Anyone recognized some you know on a dating website?

[Gustavovolvo]

dude if u were cruisin the internet lookin at dating sites, u already knew there were cracks in ur marriage.

I wasn't cruising in the way you think. If that is a criteria then what are any happily involved people doing at this site since it's sex related?

I browse all over the internet because I have a curious mind and I also look at times to see if it helps better relate to my clients. I am a psychotherapist and some clients have relationship issuues this helps me get a greater perspective. Browsing is not saying a marriage is in trouble if it did then millions would be in trouble.

When it came to the site my wife was on I was not registered there, she was. In the preliminaries of our divorce it was disclosed by her that she was at a total of 4 sites! and actively searching and had been for 3 years which has raised questions on the paternity of our son. I was tempted to question the paternity of our daughter too except she has my eyes.

I did not cheat. I did not attempt to or even consider it. I hope she can get her head back on before she ruins another man. I gave her everything I had. She never had to work unless she wanted to. I took her on vacations to places she chose. I never suspected anything was wrong.

 

[Countryguy63]

I'm glad to see you still have some humor..I LOVE the "lice in her stockings"

 

[Gustavovolvo]

I'm glad to see you still have some humor..I LOVE the "lice in her stockings"

I'm angry and yet I still love her at least a little of me does. Maybe Santa will make her frigid!

 

[thadjock]

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When it came to the site my wife was on I was not registered there, she was. In the preliminaries of our divorce it was disclosed by her that she was at a total of 4 sites! and actively searching and had been for 3 years which has raised questions on the paternity of our son. I was tempted to question the paternity of our daughter too except she has my eyes.

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i can't imagine not knowing, or having any clue. i think maybe u didn't want to know and ignored signs.

so is the kid urs?

 

[Gustavovolvo]

i can't imagine not knowing, or having any clue. i think maybe u didn't want to know and ignored signs.

so is the kid urs?

I had no idea. Her mom had no idea and has against my wishs stepped over to support me emotionally. Even her friends seem surprsed. The only ones who knew were her and maybe the men she hooked up with. As to our son that is how we are keeping it. For all intents and purposes he is mine. It even says so on the birth certificate and if she isn't looking to have a test I won't either the boy is too delightful to put into that kind of mess and I don't want to lose him.


And for those concerned I've had the battery of tests on STDs and thank god I came back clean on all of them.

 

[thadjock]

As to our son that is how we are keeping it. For all intents and purposes he is mine. It even says so on the birth certificate and if she isn't looking to have a test I won't either the boy is too delightful to put into that kind of mess and I don't want to lose him.

ur not even curious?

u got some pretty impressive partitions in your brain, u should leave it to science.

u don't have to put the kid through anything, a swab in his mouth is all it takes, u could do that while he's asleep

 

[Countryguy63]

Hey thad, sometimes it take being in that situation to understand.

I can never be sure when my ex started er affairs. She lied and denied it even with proof. Until I found out about it, I had no clue or suspicions. From that point on sure.

We have 2 daughters. Both look so much like my side of the family, that I have no questions at all. In fact, you get all of the cousins together and they look like siblings, some almost twin like.

Anyway, even if that wasn't the case, I would not want a paternity test, nor would one have any influence on my daughters being mine. It's a Father thing I guess.

 

[thadjock]

Hey thad, sometimes it take being in that situation to understand.
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i'm just not the kind of person who can lie to himself or supress the need to know, i'm terminally curious and wouldn't be able to put that question out of my head till it was answered.

i know that finding out the kid wasn't yours biologically would complicate the situation but i'm not sure it would change how much you love the kid, i just know i would want all the facts.

and if i were the "other man" i would certainly want to know if i had a kid out there. and it's not fair to lie to the kid. at some point he'll find out the truth, do you want him to find out that you purposely avoided the truth? I wouldn't,

my dad always dealt str8 up with all his boys even during my parent's divorce and reasons for it and i've always been grateful for him respecting us enough to go with full disclosure and treating us as adults.

 

[Brensta]

ur not even curious?

u got some pretty impressive partitions in your brain, u should leave it to science.

u don't have to put the kid through anything, a swab in his mouth is all it takes, u could do that while he's asleep

From what he has said, I think if I was the child in that situation, I would regard this man as my father no matter what DNA said to the contrary. I would leave it as is for now, but be honest and open if one day the kid starts asking questions. But thats just how I would feel in that situation.

Its kind of like adopted children, a few of my extended friends have been adopted, some have a desperate desire to know who their biological parent is, others who have no such desire.

Everyone varies I guess

 

[Adrian69702006]

I recently spotted someone I knew on a dating site but, unfortunately, when I tried to contact her she was bloody rude about it!

 

[Gustavovolvo]

ur not even curious?

u got some pretty impressive partitions in your brain, u should leave it to science.

u don't have to put the kid through anything, a swab in his mouth is all it takes, u could do that while he's asleep

No I am not curious. I admit I was for a few minutes then I heard my son laugh and I knew he was mine in the only way that mattered and I am the only Dad he has known so why push it?

