I feel about this type of fantasy. Is he trying to entrap me, for discussing such things?...I have No Clue... Am I over reacting ...thoughts or opinions?