Anyone who's ever gotten an escort

[meningreentights]

I never have. I don't have moral opposition to it, but not really interested in sex outside of a relationship.

It's why I have turned down all the sex I've been offered while delivering mail. I've had less attractive and attractive people, charming and obnoxious people, and shapes, sizes and shades offer me free sex. It seems like a lot of handsome, well built married men want in my pants a lot. I've told every single one of them no.

 

[headbang8]

@bigbull29, not only did I once use an escort, but I was in an LTR with one as he was getting out of the business. Both experiences were pretty good.

Most escorts are sincere about wanting to please you as a customer. Yes, it’s about money. But it’s what I guess you would call emotional work.

You once lived in Australia, right? For several decades, rostitution has been totally legal and highly regulated for the safety of both workers and customers. Try it on your next visit.

 

[bigbull29]

@bigbull29, not only did I once use an escort, but I was in an LTR with one as he was getting out of the business. Both experiences were pretty good.

Most escorts are sincere about wanting to please you as a customer. Yes, it’s about money. But it’s what I guess you would call emotional work.

You once lived in Australia, right? For several decades, rostitution has been totally legal and highly regulated for the safety of both workers and customers. Try it on your next visit.

Very interesting. Thank you for your response.

I have thought about it but not sure I could bring myself to actually do it. LOL.

Take care.

 

[headbang8]

Very interesting. Thank you for your response.

I have thought about it but not sure I could bring myself to actually do it. LOL.

Take care.

I'm happy to share my experiences.

We've both been around this place for a while, so I know a little of what you've shared.

I must say, when I read your OP I thought it was a good idea for you. You've mentioned in this forum that the size of your dick was a real barrier between you and a satisfying sex life. I'm sure that a good sex worker could approach your needs in a professional way. That's not to say a sex worker is always more physically versatile with a gent of your size, but it wouldn't hurt to walk in to a legal brothel and be open about your needs with the women who work there. The moment may be short, but it might provide a satisfying moment of intimacy, no matter what physical acts ensue.

The occasion when I used an escort—in Australia, where it was legal—did relieve a moment of loneliness, and I was grateful. Paying for sex lost its ick factor very quickly, when I allowed myself to enjoy the pleasure of the moment. It certainly didn't feel exploitative; he was both professional and sincere. I feel sure you'll treat any sex worker with respect, in any case.

It may not work out for you, or you might not find it 100% to your liking. Most sex workers practice safe sex—as you should, too—so there's no real downside to trying it, apart from blowing the cash. At the very least, it can give you some peace of mind, as well as pleasure. I'd encourage it.

Take care of yourself, BB.

 

[bigbull29]

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It may not work out for you, or you might not find it 100% to your liking. Most sex workers practice safe sex—as you should, too—so there's no real downside to trying it, apart from blowing the cash. At the very least, it can give you some peace of mind, as well as pleasure. I'd encourage it.

Take care of yourself, BB.

Thank you so much for sharing your experience.

Do you believe that it can be therapeutic in the right circumstances?

 

[EllieP]

I've never enlisted an escort or been an escort, but I've been "arm candy." It happened a couple of times, and I'm not ashamed of it at all. Got drinks and a great meal out of it, plus I got to network like crazy!

Single Exec VP needed another for a dinner. We were acquaintances. He wasn't my actual supervisor, so I thought it was cool.

Apparently, I was supposed to be quiet, but I didn't get that memo. I think that's why I only got to do it twice.

I guess the arm candy is not supposed to have more fun than the arm. But I've always enjoyed getting all made up and going places!

 

[headbang8]

Do you believe that it can be therapeutic in the right circumstances?

I’m no mental health professional, but here’s my take on it.

I wouldn’t call it “therapeutic”. My experience tells me one shouldn’t enter any encounter with another human being expecting them to to “fix” you, not even with a therapist. The hard work of self-acceptance comes from within; accepting our limitations with grace, and learning to value our strengths.

Having sex under normal circumstances isn’t therapy, and this won’t be, either. But it will be a pleasure you’ve longed for; it’ll make you feel more human and more alive, even if only for a couple of hours—even if you don’t get to fuck in the way you’ve dreamed about, or even don’t manage penetration at all. But you owe it to yourself to try.

If she’s a good sex worker, you’ll be able to bare your body and she’ll treat it with dignity, not judging it. That might help you feel better, for a start.

It won’t be a panacaea. You might even find it a disappointment, especially if you expect it to fix your feelings. But it might just relieve some sexual frustration.

That’s been my experience with casual sexual encounters, paid and unpaid. I may not have been utterly fulfilled, but they all put a little more fuel in my emotional gas tank.

 

[bigbull29]

I’m no mental health professional, but here’s my take on it.

I wouldn’t call it “therapeutic”. .

Thanks again.

I should have been clearer when I used the word "therapeutic". I meant it to mean: allowing us to possibly fulfill a sexual desire that we wouldn't be able to fulfill otherwise. In other words, you might end up feeling more comfortable in your sexual skin for having been able to act out some fantasy or sexual desire. I never was meaning "therapeutic" in the spiritual sense of the term.

 

[twoton]

I've never enlisted an escort or been an escort, but I've been "arm candy." It happened a couple of times, and I'm not ashamed of it at all. Got drinks and a great meal out of it, plus I got to network like crazy!

Single Exec VP needed another for a dinner. We were acquaintances. He wasn't my actual supervisor, so I thought it was cool.

Apparently, I was supposed to be quiet, but I didn't get that memo. I think that's why I only got to do it twice.

I guess the arm candy is not supposed to have more fun than the arm. But I've always enjoyed getting all made up and going places!

I know a woman who had a boyfriend who was a lobbyist. He took her to a very swanky annual event, a weekend of posh drunken parties from morning until ....morning in NYC where politicians get wined and dined by lobbyists. At one party, she struck up a conversation with another young woman.

Her boyfriend pulled her aside and said, "You know all these women are escorts, right?" And she looked around the room and noticed it was all wealthy old men and beautiful young women, and the ick factor hit her square between the eyes.

 

[1179690]

I used to work as an escort for a while, if anyone is interested in my experiences.

 

[superbot]

...No,but I did once have a Mondeo

 

[deleted22286891]

It hasn’t happened in years, mainly because I don’t go out like I once had, but I’ve been approached a few times. And when I had been, I kindly set them straight. And not that I didn’t get together with them either. But when I did, I never viewed it as much more than a hookup, one that I or they initiated, even though we met under an altogether different understanding.

Years back, I was friends with a few girls who “dated” traveling executives. They’ve both since married. They were very nice girls. Very pretty. Fun. I’ve met some of their dates, too. We partied together (one lived in a friends apartment building I hung out at). There was nothing unusual about them.

Safe to say You’ve taken home an overnight guest or two. I don’t think it’s much different.

And battle lines were always drawn beforehand, anyway. Everyone knew what to expect. I never felt obligated to give into anyone’s demands/desires unless I wanted to.

Do you think a monetary exchange would make that much of a difference? I don’t.

It is a trippy high, though, that someone would actually want to pay to be with you. Or to think you’re a “working boy.” Ha Funny, actually, when I think back.