Are certain sexual skeletons a deal breaker?

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While I agree that the past should be left in the past since we only live for the present and the future. Many people cannot compartmentalize this area, so for them this could be a deal breaker.

Should we really judge them if they believe the past is a predictor or indicator of possible future events?

I don’t think so we just have to find someone who is more willing to let the past remain there.
 

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Can you imagine competing with that guy for who had the craziest sex story? That woman should count herself lucky. Her boyfriend frakking rules.
 

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Exactly, the man was CLEARLY getting another blowjob from a trans hooker. Once you've had one, you just can't stop... rotflmao :lmao: Personally, this woman is overreacting. Should we judge every little sexual thing that has happened in our partner's past? I think not. He had one blowjob, out of hundreds he has probably had. Why is it a big deal, because it was a transexual? Duh, that's exactly the issue. :rolleyes: Don't you know that any man who has intimate sexual contact with a trans is a closeted gay man in reality?!? :biggrin1: Sheesh, I thought everyone knew that. :tongue:
 

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Dealbreakers? Few and far between; the woman needs to get over it. One of my good friends is partially post op M2F (and a few F2M friends . . though obviously not into the surgery bit) and . . what's the big deal?

I like a bit of adventure and while there are a few things I'd probably turn down, I wouldn't criticize a partner for doing something in the past unless it was seriously messed up. As long as they stick to our agreed-upon points whilst we're together, I'm happy.
 

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If I'm happy with someone in the present I really can't think of anything from the past that would lead me to want to change my present situation ....

What if you found out your new man used to be a woman? Would you be repulsed? Horrified? Intrigued? Not care?
 

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If I'm happy with someone in the present I really can't think of anything from the past that would lead me to want to change my present situation ....
What if you found out your new man used to be a woman? Would you be repulsed? Horrified? Intrigued? Not care?

LOL! OK well I gotta hand it to you njqt33, because I hadn't thought of that one. :eek: I mean really, is such a thing even actually possible? :confused: Well Anne Coulter might know (no sorry I've got that back to front) :biggrin1:

Seriously I do know that this has been attempted and although I am too repulsed to investigate further, frankly I think it cannot be done satisfactorily ... :wink:

Personally this would be a dealbreaker for me. I would not be very intrigued but would be mortified, repulsed, and horrified, although my stiff upper lip and cool as a cucumber calm expression would not let him/her know. :cool:

Technically though I would like to believe that I could not be happy with someone in the present if they had had such an op in the past (but I'm sure that is just a question of semantics and pre-purchase road-testing :)) :tongue:

Of course I would have to ask in this unlikely scenario why a female would become a male and then become gay. :confused:

I seriously considered such a thing myself, and did indeed have that option, when I was 17, but decided it was better to not go that route .... and altho' I have known (socially) many such people at different stages and can sympathise, I still think that in the vast majority of cases it is uncalled for and contra-indicated ... (believe it or not some people might actually call me homophobic for daring to say that)

By contrast I have heard that a tiny but significant minority of straight men are entirely satisfied with their mtf spouses and as a potentially str8/bi/curious person I might not turn down such a proposition ...
 

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I wonder if this woman had posted that she discovered her husband was gay/bi only after marriage and was very upset about it but also posted that prior to marriage she'd heard of him getting wild with a Transvestite but told to dismiss it would anyone here have posted the same advice?