Are dead lays usually bad relationship material outside the sack?

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  1. earllogjam

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    I remember reading a post from Spoiled Princess and Bbucko stating that a person who is a bad sex partner is usually an indication that he/she is bad relationship material from the get go - a sign to stay away.

    It is rather intriguing because it has been my experience that this is very true also.

    Selfish lovers are often turn out to be selfish pig headed partners. Needy in the sack, needy in real life. Romantic tender lovers tend to be conscientious partners.

    Can you usually can judge a persons temperment and tenderness by how they make love and is it a pretty acurate reflection of how they are going to be outside the sack?

    I realize this is very simplistic and there certainly are other factors that determine a successful relationship but it certainly would be interesting to see what other people's experiences have been.
     
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    I have a mild objection to the use of the word "dead". ;) I think you may be onto something, though. Poor communication skills follow a person everywhere, in and out of the bedroom, IME. The ones who are good in bed are usually fun to be around all the time.
     
  3. IntoxicatingToxin

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    I also agree. With all of it. I can tell from a first kiss whether or not a guy is worth my time or not.
     
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    I've experienced several permutations of possible combinations:

    * mediocre lays that were also poor relationship material (incompatible personalities).
    * great lays that were also poor relationship material (infidelity).
    * great lays that were mediocre relationship material (long distance lovers).
    * mediocre lays that were great relationship material (low sex drive).

    Conclusion: Need more test data :biggrin1:
     
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    May I change my answer? I like his better.
     
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    Dead guys are usually bad lays, yes. Oh, wait. That wasn't the question.

    From my own observations I would agree that inattentive and lazy lovers are equally inattentive and lazy partners. I would also be willing to say that people who are caring and attentive clothed are also caring and attentive lovers.

    What I wouldn't say follows is that skilled lovers are caring or attentive people outside of the bedroom. Great sex does not a great relationship make. (though it is a wonderful ingredient)
     
  7. Principessa

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    I agree. In retrospect a selfish lover isn't just selfish in bed. He is likely to quibble over who had the chicken ceasar salad as opposed to the salmon quiche as well. :rolleyes:
     
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    Absolutely.

    (There, did I say enough?!)

    But possibly some people might have different "sack" personalities. Person "A" might be an animal with one person, and fairly mild with another.
     
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    Well, then. We have a problem. I went back and disagreed with myself, so if you agree with what I said first then you're disagreeing with me. How dare you?!

    Wanna fight?
     
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    Well, is that the end of the world or an opportunity to teach ones who are lacking skill? The last I checked... no one gets these "good sex skills" without experience.

    Relationships are hard work.
     
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    That's been my experience.
     
  14. rob_just_rob

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    Usually?

    Sounds like you followed the link in my sig. :cool:
     
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