Guys I've been on this forum a few years and this is the first thread I have made. I say in my profile I'm 50% gay 50% straight but in all honesty I only get emotionally very attached to guys. I'm pretty much in the closet and only talk about my orientation to close friends.
I work on contract for large companies, anywhere from a few weeks to a year at each workplace. These companies tend to be male dominated such as telecoms or information technology. I'm a management consultant and I'm paid a good salary to do a professional job.
The problem is people start getting a 'gay vibe' and some individuals get very uncomfortable. I've talked about it to consultants from my own company who are close friends they understand but its a totally inappropriate impression to give to a client.
The scenario goes like this
- I start working on a new job
- I notice guys walking past my desk. No big deal. But after a few weeks I subconsciously look at some more than others, they start giving suspicious looks back
- I get embarrassed (or have social anxiety) and start "gaze aversion", trying not to look at them at all, which makes them a LOT more suspicious.
All this starts making me look like a total weirdo. Its not something I can really talk about to the people concerned because most of the time I dont even know them.
Anybody been in a similar situation & how do you handle it.
I work on contract for large companies, anywhere from a few weeks to a year at each workplace. These companies tend to be male dominated such as telecoms or information technology. I'm a management consultant and I'm paid a good salary to do a professional job.
The problem is people start getting a 'gay vibe' and some individuals get very uncomfortable. I've talked about it to consultants from my own company who are close friends they understand but its a totally inappropriate impression to give to a client.
The scenario goes like this
- I start working on a new job
- I notice guys walking past my desk. No big deal. But after a few weeks I subconsciously look at some more than others, they start giving suspicious looks back
- I get embarrassed (or have social anxiety) and start "gaze aversion", trying not to look at them at all, which makes them a LOT more suspicious.
All this starts making me look like a total weirdo. Its not something I can really talk about to the people concerned because most of the time I dont even know them.
Anybody been in a similar situation & how do you handle it.