Are Dating And Relationships Toxic?

wallyj84

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I was going to make a thread asking if men or women are the "prize" in a relationship when I realized that question is inherently toxic.

This got me thinking. Are a lot of the assumptions, ideas and even goals of dating and relationships toxic? If so is dating and courtship inherently toxic? Should we find some new way of fulfilling our romantic, sexual and reproductive needs?

What do you guys think?
 

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i think you need to define what "toxic" is because everyone has their own idea of what is toxic to them. some are delusional about it and some are realistic about it.

for example: a 5'1" woman who is 200 lbs is not going to bag a man who is 6'0" and 190 lbs, generally speaking. are there men who are this tall that are into shorter, heavier women? of course, but that's the outlier. also, a women who is 5'10" and 125 lbs will never give the light of day to a guy who is 5'0" and 200 lbs, generally speaking. are there outlier women, of course.

my examples above are holding everything else constant. many people here will think what i just said is "toxic" because it triggers their emotional state. "how dare u say that a man or women of that stature will not be picked by someone" is a common reflex response to my examples when i'm only portraying the cold truth of real life.

we all have standards and our standards will always be "toxic" to someone out there. my advice here is to date as much as you can to learn what you like and don't like, don't jump into bed with your dates all willy-nilly, and as you grow and become more wiser, don't ever be afraid to say what you want or don't want from the get-go of any relationship.

i can elaborate more but there's not enough time or space here to do it.
 

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I was going to make a thread asking if men or women are the "prize" in a relationship when I realized that question is inherently toxic.

This got me thinking. Are a lot of the assumptions, ideas and even goals of dating and relationships toxic? If so is dating and courtship inherently toxic? Should we find some new way of fulfilling our romantic, sexual and reproductive needs?

What do you guys think?

My Little Old Lady Friend™ has had the full gamut of husbands, boyfriends and toy boys in her lifetime. She always had a very simple maxim for relationships but also life:

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All relationships are not sexual . Friendship / companionship are reasons and part of many relationships

Student / Teacher Parent / Child Platonic Friends Coworkers >>>>

Not to say that 2 or 3 people , who get together to bang one out, in a purely sexual manner, are not also in a relationship
 

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I dont think dating and such other relationships are inherently toxic...but I do think they often provide fertile venues for which toxicity to fester unchallenged, especially with things like courtship at play.
 

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Dating and relationships are only toxic when they involve people who are toxic.


Nothing is worse than clinging to a relationship with someone who has a toxic personality. It is precious time you will never get back and in the end it just makes you feel jaded about investing in another person emotionally.
 
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