Anyway to get out of the friendzone?

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I feel like everyone's been there before including myself. Anyway to get out of it? I've always done ok with women but theirs definitely one or two im friendzoned with
 

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that's tough, but once you've been friendzoned by a chick it's usually for a very good reason or because you have a key personality trait that they are not into sexually. so crossing back over to the 'possible fuck zone' is not easy. maybe you could try banging the hell out of a friend of her's, and that will make her want you. hah. just an idea. don't blame me if it goes awry :D
 

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I'm not sure how to get out, but I have done it before. There was girl I met on my first day of a job I started years ago. Immediately, I was completely infatuated with her. She was so attractive, and I didn't think I ever had a chance. We hung out a few times, nothing ever happened, until one night after the bar. I was dropping her off, and as she was saying goodbye, she crawled on top of me in my car and started making out with me. We ended up sleeping together that night, and dated for almost two years.

So, I know it is possible, I'm just not sure how!
 

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I have a friend, who has a great build, that gets treated this way. I'm like, tighten the pants, open a shirt button, start looking the part. He gets it now.
 

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I think it depends how she thinks of you. I've been friends with guys I was attracted to but for one reason or another the situation wasn't right for anything to happen. I've also been friends with guys who I thought of as just friends. I think if she's attracted you yes something could happen, if she doesn't think of you that way probably not.
 

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Be flirty and romantic. Do special things for them that go beyond normal friend behavior. They may begin to see you in a different light!
 

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I feel like everyone's been there before including myself. Anyway to get out of it? I've always done ok with women but theirs definitely one or two im friendzoned with

It really depends on whether you've tried to become more than friends and failed, or if you haven't tried.

Lots of people in relationships started out as friends and it grew into something more. But if you've asked her out before and she turned you down, that's unlikely to change.
 
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Be more sexually appealing.

The whole friend zone thing is laughable
 

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Don't even bother. If they don't find you sexually appealing, they're probably not going to - especially if you try to contort yourself into being attractive to them. It's not hard to read a fake.

I say focus on the women who do find you attractive. Also, to add to what CUBE said, keep fit, well-kept, and don't be a douche. Trust gay men. Women tell us things.
 

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If you've been in the friendzone for more than a short time, you're stuck there.

If she shows jealousy when it comes to you talking to women or when you talk to her about other women..You have a chance to get out of the friend zone.
 

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If you are there, just look for someone else, and stop persuing her, after a while, chances are that once she realize you dont want her, she will want you, but you wont, then you friendzone her.

that was personal experience...
 

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Ask her out on a date. Then your intentions are clear. You want to have romantic relations. It's that simple...
 

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No, there is absolutely no escape from the friend-zone. When Harry Met Sally is a Hollywood fantasy, total bullshit. The friend-zone is an inescapable black hole of which there is no return. Once placed at the event horizon the forces are stronger than all those in the universe combined and you will be sucked away into the abyss. Consider yourself an emotional tampon who will inevitably be tossed in the garbage the day she finds the guy who rocks her world like you, in her mind, never could.
 

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No, there is absolutely no escape from the friend-zone. When Harry Met Sally is a Hollywood fantasy, total bullshit. The friend-zone is an inescapable black hole of which there is no return. Once placed at the event horizon the forces are stronger than all those in the universe combined and you will be sucked away into the abyss. Consider yourself an emotional tampon who will inevitably be tossed in the garbage the day she finds the guy who rocks her world like you, in her mind, never could.

Damn...
 

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I know, harsh. But the truth will set him free. You have to be frank about this topic or he'll spend months, if not years following her around like some stupid pathetic puppy. Enduring all her fucking mood swings and emotional games. She'll play him like a piano. Using him simply because she knows she can.

Got to tell it like it is. And with this you've got to remove it like an old band-aid. Not agonizingly slow but instead fearlessly ripping it off in one quick motion. Hurts a hell of a lot less.
 

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No, there is absolutely no escape from the friend-zone. When Harry Met Sally is a Hollywood fantasy, total bullshit. The friend-zone is an inescapable black hole of which there is no return. Once placed at the event horizon the forces are stronger than all those in the universe combined and you will be sucked away into the abyss. Consider yourself an emotional tampon who will inevitably be tossed in the garbage the day she finds the guy who rocks her world like you, in her mind, never could.

that is not true. ive been 'friend zoned' by a girl who told me she doesnt find me attractive (i never tried anything with her, wasnt interested). after she told me that, i started talking to her often about my problems, about my problems with girls, we went together to places etc. and she fell in love with me which lasted over a year. i never had anything with her physically, didnt wanted, i did that solely to prove her she was wrong. ;)
 

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I think it depends how she thinks of you. I've been friends with guys I was attracted to but for one reason or another the situation wasn't right for anything to happen. I've also been friends with guys who I thought of as just friends. I think if she's attracted you yes something could happen, if she doesn't think of you that way probably not.

yes
 

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that is not true. ive been 'friend zoned' by a girl who told me she doesnt find me attractive (i never tried anything with her, wasnt interested). after she told me that, i started talking to her often about my problems, about my problems with girls, we went together to places etc. and she fell in love with me which lasted over a year. i never had anything with her physically, didnt wanted, i did that solely to prove her she was wrong. ;)

So you hung out, talked about your problems, she even told you she loved you, but you never had sex ... em, that's the friend-zone pal.