Apparently She Knew Nothing...

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You know you are wrong , dont you? LOL! YOU need to get your whattever in gear and get back into school That is what you need to be focussing on. Your "fine, upstanding friend" will wait for a while...
 

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Sorcerer said:
You're young, fuck your brains out. When you're ready to get serious, it'll hit you out of left field.

Yeah, at least, you are free. She is free. Both should do what they want to do.

Love in the millennium. Setting new trends in relationships. :smile:
 

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Many women say the same thing about their men as your ex said about you. They complain that they can't get to know a man if he refuses to make himself vulnerable. Men often have a level of emotional reserve that women don't. Why? Let me go out on a highly sexist limb here. If a woman lets herself be vulnerable, she often earns protection and comfort. If a man lets himself be vulnerable, he's attacked--in the schoolyard, in the pub, on the sporting field or shop floor. It's dangerous to be emotionally open in a man's world. Is it any wonder we hold back a little?
 

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headbang8 said:
If a man lets himself be vulnerable, he's attacked--in the schoolyard, in the pub, on the sporting field or shop floor. It's dangerous to be emotionally open in a man's world. Is it any wonder we hold back a little?

But, vulnerability can be an advantage positively. You don't really have to take it personally. Because you admit your vulnerabilities doesn't mean other men don't have them. Appearances are deceiving. Every man has vulnerabilities. No man is a superhero. :smile:
 

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Lex said:
I agree with what Sorceror said. Trust issues notwithstanding, people are much too complex and come with far too much personal history to be known in a few short months. Hell, from where I sit, learning more and more about a person over years of being together is a part of the rich fabric that underpins a relationship. If you know everything about someone in 2 months--where's the fun in the lifelong journey?

This is so true. The things that make peoploe interesting are what they are doing with their lives, what they want to become and how their lives unfold in front of your eyes. There certainly is no necessity to pull your entire psyche out of it's bag and lay it all on the table the first day. It is good to have a private life inside your skin. It doesn't mean that you are deceitful or sneaky.
Not only that, you didn't know everything about her. You didn't know she was a psychotic, overreactive flake, now did you?
 

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Wrat said:
It is good to have a private life inside your skin. It doesn't mean that you are deceitful or sneaky.
Not only that, you didn't know everything about her. You didn't know she was a psychotic, overreactive flake, now did you?

Well, they never really would've lasted anyway. Regardless of who didn't reveal or what. I think that she wanted to feel like they were on the same page. There isn't anything wrong with that. She wanted somebody committment-wise. She deserved to know.

People should know what kind of relationship they are in. Where it is going. If you aren't interested in communicating, let your date know. Be honest. Tell them from the get go.

 

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Great advice guys.

Well she was more focused on the long term, wanting me to 'provide' for her...etc etc. She couldn't just be happy with the right here and now, which was great on the good days, when she wasn't in a mood over the future.

Anyway, she text me last night saying she misses me and I text her back saying how can you miss me if you don't want to see me? She said "I do miss u but its confusing"

Anyway, that really doesn't matter because 'there's a lot of possible backstage Betties here tonight! It is anything BUT slim pickings'...hehe.

I've had many offers and I'm going to keep my French fille company on Monday (I'm back home this weekend). There is no bed in my room...that can only mean one thing ;)

So thanks guys. This chapter is over. Onto something new :)

And Naughty I am at Uni! Education resumes in September (Summer Holidays!)

:D
 

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Reminds me of fun I used to have a long time ago. Oh my God, did I really say that.
 

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it's been my experience that many people (women AND men) SAY they want a sensitive, caring, expressive partner, but when one exhibits those traits one is no longer considered "hot" or "manly."

now i hint at the nice stuff but affect a bit of an edge so they stay interested... ;)
 

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wowniceone said:
it's been my experience that many people (women AND men) SAY they want a sensitive, caring, expressive partner, but when one exhibits those traits one is no longer considered "hot" or "manly."

now i hint at the nice stuff but affect a bit of an edge so they stay interested... ;)

It is kinda like ordering fast food and the chefs keep getting the order all wrong. Or they get the order right and you decide you don't want it because you're finicky as hell.
Or you each can deal with each other--the always "work-in-progress"-type combos and let the cards get dealt the way they are. Like a deck of cards, humans always have a Joker card.