Anyone use Desensitizing Lube to prevent a Top from cumming to quick?

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Anyone use Desensitizing Lube to prevent a Top from cumming to quick?

If so what kind?

the problem is when i bttm I like to really get fucked long n hard, and I have issues with a hot fuck buddy top, who always cums to quick.. he's always cumming when i've barely gotten started..

please help

also is there any desensitizing condoms? so i could desensitize him without him knowing?
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I kind of answered my own question: though still would be great to hear personal experiences.

I found these two types of condoms: Anyone ever use them?

Trojan Extended Pleasure Condoms
Durex Performax Condoms
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Lube recommendations would be great though
 
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In my experience, any desensitizing whatever tends to get transferred from his dick to your bottom resulting in you not feeling much because it numbs you too. If you find a good answer, let me know.
 

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I've used a few products in the past. I have a very sensitve penis and some girls are very tight. My favorite is a product I got from Adam and Eve. Tong Balm. It is expensive for what you get but it keeps me from cumming without numbing it down like the rest.
 

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I've used the Trojan ones with women and men, but can't say they made a lot of difference.

His first cum might be quick, but surely he's desensitized after that and your second fuck is better?
 

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I've used the Trojan ones with women and men, but can't say they made a lot of difference.

His first cum might be quick, but surely he's desensitized after that and your second fuck is better?

Unfortunately we never really get to have a round two.. So have to try to make round one last as long as possible.
 

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What about Anbesol? It contains Benzocaine which is used for oral pain (an anesthetic). I've done this before actually. Take a little bit of lube and a large dollop of Anbesol and rub on the head of the cock (mostly underside of head) and also smear some around the shaft. Note, this should be done while he's hard. If he's soft, it will decrease his sensitivity and he'll have a hard time getting hard.

Try that. Anbesol can be purchased over the counter at any pharmacy or local Walmart.

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I can't find the article where I originally heard this but, there was a guy who got first degree burns after applying numbing cream and either a combination of lube with a condom. He did not notice until the sensation came back to his dick. Not trying to scare anyone; just be mindful of the risks, and dangers when mixing things, especially after numbing your member..
 

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Cali Girl, it does make it less painful but if it numbs you too much you wouldn't realize (because you wouldn't feel it) the possible damage his large dick can be causing. Especially if he is an aggressive type lover.



I find numbing lube great for anal sex with a larger cock =) SO maybe it delays him but it certainly makes it less painful in the beginning!