I guess the word fairy tale needs to be defined before you could argue the fact:
a : a story (as for children) involving fantastic forces and beings (as fairies, wizards, and goblins) —called also fairy story
b : a story in which improbable events lead to a happy ending
Fairy tale - Definition and More from the Free Merriam-Webster Dictionary
Before the definition of the genre of fantasy, many works that would now be classified as fantasy were termed "fairy tales", including Tolkien's The Hobbit, George Orwell's Animal Farm, and L. Frank Baum's The Wonderful Wizard of Oz.[21]
Fairy tale - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
That said, there are many examples of fairy tales where women are not seen in such a negative light:
In
Hansel and Gretel, it's Gretel who cleverly notices the witches trickery and pushes her into the oven, saving her and Hansel from death. Dorothy from the
Wizard of Oz brings together the main characters and helps free them from their personal obstacles through kindness and understanding. Greta, the protagonist in
The Snow Queen braves danger and risks death for the boy she loves even though all believe he's dead. A character in the story even states:
"I can give her no greater power than she has already," said the woman; "don't you see how strong that is?"
I'm not saying that every fairy tale is this way, and indeed many don't do feminism any favours but in just those three examples, it's a woman who was smart enough to see behind the lies, a woman who is kind enough to believe in others when no one else would, and a woman who is brave enough to fight for who she loved when everyone else had given up hope.