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Hello folks
So I've finally taken the plunge and admitted to myself that I'm Bi. But because it's taken so long for me to accept it, I'm really wet behind the ears. Done stuff in the past, don't get me wrong - but not THAT much.
Now that I've come out of a long-term relationship with a woman, I'm more than ready to explore what's always been there. Looking forward to it, to be honest!
I've been toying around with Grindr, but it's probably not what I need just now. It's all a bit in-your-face for someone in my boat - I mean I'm liking the dick pics, I won't lie - but for someone trying to ease myself into it, it's probably just a bit too much, too soon.
What I'm wondering - apart from whether I should delete it and try something else - is how I should communicate where I'm at on there? I keep feeling the need to explain that I'm just easing myself in, and I guess I'm worried that people will expect more from me than I'm ready to give. I feel a bit selfish - I'd love to be blown, wanked off or rimmed (oh gawd, rimmed!), and I'm happy to top - but I've never properly sucked a cock before, and I'm still not sure I'd ever rim. I'd probably be shit at a blowjob, until I get a bit of practice - but the one time I had a cock thrust in my mouth, I just wasn't ready for it. I am now, but it'd have to be gentler, and I'd want to feel that it was okay to back out and just use my hand instead - but I'm just a bit worried about what the reaction would be.
To be fair, maybe I'm doing it wrong in that I'm finding myself explaining these things on Grindr - I'm not sure I'm doing it right!
Do I need to be up-front about the fact that I'm more a taker right now - but not because I'm selfish, but because I'm just easing myself in?
How do you guys react when you see "Bi" in, say, a Grindr profile - do you assume they're closeted, give them a bit of slack, or just swerve? I've killed a couple of conversations on there by trying to explain this - and I don't really know whether it's just the platform, or I'm talking too much, or someone in my boat just isn't going to give someone what they want.
Any thoughts? Sorry for the long-winded post.
So I've finally taken the plunge and admitted to myself that I'm Bi. But because it's taken so long for me to accept it, I'm really wet behind the ears. Done stuff in the past, don't get me wrong - but not THAT much.
Now that I've come out of a long-term relationship with a woman, I'm more than ready to explore what's always been there. Looking forward to it, to be honest!
I've been toying around with Grindr, but it's probably not what I need just now. It's all a bit in-your-face for someone in my boat - I mean I'm liking the dick pics, I won't lie - but for someone trying to ease myself into it, it's probably just a bit too much, too soon.
What I'm wondering - apart from whether I should delete it and try something else - is how I should communicate where I'm at on there? I keep feeling the need to explain that I'm just easing myself in, and I guess I'm worried that people will expect more from me than I'm ready to give. I feel a bit selfish - I'd love to be blown, wanked off or rimmed (oh gawd, rimmed!), and I'm happy to top - but I've never properly sucked a cock before, and I'm still not sure I'd ever rim. I'd probably be shit at a blowjob, until I get a bit of practice - but the one time I had a cock thrust in my mouth, I just wasn't ready for it. I am now, but it'd have to be gentler, and I'd want to feel that it was okay to back out and just use my hand instead - but I'm just a bit worried about what the reaction would be.
To be fair, maybe I'm doing it wrong in that I'm finding myself explaining these things on Grindr - I'm not sure I'm doing it right!
Do I need to be up-front about the fact that I'm more a taker right now - but not because I'm selfish, but because I'm just easing myself in?
How do you guys react when you see "Bi" in, say, a Grindr profile - do you assume they're closeted, give them a bit of slack, or just swerve? I've killed a couple of conversations on there by trying to explain this - and I don't really know whether it's just the platform, or I'm talking too much, or someone in my boat just isn't going to give someone what they want.
Any thoughts? Sorry for the long-winded post.