Hey thad, sometimes it take being in that situation to understand.

I can never be sure when my ex started er affairs. She lied and denied it even with proof. Until I found out about it, I had no clue or suspicions. From that point on sure.

We have 2 daughters. Both look so much like my side of the family, that I have no questions at all. In fact, you get all of the cousins together and they look like siblings, some almost twin like.

Anyway, even if that wasn't the case, I would not want a paternity test, nor would one have any influence on my daughters being mine. It's a Father thing I guess.

Are you sure we weren't married to the same woman?

i'm just not the kind of person who can lie to himself or supress the need to know, i'm terminally curious and wouldn't be able to put that question out of my head till it was answered.

i know that finding out the kid wasn't yours biologically would complicate the situation but i'm not sure it would change how much you love the kid, i just know i would want all the facts.

and if i were the "other man" i would certainly want to know if i had a kid out there. and it's not fair to lie to the kid. at some point he'll find out the truth, do you want him to find out that you purposely avoided the truth? I wouldn't,

my dad always dealt str8 up with all his boys even during my parent's divorce and reasons for it and i've always been grateful for him respecting us enough to go with full disclosure and treating us as adults.

At some time my son will perhaps question why his mom and me split and we will have a talk about all of this. Right now he is very young and it would be confusing and maybe damaging to him he is having enough problems dealing with the divorce and clings to me when he has to go back to his mom's place. How could I put more into him now and have him question the love of his mom? She may not have been true to me but she loves our son and I dont have the heart to take that from him or have him doubting her. There will be a time in the future when he will be old enough and mature enough to understand the reasons of the marriage ending. I am aware that he needs to know just not now.

Regarding the father wanting to know my ex informed me that she really isn't sure. it seems she had a few one nighters from those dating sites and real names were not important. Yes she is getting help it has been diagnosed as a sex addiction.


I am finished discussing this subject.

 

[D_hybabi]

I used to chat to a guy I met on a gay website and we never met. I found his twin brother on another gay website...

 

[D_Inglethorp Rumpshow]

Yep, I emailed her a screencap LMAO...too funny

 

[beachbum1971]

My single friend told me she saw my ex-husband on a dating website, and sure enough, he was! He had one foot out the door anyway, but that just slammed it shut!

 

[D_hybabi]

My single friend told me she saw my ex-husband on a dating website, and sure enough, he was! He had one foot out the door anyway, but that just slammed it shut!

did he still have feelings for you, or you for him?

 

[rob_just_rob]

Yeah. I found an ad on an alt-dating website for a girl I used to know. Interestingly, she was using cheesecake photos in her ad, that she had had me take of her.

 

[D_Ivana Dickenside]

a few years back my best friend and i were messing around on yahoo personals and we came across a girl we were good friends with during high school. she didn't have much entered on her profile except a few pictures. however, she had lost a ton of weight! and to be honest, it wasn't pretty. i later found out the weight loss was triggered from her smoking and crystal meth habit. sooo not attractive.

another mutual friend of mine and my S.O.'s found her ex-boyfriend on yahoo personals too. this actually just happened recently. she signed up after they ended their relationship, and before we all know it she finds him on yahoo personals too! somehow he was able to find her and he tried to sweet-talk her into sleeping with him again. thankfully she didn't fall for it, and he has a tiny dick anyway :lmao:

 

[D_Ivana Dickenside]

i have to bump this thread cause i recently saw a craigslist personals post by a guy i went to high school with! my same girlfriend who found the post above ^ also found his craigslist post and she forwarded it to me! we busted up laughing our butts off :rofl: he had his cell number, myspace profile, and personal email posted, along with two pics of himself (thankfully it wasn't a cock pic cause if it was, OMG... i would have sooo linked it here lol). seeing his craigslist post reminded me of the time in 11th grade when he got burned in chemistry with sulfuric acid... that was my only memory of him hahaha. but anyway i just wanted to share this! it's definitely a small world.

 

[Fleur]

I have an identical-ish twin sister. We look a lot alike in the face. And a guy on a dating site we're both on emailed me about a month ago insisting I was my sis, asking if I'd give another chance at talking to him again and wanting to know why I made a new profile. He said my sister's name in the email.

Totally creepy! I showed it to my sister and it was a guy she'd emailed a couple of times and was creeped out by.

 

[D_Ivana Dickenside]

I have an identical-ish twin sister. We look a lot alike in the face. And a guy on a dating site we're both on emailed me about a month ago insisting I was my sis, asking if I'd give another chance at talking to him again and wanting to know why I made a new profile. He said my sister's name in the email.

Totally creepy! I showed it to my sister and it was a guy she'd emailed a couple of times and was creeped out by.

OMGGG! that's so creepy!!! what happened afterward?