The problem I see too, is that 'average' nowadays has too big of a range. Most studies say the average is between 5'' and 7''. I hate the way that's written. That's a big range, so big really only starts pretty much @ 8''. When it comes to statistical analysis, you have to get teh average and anything above that is big and below that is 'small'. Just a pet peeve.If anything, that which is deemed an acceptable comment in the general media has been expanded to include digs based on size, so I wouldn't say attitudes have changed in a positive way in general.
What may have changed is the education of the individual who has learned the falsity of stereotyping and the truth about female preferences, i.e., that women are not nearly as impressed with big dicks as men are.
What I have noticed about discussions, whether here or on other forums, is the tendency to categorize everything into one of two sizes--big or small, with anything not considered big to be considered small, when in truth "average" covers probably 70% of all men, with average coming in at 5-6 inches. Average is neither big nor small. It is "average."
Whatever is not large is denigrated as small. This is probably just a continuation of the male obsession with penis-power, but for those of us who have been around the block, it is tiresome, if we give it any thought.
My male self-esteem in the sex department is based on my ability to give sexual pleasure to my wife. My dick is big enough to do the job, so that ends my concerns in the size department. Is it a humongous, throbbing baton of man-meat so large that she gasps when she sees it? Is it a monster cock? Uh, no. It's a handy and serviceable 6X6. As one of many tools in my arsenal of creativity it performs its function.
Instead of obsessing about my body I focus on what she wants/needs at the moment and what I can do to make it happen.
I was alive in the 80s and 90s and I don't recall the "common media" saying that size was everything. Examples?
My first guess, pussyfying of mankind.
We are in a society in western europe at least where the least valued person should be made to feel welcome sometimes to expense of the most valued member.
For example, climbing trees in school is no longer possible because the weaker children might hurt themselves or even worse die.
No feelings can ever be hurt, emotional or physical and I believe that that is what produces pussies, just not the right kind.
So talking about big things being better might make the people with no so big things feel insecure.
I was alive in the 80s and 90s and I don't recall the "common media" saying that size was everything. Examples?
Hahaha I swear I have seen people with posts on Facebook about that...Twitter I just use for updates of art releases otherwise I'd blow my fuckin brains out! Narcissism is defined by at least 5 of the 9 characteristics for true classification. The main thing about narcissists is not necessarily manipulation nor physical separation, it's more of an issue concerning greater self-worth and self-entitlement above the world around you whether you deserve it or not. Here is the classification from the American Psychiatric Association DSM:
Diagnostic criteria for 301.81 Narcissistic Personality Disorder
A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts, as indicated by five (or more) of the following:
(1) has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
(2) is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
(3) believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
(4) requires excessive admiration
(5) has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
(6) is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends
(7) lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others
(8) is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her
(9) shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
My first guess, pussyfying of mankind.
We are in a society in western europe at least where the least valued person should be made to feel welcome sometimes to expense of the most valued member.
For example, climbing trees in school is no longer possible because the weaker children might hurt themselves or even worse die.
No feelings can ever be hurt, emotional or physical and I believe that that is what produces pussies, just not the right kind.
So talking about big things being better might make the people with no so big things feel insecure.
Well I didn t noticed it either. I think it's just inverse.I was alive in the 80s and 90s and I don't recall the "common media" saying that size was everything. Examples?
As a youngster in the 80s and 90s, I remember that size was everything. common media would say as such, and in common society size was prized.
But now, it seems even in common media, people are saying that size is not everything. It is true, it's not, since not every woman likes a big cock (granted).
What is the cause of this change? is it because we are more open about sex, and people are just saying what they think more? Or are we now better educated about sex, and have realised that not everybody necessarily does give a shit about size?
Did You Meet Melchor Diaz?The size issue is and always a creation of the porn industry and eroticism in general. The idea is to create a fantasy to get everybody off. Though it was done differently the concept dates back to the cave dwellings. The idea was that larger equalled more potency and therefore more masculine or manly.
The reality is that the porn industry can with correct camera angles make an average sized guy look far larger than he really is.
The other thing that they do to create the fantasy is to look for physically small people in perfect proportion with larger than average genitalia. The same is true for both male and females.
Having been around a few in person, I can tell you that Jeff Stryker is no more than about 5'5" tall. I can tell you that Al Parker was about 5'6" tall, Melchor Diaz was probably no more than 5'4". "Lance" was about 5'5" tall and the list goes on.
The only ones of the older guard of above average height were Ed Wiley and Steve York. Ed was about 6" even, as was York. Ed truly was one who did qualify as Monster Cock. York was not far behind.