It's been a very exhausting couple of weeks, and I'm getting a bit backlogged in responding to several posts and especially some of the PMs I've received. We had guests here all last week, my partner's father was hospitalized last Thursday, and his father died this afternoon... yes, on Christmas day. So, I spent last week playing happy host, spent the weekend helping Tawse get ready for the trip to see his parents (which has been planned for a couple of months), and making sure he got to the airport on time Monday morning. Since 2 this afternoon, I've been making phone calls to my family and our friends, and sending emails to people whom I think should know. I don't have any personal grieving to do; I never met his father. But it's tearing me up that I'm not there with him when I think he needs me. I wanted to fly out there, but he said no, he will see me when he gets back. Please go easy on me if I've neglected a response to anyone who deserves one!