Anyone have a difficult time cumming during sex?

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For some reason I can fuck for hours, have multiple spurts of precum during a session but no actual cum shot.

But if I’m by myself it’s no problem... what’s the deal?
 

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For some reason I can fuck for hours, have multiple spurts of precum during a session but no actual cum shot.

But if I’m by myself it’s no problem... what’s the deal?
Most likely stress related I've had a few guys who had the same problem, they went to their doctor and got told it was stress related and also don't worry about the more you worry the less likely you are to cumming lol good luck
 

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If you are someone who regularly masturbates to porn, then it can be because you've conditioned your brain to need lots of variety to stay interested.

In real sex, you can't just skip to the bits you like or switch to another scene. So after a short period you get bored and can't reach climax.

The cure for this is to cut back or even stop using porn for a while so that real sex is the most novel thing for your brain.
 

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Do not discount medical reasons. An enlarged prostate could be in the mix. You look young but I’ve been battling BPH since I was 30 and have been taking meds for the last 25 years. The side effect I’m dealing with is retrograde ejaculation which isn’t your issue.
I’ve learned over the years that over stimulation, as can happen during an extended playtime, can keep me from reaching orgasm.
You’ve received good advice above but if it goes unresolved, please consult your PCP.
 

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If you are someone who regularly masturbates to porn, then it can be because you've conditioned your brain to need lots of variety to stay interested.

In real sex, you can't just skip to the bits you like or switch to another scene. So after a short period you get bored and can't reach climax.

The cure for this is to cut back or even stop using porn for a while so that real sex is the most novel thing for your brain.
@prettyfly4ablkguy , I was going to say this, but @Brodie888 said it first, and perfectly.
 

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For some reason I can fuck for hours, have multiple spurts of precum during a session but no actual cum shot.

But if I’m by myself it’s no problem... what’s the deal?
Do you edge of jack off a lot?
That can make finishing a problem
 

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It may also be a factor of how you have trained your dick through masturbation. Do you have "death grip syndrome" and clamp down hard or require huge amounts of friction? If so, then sliding smoothly into a slippery hole will never deliver what your dick has become used to. This is related to what @Brodie888 said above. You may need to take a break and re-train your dick.

How do you do that? Stop masturbating. Stop doing whatever it is you are currently doing. Only get your pleasure from the sex with your partner that is giving you the problem today. If you deprive your dick of what it's gotten used to, I promise that your dick will start to respond to whatever attention its receiving. After a few weeks or a few months, you will carve a new groove in your brain (and your cock) and sex may indeed become more fulfilling than it was before. Good luck!
 

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It may also be a factor of how you have trained your dick through masturbation. Do you have "death grip syndrome" and clamp down hard or require huge amounts of friction? If so, then sliding smoothly into a slippery hole will never deliver what your dick has become used to. This is related to what @Brodie888 said above. You may need to take a break and re-train your dick.

How do you do that? Stop masturbating. Stop doing whatever it is you are currently doing. Only get your pleasure from the sex with your partner that is giving you the problem today. If you deprive your dick of what it's gotten used to, I promise that your dick will start to respond to whatever attention its receiving. After a few weeks or a few months, you will carve a new groove in your brain (and your cock) and sex may indeed become more fulfilling than it was before. Good luck!

Good advice!
 
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It may also be a factor of how you have trained your dick through masturbation. Do you have "death grip syndrome" and clamp down hard or require huge amounts of friction? If so, then sliding smoothly into a slippery hole will never deliver what your dick has become used to. This is related to what @Brodie888 said above. You may need to take a break and re-train your dick.

How do you do that? Stop masturbating. Stop doing whatever it is you are currently doing. Only get your pleasure from the sex with your partner that is giving you the problem today. If you deprive your dick of what it's gotten used to, I promise that your dick will start to respond to whatever attention its receiving. After a few weeks or a few months, you will carve a new groove in your brain (and your cock) and sex may indeed become more fulfilling than it was before. Good luck!
It was this way for me.
 

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Most likely stress related I've had a few guys who had the same problem, they went to their doctor and got told it was stress related and also don't worry about the more you worry the less likely you are to cumming lol good luck


I have experienced the same thing. Don’t worry it’s stress and it will pass! Keep fucking!
 
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Lol I’m not watching much porn these days. It’s someone I’ve been smashing with regularly that I find hot af... but no luck. Loads after loads of precincts. But no dice on the big finish. It usually takes almost anoth 20 minutes of stroking to make it happen after sex.